I'm 17 and she's 15.. For Valentines, I wanted to do something for her... I wrote her a letter with glitter pen and made it really special. I snuck it into her backpack at school. She read it and she said she loved it. Last Friday.. A female friend of mine was asking her about her valentines.. and she says in front of both of us.. "sucked"
Here I am writing her a letter (something I've never done for any of my other girlfriends before)... We've been together for about 5 months. I feel used by her and unappreciated.
I have no idea what I want to do.. Do you think I over-reacted when I just left the group and went home because I was so hurt?
2007-02-17 21:48:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I totally understand where you are coming from. I don't think you overreacted, you could have handled everything differently though.By storming off you didn't really address the situation, you should of brought it up casually later on when it was just the two of you. I don't think she said it to hurt you or discredit you for the the letter you gave to her(that's really sweet by the way). Anyway you should definitely talk to her and let her know how you feel.
2007-02-17 21:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by MzCaRaMeL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Ask her why it "sucked" and tell her that she hurt your feelings when she said that. She may just have been joking or she may have been embarrassed in front of her friends - neither of which are especially good reasons but it's owrth asking.
If this girl is really special to you, then don't give up on your relationship at the first sign of trouble.
Also, maybe you could suggest that since actual V-Day "sucked", you could have another one of your own. Maybe invest a little more - you can't go wrong with a bunch of flowers, some chocolates and maybe a pretty pair of earrings.
Good luck and don't give up if you think it could be something really good between you two. I've been with my current boyfriend for more than two years, and I'm not exactly a giver of expensive gifts lol. :) xxx
P.S Don't do anything too "special", if you know what I mean - not to be a nitpicker but you guys are either side of the age of sexy consent, so be careful hon! :)
2007-02-17 21:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by b3xecutioner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You’re not over-reacted. You simply expressed how you feel that day but I think the best way to do is to talk to her. Maybe that day something had happen to her that made her valentine sucked but apparently not your letter. Or maybe she expected more than that, more than special like dating and having dinner outside, chocolates and flowers. Know her better and try to observe what she wants and what she likes for you to have an idea.
You have to talk about the things you wanted to be discussed and don’t go over it if it’s not yet solved. If love is present to both of you, you can get over it. Nothing can destroy even a valentine card….
Good Luck...
Love and Peace be with you.....
2007-02-17 22:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi you sound a really nice lad and i think your girlfriend should appreciate you more, she was probably expecting you to spend money on her like overpriced flowers or chocs but instead you wrote her a lovely letter which you must of put a lot of thought into & these type of gifts should be worth a lot more than a bunch of flowers that will be dead after a week, the letter she can keep forever, i hope this works out for you and you both can sort it out, just out of intrest did you get anything from her xxxxx.
2007-02-17 22:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by lady vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is still a bit shaky....she doesn't know where she is with you just yet....
It might be that she got all shy about the letter in front of the group, maybe because her friends aren't used to something like this.
Give her time....she'll get used to your romantic ways
gd luck
2007-02-17 21:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by GucciEnvyMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was very mean of her to embarrass you like that by saying it sucked. Talk to her about it and see what she says. If she is still unappreciative, then get another girlfriend. No, you didn't over react. She should be calling you to apologize anyway.
2007-02-17 21:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't over-reacted at all,I'd do exactly the same thing...Try figure out what the problem with you two and it's indeed that big that she feels ashamed having you by her side then maybe you should consider breaking up with her but only after talking about it with her.
2007-02-17 21:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your g/f is a ***** but in her defense she was probably expecting something special and romantic not saying that the letter wasnt but you should have added more like a flower or dinner but since she didnt do anything for you so dont worry about it
2007-02-17 21:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by jinx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she told you in private that she loved it, believe her. She probably would have been too embarrassed to say anything about your card in front of her friends. Don't read too much into it.
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2007-02-17 21:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real World my friend ! Women are basically self seeking, shallow and if it doesn't involve a lot of cash - forget it ! At least you found out early enough, for her to offend your gift and gesture infront of you with another is a sick joke - leave her, but set her up and dump her *** cruelly !
2007-02-17 21:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋