2007-02-17 22:33:08 · 20 answers · asked by lucy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well as a kid growing up BOTH my parents worked TWO jobs each. They did this so ALL SIX of the kids could have a good life. NO they were not rich by any means of the word. We had clothes on our backs they owned their own home and we lived in the country. Since I was the youngest of three boys I got ALL the hand me down clothes. IT was VERY RARE if I got anything new. Did I suffer? NO. And I think my parents for what they did give me.
2007-02-17 22:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the mother is able to stay home with there children, i think it is a very good thing. ( At least until the children are school aged) then, it is ok to get a job. I think if the parents can make it ok without the children suffering, then i think it is an important thing for the mother to stay home.
Especially if you have a newborn- You DO NOT want to put it in the hands of daycare workers. Or at least i wouldnt. I would want it right with me so that i know that it is getting the proper care, proper feedings, and a good nap. You never know whats going on in a daycare. And to me, when you are a stay at home mom, you can teach your kids so much because there isnt 20 kids in a room. You can have one on one time with your baby (s) and know that they are getting everything they need.
So, all in all, if you and your husband are finacially stable, and able then i would strongly suggest it. It would be the best desicion that you have ever made. But, if you just cant afford it and your child has to have someone else keep it, i recommend seeing if a family member would do it, and make sure you offer them pay.!!!
2007-02-18 09:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mandi R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The possibility of suffering is far greater if both parents work, but it isn't a given. Parents have to be on their A game to pull it off and not lose the kids to premature independence and a lack of need for you. Fortunate for me, my wife has the luxury of staying home and teaching the kids her language, while I work so close to our home that I can walk home for lunches and spend more quality time with my sons than most normally can. I hope the best for you and your kids.
2007-02-22 03:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Randall A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is that a parent be home when the children are home. One parent can work part-time while the kids are in school or the family can make financial sacrifices for the sake of the children's well-being.
What good is the big house, the new car, fancy furniture, wide-screen TV, etc. if you aren't there raising your most valuable possession YOUR CHILDREN?
2007-02-18 08:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not always! but there are alot of variables to this question. Do you mean if both parents work full-time or long hours. If this is what you mean then yes i do feel that the children would probably miss out on parenting unless they were being cared for by other family/grandparents that genuinely loved them.
2007-02-18 06:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, I think so. Once they get into school I think both parents should work though- no reason not to.
There's NO WAY that I would have dropped off my newborn into daycare! They mostly have job hopping high school dropouts that work there and I certainly don't want them caring for my children! My little girl is 3 now and I work part time in the evenings when her father is available to watch her.
2007-02-18 09:16:29 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it depends on the situation, but in general, I believe it helps the child grow up in "the real world". It shows them that you really do have to work and make sacrifices in life, in order to get the things you want and need. For me, my parents got a lot of respect from me for them going to work every day, not ever calling in sick, doing what had to be done even though it sucked sometimes.
2007-02-18 07:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would have to answer NO to this question.
It takes a village to raise a child, not just the parents.
Having a network of reliable friends,family, and care givers, will result in a well rounded child. Only if the relationship between the parents and the child are lacking in quality time, no matter how little the time may be, would a child suffer.
2007-02-18 06:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by taffneygreen 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no they really don't! as long as the babysitter/caretaker is attentive too they will still thrive and be happy little buggers! In my situation my son was getting seperation anxiety because my mother in law was watching my son and she is not a good babysitter (i found out she often left him in care of her 11 year old daughter for hours while she went shopping) So my husband and I worked out our work schedules so that he works mornings, and I work overnight so while he's working i have baby all day, and he stays home all night (while baby is mostly sleeping) watching him. Our son has been so much happier! but it depends on your caretaker if you both work... and when you are with the children, spend quality time with them so you still bond and there are no problems whatsoever! besides, these days, not many families can afford to only have one working adult in the home...
2007-02-18 06:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no. unless one of the parents is making a six figure sallary, both need to work to support the children. It would be worse for the children to live in poverty.
2007-02-18 15:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋