I'm in a pretty fked up situation. I'm a college freshman, and I have had a crush on this girl for about a month. We don't know each other too well. We have talked only a few times. In the 1st 2 weeks of the semester, she looked at me quite a lot. And I have found her very gorgeous since the first day of the class we are in. On Valentine's Day I gave her a small card because I was so worried about some other guy making a move. I was aware that what I did was very risky, considering that we don't know each other too well. However, she seemed quite pleased when I gave her the card. As a result, I gained some confidence. Now things have become quite awkward. We have the class on MWF, and we went to the library on Friday. When I was entering the library, she had been at the lounge. She seemed to be waiting for someone. I thought that was me. We entered the computer lab together, but we didn't really talk. She wasn't that friendly, and our conversation lasted like 5-6 seconds
2007-02-18 01:29:04 · 9 answers · asked by What Wtasdcvg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because I felt so awkward. I am so confused. I keep asking myself these questions: Did I scare her off? Does she have no interest in me whatsoever? Is she just playing hard to get? Is she just shy by nature? (by the way, she’s not very outgoing). Was she just having a bad day? Should I talk to her more often and make her eventually feel comfortable talking to me? These thoughts are driving me nuts, and I don’t know what to do. Should I back off for now? If no, what can I do to get to know her better? If yes, how should I go about that? I mean, if I suddenly act like I’ve completely lost interest in her, she’ll be thinking what the f. Damn. I wish I could explain to her why I gave her the freaking card. My card’s message is like, “You seem like a great person, and I would like to get to know you better,” so it was nothing romantic…
2007-02-18 01:29:13 · update #1
You really don't know her yet and she doesn't know you! Strike up a convesation next time you are in the same room. Put on your friendliest smile, talk about HER, ask questions. Slowly get to know her...and she will get to know you! If you get the sense that she isn't into you...walk away...no harm done!
2007-02-18 01:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by altes_jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have been expecting more from you that day in the library. Maybe she thought the two of you would start talking more and she was leaving that up to you. Sometimes when people get nervous they tend to show it in a negative manner. It doesn't mean she was not wanting to talk with you or that you scared her off. She's probably thinking that you aren't as interested in her as she first thought after receiving her card. She's probably feeling hurt and embarrassed. Next time you see her try to psych yourself up. Smile a lot and ask her to have lunch with you. If she says no (with out a good reason) then lay off a while. If she says yes then this could be the start of something wonderful. It would make a great story to tell the grandkids in years to come. Good luck and God luck!
2007-02-18 09:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask her out, nothing fancy, just a bite to eat or something.
If she says no, leave the invitation open to maybe some other time if she changes her mind and just say hi to her when you see her, be friendly and ask her innocent questions about her day and stuff.
If you come on too strong, and she is not interested, all you will do it alienate her.
she got the card, she knows you like her, she may just be waiting for you to ask.
I wouldn't read to much into the library thing, could have been anything.
2007-02-18 09:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had been in your situation too and I understand how difficult it is and I suspect that it's your first time to feel that way.
Girls of her age are probably easier to get eased with somebody who carries with him some confidence to talk with ease and have sense of humor.
The girl might be in the situation not different to yours that's why she acts that way.
Try to make friend with her.
You can approach her the next time you saw her and try to talk to her in a casual manner. Try to catch some moments when you can inject some witty "joke" or anything that could make her feel at ease. Try to disregard what you could feel if things go wrong because it being afraid in the first place could be your worst enemy. Just be prepared and be open-minded on what could be her reactions. Think positive. Think that you are doing the best step to make you go back on the right track.
It is also important that you know calendar days that matter to her and show her that you think about it by giving her a gift or something. =)
2007-02-18 09:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by ImMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want an answer?
Next time you see her at the library say that you're pretty tired, ask her if she wants to go get a coffee for a few minutes...
She can only say yes or not, and either way you'll have your answer...
2007-02-18 09:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah pretty complicated situation i must say... But i think you just have to find confidence to talk to her, even if it's something very simple. You have to start with something. :)
2007-02-18 09:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ramona A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just concentrate on your studies. Romance will find it`s own way. Let her make a move or forget about it.
2007-02-18 09:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by bill a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is on the shy side. Ask her how her day is going & try to get to know her & let her know you.
2007-02-18 09:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Blondiee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save yourself alot of headaches and ask her if she'd be interested in hanging out together sometime.keep me posted please.
2007-02-18 09:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by walker4907 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋