I dont know if I am exaggerating but I haven't seen my bf in about 4 days, not even on valentine's day. Then on friday he told me he wanted to see me but had to help his baby mother because she has no place to live anymore since her mother moved and ever since that call I still haven't heard from him. I am very upset because during those few days I was sick and text him and called him but no reply. I understand he is helping his bm but I feel he could have atleast called, but I guess he wants to get back with her. I just still feel he should have told me whta was going on and etc. Now I dont know what to do, I dont even want to see him or talk to him. I call him private and I just want to tell him I HATE HIM. But my friend told me I have to confront him, but I cant even stand the sight of him. On top of that I dont know what to say to him, anymroe. I just feel like this "relationship" was a lie. I feel so hurt and lost. I thought he really cared about me. I feel so stupid.....
2007-02-18 01:36:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the signs were there but I didnt want to see it. I think I would feel better if he would have been a man and told me how he felt instead of turning off his phone and not taking my calls or recieving my calls. the way I am feeling I just want to really hurt him, I HATE HIM now. for all the lies he told me. I didnt know he was a good actor
2007-02-18 01:38:22 · update #1
what should I do because oviously he doesn't care, he still havent called me back
2007-02-18 01:39:58 · update #2
Its hard to forget about him and move on because he claimed" to want a family with me, be with me. Now I am so hurt I dont even want to go out. I cant believe I am falling apart. If I go out all I do is thing about this bastard. I dont want to think about him anymore.
2007-02-18 01:52:44 · update #3
You are NOT stupid. He is too immature to tell you that it's over, and for him, it's been over for a while now. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to move on and forget about him.
2007-02-18 01:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lila 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, feel your pain. Truth is confrontation is not going to do anything but make a bad situation worse. I know you are hurt, but if you truly want nothing to do with him right now then leave it alone. If he had any feelings for you, he will call. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but he will call. If you get him on the phone right now and go off then you are "proving" the point he probably made to the bm about you being crazy or something like that. So let nature play its course...there was a reason he wasnt with the bm in the first place so you already know the grass aint greener on her side. Dont feel stupid be happy you didnt go through this much later down the line when you r more attached or even better that you r not becoming bm #2.
2007-02-18 09:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by MzLadee25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men don't like confrontations, especially when they know they are in the wrong. It's such a contradiction, because men are viewed as being the caretakers, and the strong, confident type.
I would have to say in your case, no answer is your answer. The guy is an asshole. And, really doesn't deserve one minute of your time. Don't give it to him. And, the fact that he has so much baggage, and isn't even kind enough to come and see you and explain things should be enough for you to know that he isn't good enough for you. Feel sorry for whoever he gets involved with. Keep busy, and don't ever call him again.
2007-02-18 09:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all should listen to the little voice in our heads. This person might not be open and honest with you. Love yourself enough to recognize the "warning signs" and move on. Hold your head high, keep your dignity and walk away being a better woman.
2007-02-18 09:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do exactly was he is doing. Move on. Don't call him anymore. If he calls you don't be rude, but don't go out of your way to talk to him. Go out with your friends and maybe hang out with the guys since he is obviously more interested in helping his ex.
2007-02-18 09:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way,way too young to be involved with someone who already has a kid and so much drama in his life. Move on and just have fun with your friends.
2007-02-18 09:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no how u feel because i kinda hav the same problem.....i dont think either u or me deserve this.in relationship u hav 2 talk and comfortable around each other.i dont get y he wont call u back but u dont deserve it....move on
2007-02-18 09:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a similar situation but with my girlfriend....and she was with "the girls" keep your head up. I'm going to talk to my girlfriend today and tell her flat out how i feel! We don't need this not me or you! We can both do better.
2007-02-18 09:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mike T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stick to your friends advice ignoring him is only going to build the tension inside of you. find out where he wold normally be and go there to meet and talk to him. pushing him away is going to hurt the relationship more than you think it will.
2007-02-18 09:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by binky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok....so now you know...move on with your life....forget all the drama and the confrontation etc....just stop all contact and move on...good luck
2007-02-18 09:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋