i recently me this guy. he loves me and i love him too*
though we live in the different country, he loves me enough to have arranged my plane ticket and invite me to come see him.
he told me i'm his ideal and i also feel the same way about him.
what bugs me is the presence of his ex-wife.
they divorced about 2 years ago.
he told me the reason were because they both were too immature at that time, but also, his wife got cancer and she didn't wanted to be a burden to him with all the cares and medical costs and so on, so she filed divorce.
after the divorce, she has changed her hospital and he can't find her anymore. her family doesn't want to contact him because he's a foreigner and were against their marriage in the first place.
he tells me that he's totally over her.
he's even going to move to U.S in few months.
i know i shouldn't be suspecting this but does he love me to get over her?
how can i know that he truely loves me?
2007-02-18 01:27:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust you instinct. if a guy really loves you there are always the little hints and signs that they give. Yeah he prob feels sorry about his ex-wife, but life goes on, and hes prob trying to move on. Love brings pain and theres no way of truly finding out unless you allow him to, but be honest with him.
2007-02-18 01:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell, over time his actions will tell his love for you. His ex wife's presence is unknown so you shouldn't worry about it. You love your parents but you love him differently, same with him I'm sure. He may still hold her in his heart and grieving for her right now because she does have cancer, I would if I had an ex wife that did have cancer. At least it shows he has a heart. I would continue on and if he is loving you to get over her then it will come out. Good luck.
2007-02-18 09:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he says he loves you. Now lets see if he behaves like he loves you. When he gets here, you will have to start your relationship. all over. It will be different., and You will be face to face alot and you will each have a better chance of getting to know one another. There is no rush, take your time, see if the two of you are compatable now that you will be interacting together personally. I don't think he is using you in any way. You do not have to do anything you do not want to do, so just enjoy each others company and see where it goes. Its exciting for you to be able to finally get your arms around him. Look forward to something that could turn out to be very special. All my best to you.
2007-02-18 09:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he still has feelings over her and he might still need someone to talk to maybe you should take the trip but don't spend the night in house or anything! He probally does love you if he is buying you a plane ticket WOW
2007-02-18 09:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by allycatnb10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any man that would leave his partner while she was ill or sick, perhaps even dying is no man in my mind. To Marry a person is to commit through sickness and in health. You should give your head a serious shake and think about the circumstances. Don't be a fool and don't be that girl that write another question years from now asking us, why did he leave me?
2007-02-18 09:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by GoodWillHunt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you just recently met him it seems a little soon for love. The fact that he has gotten past his exwife and is supposedly ready to move on has nothing to do with you.
2007-02-18 09:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's trying to use you. be sure your your not being scammed, like have him send you a picture blowing you a kiss
there is alot of overseas romance scams going on right now.
does his picture look professionally taken? did he fall in love with you very quickly, without knowing that much about you? check into this things first, there's alot of evil out there. check this site first.
2007-02-18 09:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by johnnyleadguitar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always believe in everyone's love! Since his ex-wife is dying, that's why he's probably spending time with her. She is dying! They're probably still friends, but he said that he loves you! believe him and tell him how you feel.
2007-02-18 10:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by AnswerGal6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the benefit of the doubt, I'm sure your intelligent enough to know what you want and how he feels for you... honestly, no matter what advice and tips we give you, I'm pretty sure enough you wouldn't listen, cause you said so yourself "you love the guy", best advice follow your instinct and do what you think is right cause life is short and live to your fullest...
2007-02-18 09:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so hung up on his ex from 2 years ago....doesn't sound like they even have any contact with each other.....focus on him and yourself and leave her out of it....I think there must be something else going on in your mind...good luck
2007-02-18 09:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋