is it a good idea?

Question

ive recently been thinking about trying to find my dad,and i have discussed this idea with my best friend but she said that its not such a good idea,because if my dad wanted to know where i am he would of tryed to get in contact with me,but he might of tryed to get in contact with me before im not so sure about it.im 15 and i want to know who my dad is,what hes like,do i have any more brothers or sisters.ive asked my mum about his and she said that she had tried to find him before and there was no succsess.is this such a good idea trying to find my dad? please give me your opinion and do you know any webites that i could use? thanks

Answer 1

i think you should go look for your long lost father don't let no one can tell you what to do if you want to find your dad you go and find him

Answer 2

Well if you feel like you need to find him, then find him. But you have to be prepared to find out the truth and sometimes the truth is bad, he could be in jail, or he could be on drugs or maybe he is a great guy and everyone loves him, just be prepared to find him and his faults as well as his good points too. Try getting all the information that you need, his full name, date of birth, the last city he lived in, where he worked and does he still work there, did he go back to school and study what and is he in a job after that, you can always call the none emergecy number for the police and ask them if they have a service that you pay an amount to have them look up his drivers license. Does he have parents and brothers and sisters look them up in the phone book. Take care Heather

Answer 3

i say yes its a good idea! i don't know my dad never met him seen a photo nothing. he was a violent man. he left when i was 1 I'm now 21 with two kids. because he was a very violent man i have not wanted anything to do with him.
i hope you find your dad you have a right to do what you want to do. i hope you find him and things go well. but be care full Hun. let your mum that you are going to find him and you need her to stand by this decision for you. hope all goes well let us all know if you find him....

Answer 4

i was in the same boat as you. i did a google search on the electrol roll system to find people i cant remember what the site was called but you can search through marriage records police records etc. i had to pay £15 but i did a name search at it came up with 2 people for the name so i went and visited both people and one turned out to be my grandad. he got in contact with my dad for me but he didnt want to know. i hadnt seen him for 19 years. i still havent met him face to face but im going to go down and meet him to ask him a few questions. just don't get your hopes up, look for him with an open mind. good luck.

Answer 5

As he might not now where you are ,if you want to meet your father than go for it . Than you can have cloches,or get to know him.There are web sites, using his name & last know city.Keep looking If in USA try social security number, miltary ect. Contact his family ??Last job maybe someone there knows.If you have some money private investagator.Best of luck

Answer 6

i am not trying to put you off BUT i met my real dad after 36 years...i searched for him from the age of 16 and finally found him on my 36th birthday, it was great at first, i met my new family and things were good...then all of a sudden he moved house without telling me, it was down to his wife who didn't approve of me seeing him so that proved to me that he chose her over his own daughter, i have not seen him for 4 years now and i miss him terribly and i have now stopped searching...he was a lovely man, but his wife was a cow, she hated the fact that he had another daughter even though she knew about me....you can try and find him if you want to, but take off the rose tinted glasses first, he has to accept you first, he may not want to be found so prepare yourself for the inevitable...good luck with your search and i hope it works out well for you..sometimes things are not what they seem....so prepare yourself for anything that comes your way

Answer 7

Always follow your heart,you can only try,but prepare for heart aches along the way.It could take a long time,but well worth it,be lucky in all you do.Best of luck.

Answer 8

if your mom really doesn't mind, only you know whats in you heart and how much you really want to find him. it's great if you do. just remember you must be opened to what you may find, good or bad and don't be judgmental till you have all the facts first. good luck i hope you find what your looking for. start with the web.

Answer 9

yes...if you want to get to know your Dad, you should try to find him. Your Mom and you should do this together. Understand, though....if you find him, things might turn out great, or they might turn out sad. Be prepared for that.