reaction of parent?

Question

When you told your parents or family members you were pregnant what were their answer or their re-action? How many months were you when you told them? Do you think your pregnancy or your child brought you and your family closer together or not?

Answer 1

yes i thnk it gets u closer, it was easy to explain my mom but my inlaws didnt believe that i was pregnant, as it could not be seen till 6 months.. specially it was very difficult to explain in my office to my boss for the leave, he thought i was joking.. i was really embrassed

Answer 2

i was exactly 5 weeks when i told my mother i was pregnant (the very day i found out) and i told my mother in law too (we were 17 when this all went down). the reactions were as follows:

motherinlaw: "i think you two are too young, and should have been more responsible, but Congratulations!!!" and then gave us both hugs and rubbed my tummy and laughed. She then commenced on the gift giving for the baby as it was her first grandchild.

my mom: "WHAT? HOW COULD YOU DO SUCH A THING! I EXPECTED SO MUCH MORE OUT OF YOU!! (Her first grandchild was born only 1 week earlier exactly) WHY WOULD YOU LIE TO ME! (she used to ask if i was having sex and i would always tell her no, i wouldn't do that, i'm too responsible...lol) I AM SO DISAPPOINTED IN YOU! YOU WERE MY GOOD CHILD! etc. this went on for 2 straight hours i kid you not. and that was just on the phone, and i got "ugly looks" and remarks from her for the next 2 weeks.

did it bring us closer? My motherin law- yes, we would go baby shopping alot and she would always stop by and bring me gifts and food.
My mom: after the whole fighting thing, she accepted it and then started being excited for her 2nd grandbaby and would buy things for the baby, and we started talking alot more about everything in a more grown up way and we are closer friends, plus after having a baby you have more respect for your own parents and she likes that.

All in all- it is definitely worth getting yelled at if that be the case for having the support of your family and having someone to be excited about your pregnancy with rather than always be worried about "when should i tell them, what will they do, what if i start to show, etc. So go and tell them and hope for the best! but even if they are angry at first, they will come around and be excited and supportive of you because, after all, they do love you. you are still thier baby!!

Answer 3

My mother, sister & best friend (at the time) did not enjoy the experience of having a child, so saw it as a negative experience. When i got pregnant the first time i was belittled & told i was unrealistic & silly for going ahead with the pregnancy but was offered no end of support if i decided to terminate. By the second pregnancy (after thoroughly enjoying my first child) they thought i was being foolish again but by the third they were all there for me giving me the support i needed (& finally got). I think perhaps they realised their own bitterness & came to believe that perhaps being a parent is enjoyable for some! As for breastfeeding - welllllllllllllllll! because i have breastfed all my kids well into toddlerhood - that they will never understand or comprehend but that's ok because some old ideas will just never change. At the end of the day my family love me & i love them so that's all that really matters.

Answer 4

We didn't tell either of our parents until my wife was past the 1st trimester. We had 2 miscarriages in the past and we told them as soon as we found out - dissapointment all around. And it's tough when people keep asking about the baby when they do not know you had lost it.

I'd suggest wait until at least 3 to 4 months preg. and then share the news. The pregnancy will be more stable. As far as brining the family together, as long as there is already a firm bond there, nothing will untie the ties stronger than a child.

Answer 5

I had been overseas with the military for a year and had only been back with my husband for about two and a half months. We'd been married a (couple weeks over a) year when I got back. My mom already had a grandchild (my younger sister had a boy), so she wasn't as excited as I really hoped she'd be. She was happy, of course, but I'd always felt she'd be all excited, but she wasn't like that. So kind of disappointing. Then again, she's the one who told me to get the pregnancy test from the store, because I'd been sick to my stomach and had a doctor's appointment, but she just mentioned it and my husband warily bought the test. You've never seen thrilled until you're worried about giving your husband news that you think he'll be unsure about, and then finding out he's ecstatic. He said he'd never seen me so happy until that moment. :)

The worry was TOTALLY made up for by my dad's parents and my husband's grandparents, who were THRILLED! My husband's mother was VERY happy (he's an only child), though worried through my second trimester as there is a tendency in THEIR family for miscarriages. I think that in many ways, it helped me to get to know my husband's mother better than I had AS a mother instead of just as a mother in law (and I was lucky in that I got the best one ever!), and as I got closer to my due date, I could tell that my own mother was getting more and more excited. My dad didn't really get that excited until my daughter was born, though, and then he strutted. :) (and yes, it's a weird feeling, as my parents are still married hehe)

Answer 6

I had it confirmed by a doctor first & I was 6 weeks along. My family was excited. I don't know if it brought us closer, we still see eachother on holidays & everything - the same as before. I was not married, I was with my boyfriend for 3 years at the time, & I was 23 when I had my baby.

Answer 7

WHO CARES IF YOUR MARRIED!! It's not got nothing to do with it at this point.O my god a baby thats like great nothing could be better.Tell your parents it may take a minute to ajust but it's a child.Everyone loves children as a proud mother of 3.I couldn't wait to tell.I wasn't married it didn't matter because with or with out my family or any man.I knew in my heart I loved that baby from the minute I found out.I had 3 kids out of wed.I now live with there father and have been married for two years now.At 24yrs old I own my home I bought and paid for it on my own.We started out rough but ended up well.If you have nothing but your kids you have everything it dosen't matter what your familey thinks.

Answer 8

that would depend on if you are married and if not are u in a stable relationship. I was married 2 years before i got pregnant with my first child so yes the whole family was happy for us. On Tuesday i will be married 25 years to the same man and that child is 22 and our "baby" is 18.

Answer 9

When I got pregnant the first time my mother was excited but my dad wouldn't talk to me the whole time I was pregnant! He said he was too young to be a grandpa! But as soon as my son was born and he took one look at that little baby he was hooked. Now he loves all 6 of my kids and loves being a grandpa!

Answer 10

I told both sets of parents as soon as we found out. I was only about one month along. I was very close to my side of the family to begin with, but it didn't make us any closer to his side of the family(they're real pieces of work) But they were all with me when I gave birth, it didn't bother me to have them in the room with me. We'll forever have that special moment that we all shared.