My friends & family have not yet met her, but if we start dating they will. When they do I know they will be very judgemental of her because she is overweight and I'm a guy who usually only dates small, petite women (who are always very attractive). I know that they will never accept her because of her weight problem, no matter what kind of ultimatum or explanation I offer. I was thinking of running away with her to avoid but I don't want to abandon my friends & family- and it's inevitable if we're in a serious relationship they'll eventually cross paths. I don't want to give her a lame excuse and break our relationship up, and I can't explain to her my concern either. I really don't know what to do, so I'm asking, do i discontinue seeing her, or how do I solve this issue?
2007-02-18 00:48:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep dating her.... dont tell ur family n friends about her until u r sure that ur in a serious relatiohship... once u r assured of ur status.... ucan let ur family know tht she is slightly over weight beforehand so they r not shocked by seeing her
2007-02-18 01:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 01:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
If you truly love this women, then what do you care what any of them think.
Beauty is in the eye's of the beholder.
Don't ever, never be ashamed of that fact alone.
Maybe you are being just a little to judgemental yourself, about friends & families thinking.
Chance it, if they love and except you for just you then they will over look the weight issue. And see possibly see why you love her so much.
Running away never solved anything. Stand tall and never be ashamed of true love.
Then after all that said and done- Because you love her help her to lose the weight or except her for what or who you fell in love with.
If she is comfortable with being a large size then leave it alone.
UNTIL she ask you for help on the weight issue.
2007-02-18 01:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating doesn't mean that u're gonna start going out with her and have a very long relationship with her. Just get to know her and see if she's what u want in a gf and vice versa with her and what she thinks of u. Then think whether u like her so much so that u'd introduce her to ur family and friends.
Why does it matter to them if she's overweight? Why are they being so judgemental if u're ok with it? Does it really matter to u what they think about her? I don't think she is the one with a problem (as u said about her weight) I think it's ur mates and family who have the real problem in not seeing beyond her weight.
Atm though i think u're thinking too much into it and just need to get to know her a little better before u think of eloping with her! Lol.
2007-02-18 00:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whats up with the change in the type of women you date? But if you love her don't let her go there are only a few women that we actually will love and that is what you need to hang on to. She will always want more and wonder why she didnt get to meet your parents..Talk to your family and friends tell them about and and if your in love make sure you tell them that too and then let them know about her weight issue and tell them not to be assholes and to be nice!!-Good Luck & Hope this helps!
JJ
2007-02-18 00:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you like someone, weight shouldn't be a problem... if your friends and family see that you don't care and that you are happy, they'll let you be...and who knows? may be they'll be happy for you. the only time problems arise is when you let everyone know you care what they think about you....when you let yourself be dependant on their opinions and decisions.. everyone has their own opinions...and unfortunately, not everyone will side with you...they may even be cruel to your girl...you have to learn how to be your own man and not to let judgements get you...if you can't, at least show everyone you don't care (even when you do).. when you show people that this is what you want, and you're going for it...they'll eventually back off and understand that 'to each to his own'...and there aint nothin they can do about it.
not to worry ^_^ things will work out... i'm positive!
2007-02-18 00:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by pokerface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find ur question very strange.why does ur parents like you date only small petite girls?why are they judgemental about the weight of your dates?you are living in a strange family mate.talk to them honestly that size zero is not important in a functional relationship!good luck!
2007-02-18 00:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't break up with her. we are all human and have the same feelings even if we are thin or heavy. It is what is in our hearts that count not family, not friends, you need to do what you think is right for you and the lady. the sweetest people I have found are the not so "pretty" ones. go with the flow and who cares!
2007-02-18 00:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i like of this question is your name...smooth operator, like that Sade song...
I hate "judgemental" situations.
I don't know what to say, it must be hard to choose btwn the girl you love and your friends and family.
Why are we like that right?... Why we just "mark" people because of their appareance, why is that for ?. Why are so Blind to see the real "us"?.
Pobre muchacha ....
I have to go to work "sunday"... but, if i have time ... i'll think of your situation and i'll let you know if i might be helpfull, ok. Later...Bye..
2007-02-18 01:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by NA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeese...you are in a relationship, which should mean you have feelings for this person...your family and friends do not have to live with or date this person...you do.
If the love is there what does it matter what family or friends think???
what matters is how you two feel towards each other as long as you are not hurting anyone with your relatioship.
would you rather hurt her????
be cool...
2007-02-18 00:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋