I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. He says he would not cheat on me. He also says he will not leave me. so what shall I do
please help me
2007-02-18 00:43:19 · 11 answers · asked by Megan H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think my bf is cheating on me. He has told me that he would never leave me. He also said that he would never cheat on me either. But someting deep down inside me is saying that he is cheating so I dont know weater to listen to what is telling me that he is cheating or to listen to what he is saying. So I dont know. I am only 15 and my bf is 16 I think I am just being stupid and dumb with falling in love with him so I need help. Please someone help me.
sincerly yours,
Very stupid and dumd
2007-02-18 04:37:36 · update #1
oh lol gurl you sound like you feeling insecure. :(
i mean why you think he cheating on you hun? if you have solid proof..then ditch the man. just remember your worth more then any woman he's cheating with. get yourself someone who will love you, for you..and not feel the need to disrespect you like that.
and for him sayin he aint gon cheat on you..men talk ish like that all the time..like i said if you have proof..then he's obviously tryna cover up by sayin that to you.
if you dont have solid proof..and this is just some feeling you having..then let it go..go see someone about why you feeling like this. maybe talk it through with him. but obviously something has happened to make you feel like this. relationships are built on trust if you dont have that..then you have nothing. work on it if you think he's worth fighting for.
good luck ma..i hope you make the right decision..and if you want to talk to someone externally..you know i'm here.
~1~
2007-02-18 00:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by YA RLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him!
Many people do not understand the nature of cheating within a relationship. Although there may be two sides to the story, unfaithfulness is not acceptable and is emotionally harmful to the other spouse.
The person who cheats doesn’t easily fit into a single mold. There are those who will cheat once, feel badly about it, and never repeat their mistake. Some will continue the cheating pattern again and again until they are caught. Others make a lifestyle out of being unfaithful. If you have a need to know just how to handle a cheating partner, you must first decide how likely it is that they will repeat the same behavior over again. Then you have to think about whether you trust them enough to take their word for it, when they say they are 'sorry'.
Do you know them well?Consider the sincerity of the person who betrayed you when they ask for reconciliation. You cannot go to them; they have to come to you. Once they do, you have to be sure it will not happen again. Unless you know your partner very well and can account for their actions, you will probably not be able to reassure yourself that it was a one-time event. If you can get past all that, move the spotlight onto yourself.
2007-02-18 08:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if he's cheating. Duh.
Watch for the signs. Don't follow him or nag him or act suspicious, but keep your wits about and pick up on details. Don't be afraid to ask a friend (who you can trust) to help you out.
Find out what the signs for a cheating bf is (especially urs, if something is different) then focus discreetly on them.
If he IS cheating on you leave him asap girl. Once a cheater, always one.
If he isn't, be extra nice to him ;) If ur caught looking up on him he might dump you after all or just be very hurt
2007-02-18 08:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you do not need to put up with this, your worth more than that!! I would like to know what things caused you to think he was cheating... I think you and your friend should follow him in another car or something ect. and then see if he goes where he tells you, he is going and if not hes lieing to you and you shouldnt even have to put up with that!! Men always deny, deny, deny until they are caught in the act! -Good Luck, hope this helps!!
JJ
2007-02-18 08:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have proof that he cheats? every guy would tell their girlfriends that he will be a one woman man and they will be forever. as an advice, please don't fall on that line. when your're young, you tends to expirement on something new. so, everyday is a big challenge. don't take your bf seriously. i have done that before so i know every guys thinking. good luck girl . . . . .
2007-02-18 08:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by capricorn 6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont accuse it thats the worse you an come striagt out and just ASK and the whole thing bout "ill never leave you " are words you cant keep that kinda deal.
good liuck hunny
and if he is you deserve alot better
2007-02-18 08:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all make sure your just not over reacting look at your sources if they are reliable tell him its over just because he says he wont doesnt mean that he hasnt trust me its better you do the walking now than 10 years down the road
2007-02-18 08:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't belive him. If you dump him there is no blame on you because if you think he is cheating then he is hiding something from you anyway.
2007-02-18 08:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by writer9393 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him --- if there is no trust there is no relationship --- also if you think he is cheating --- even if he is not now he will later --- and say "well i may as well as you thought i was" --- its a self fulfilling prophecy ---- best wishes to you both
2007-02-18 08:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have proof, or just suspician? I'd play spy and see if you can catch him in the act.
2007-02-18 08:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by nurselaura2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋