I am 35 and feel like I am spending all the rest of my young life taking care of my grandma. SHe is like a mother to me and her "boys" would have stuck her in a nursing home. I love her dearly but now I have a daughter and being stick at home all the time and being tied down and not free to some and go effects more than just my husband and I Now.
2007-02-17 23:02:33 · 4 answers · asked by jeanette t 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Does she have any old friends who are in nursing homes, or do you have any friends with relatives in nursing homes, because it's good to take the old relatives to visit people who are already in homes so they can chat about it and then it isn't such a shock.
We took Dad round to visit some friends who have moved to different though admittedly top-end retirement villages recently, he's not ready to leave his home yet but the time may come and he's seen that they have companionship and fun as well as carers...try to make it partly her decision if you can and if she's mentally able.
It's always difficult but it sounds like you've been taking good care of her for a long time and it's becoming too much for you, Your Gran may need professional care and you need a life of your own.
2007-02-17 23:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by CHEESUS GROYST 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a good place and you've discussed it with her and she's been there then I don't think it's bad at all. She might be happier in an assisted living place or retirement home. You don't state her illness or condition so it's hard to say where she would end up. However, you also might not have the authority to place her there given that she has 'boys' who probably need to make this approve of this. You could also consider visiting nurses (strangely they can cost less than a nursing home proper). Just investigate your heart, if you feel that you are not causing her or yourself greater suffering then you know the answer. Just keep her informed and if she can, let her choose her own place. Many, many blessings to you.
2007-02-18 07:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, let your husband and you put yourself in her position.
When you grow old, would you want to spend the last years of life being with the family you created or being in a nursing home?
I know it's a tough decision. Sorry for this but put yourself in her shoes.
If she is medically incapable(alzheimers, parkinsons), she may have to go to a home. But if she just needs someone to help her with medication or needs someone to watch her. Why dont you hire a nurse assistant or home care help. they make about 9 dollars and hour and you can hire them for a few hours a week while you go out and do your own thing.
2007-02-18 07:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your grandmother needs alot of care, put her where she can be taken care of.
2007-02-18 07:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by wizzygirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋