hey well me and this guy have jus started a long distance relationship a few weeks ago although ive known him for quite a while, we were going fine emailing texting chatting on the phone etc. then last week he told me he had decided to get rid of the internet for a while which was a shame as we chatted on msn every day but i didnt see a problem with this, since then i havnt heard from him in a week, and im hearing all sorts of rumours from some of his friends that are girls saying im not his type etc,although he never said this to me, should i text/ring him to see whats going on or just notcontact him again? i really liked him and thought we had something good but now am not so sure has any 1 else been in a similar situation? please help x
2007-02-17 21:55:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is trying to let you down gently. This may not be what you want to hear, but thats how it sounds.
2007-02-17 21:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by sambucaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this to you Lisa but it sounds like he's doing a standard guy routine : being distant in the hope you'll get fed up with him, ask him for answers, tell you the opposite of what he knows you need to hear, you get frustrated then either start a row which leads to a break-up or just get fed up with him and dump him.It's a weak guys way of getting off the hook when he's changed his mind about a relationship.If he was well in to you there could be a thousand girls, friends or whoever telling him you weren't his type and it wouldn't matter.Sorry to have to tell you that but it's my gut feeling that's what he's up to. There are lot's of guys out there who are good, got their heads together and know how to handle relationships so maybe you should let this guy go so you're open to meeting one of them.Good Luck Lisa,whatever you decide to do.
2007-02-17 22:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Evelyn M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here is a word of advice!
NEVER EVER LISTEN TO A GUY'S GIRL MATES!
They are awful! They get jealous! Not of your relationship with him as such, but just that you'll be gettin more of his time then they will. I always find girl mates of guys the worst to deal with. They take a lot to impress and will purposly say things to put you or him off!
Contact him and ask him how he is etc. He'll either make excuses not to talk... and that means he might not be interested... or if he's chatty and friendly then you have nothing to worry about!!!
2007-02-21 07:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY SIS IN LAW IS GOIN THROUGH THE SIMILAR THING AT THE MO SHE MET SOMEONE HE LIVES A WHILE AWAY FROM HER HE HAS BEEN TO SEE AND STOP ON A FEW OCCASIONS BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN HE WENT ONE DAY AND HE HAS NT PHONED OR TEXT OR NO THIN SOMEONE OFF THE COMPUTER SAID TO HER HE HAS A HABIT OF DOIN THIS TO GIRLS IM REALLY SORRY BUT IF I WAS U I WOULD NOT EVEN BOTHER I WOULD FIND SOMEONE ELSE I KNOW IT SOUNDS HARSH BUT SOME MEN R TOTAL W@@@@@, NOT ALL MEN JUST A FEW THAT KNOWS HOW TO HURT WOMEN
2007-02-17 22:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by washerwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a long distance relationship for about 2 years and then we moved in together. when we were together and started seeing each other, we wrote, rang each other and did everything we could to keep in touch so if you have not heard anything it does not look good but do not jump to conclusions until you hear it from him as for the rumours ignore them until you have solid evidence (he has told you) that he does not want to be with you. all i can say is if someone whats to be with you they will do everything possible to be with you but he could have a good reason for not getting in touch don't listen to no one else until you get it from the horse's mouth. good luck love.
2007-02-24 02:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You need to send this guy a text and tell him that you need to know what is happening no matter what hes trying to do. Be kind to him but expect the worse. Dont fall for any excuse that you get a bad feeling about and most of all carry on smiling. its his loss
2007-02-25 19:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by haha_islaughing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore his friends, they have nothing to with you and him, they may simply be under the impression they are helping him, when in fact i can tell you he likely doesnt want their help
as a guy ive gotten this before, sometimes life gets in the way and slows down something great, but it doesnt necessarily end it
i suggest you drop him a sweet text, maybe let him know youre thinking about him or miss him. we love that. The longer you 2 dont speak the more its going to bother you and him... he's likely just as worried and hesitant about your sudden lack of communication.
2007-02-17 22:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he´s just trying to gather himself.....
I´ve had tat experience before and.... I still don´t know what´s going on but I know we care for each other....
you should ask him what does he feel and why he hasn´t called you. Be cool, a week for a long distance relationship is nothing...when you don´t listen from him in two months, then worry about it.
2007-02-25 17:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by cutechick222200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you that he does not like you. I might get rid of my Internet next month also but i would find a way to contact someone special.
2007-02-17 22:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my opinion is to phone him and don't care for peopl's talkinig thats there jop so phone him and nicely and ask him about what you heard and try to tell him that you will not be sad if he told you the truth and you can still friends but you want him to tell you what he wants and whatever happened you can be friends but take it from me don't listen to any one and you have the right to talk to him and ask him whatever you want wish you luck
2007-02-17 23:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by naja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋