Ok me and my fiancee are planning to get married in October. I have no clue what i should do about his dad and "stepmom". They dont like me. They dont like him living with me. His "stepmom" even called here, kicked him out, got him fired from his job of 9 months, Told him the only reason he is moving in is to get me pregnant! and to top that off, a car he had bought for 850(nice cavalier) which wasnt in his name yet and was at their house for a couple weeks after getting kicked out (cause his dad said he had to have it in his name and license plates befor ehe could move it) THEY SOLD! For 400 just because he supposedly "owed them money!" Well the last time we were over there, they completely ignored me, didnt get so much as a hello not acknowledged at all! They dont support us being together one bit and think he is making a big mistake! i have no clue whether or not to even invite them to the wedding, i want my day to be shared with people who support us. My fiancee feels the same.
2007-02-17 21:44:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They also kept his ss card and birth certificate saying they payed for them so he can buy his own. My family loves us being together and happy. His mom supports us. But...i really have no clue what to do about his dad and "stepmom"
2007-02-17 21:46:11 · update #1
IM asking about even inviting them or not. Not changing them. i know i cant. they dont like me
2007-02-17 21:50:42 · update #2
wel,..heres the problem with the car, he bought it off his uncle and there was no bill of sell. He was making payments. and we know who they sold it too. We have went and got him a new bc and ss card but the one thing i am worried about is his credit getting messed up somehow. we went to apply for a davids bridal card and they said that it said something pending. so we need to call a credit place and get it all straightened out and make sure there was no fraud done. He had called off that day off work and his stepmom worked there too and when he called off they were fine about it (being his first day missed) and then immediately called back and said well if you dont come in your fired. And they dont have caller id so they got our numebr from somewhere (STEPMOM). shes a witch!
2007-02-18 12:31:51 · update #3
wow that is rogh! first off they have no right keeping his personal information. you don't buy them when your child is born! i would not invite them no matter how harsh that may seem. if they can't accept his happiness with you and you then they don't deserve any part of his life. they will be sorry when they don't get to see or know their grandchildren. keep your chin up and just plug away like they don't exist. he can get his b.c and ss card back just by talking to authorities and having them escort him into their house and getting it back. how does he know that they aren't using his info to do other things with his credit to really mess up his life?
2007-02-18 03:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by cowgirlclub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the car, does he have a bill of sale that shows its sold to him? If so, call the cops on their butt! Find out who they sold it to, let the cops know, and get it back since it was sold when your step mom and your dad knew it was not theirs.
I would NOT invite the step-witch.
Your fiance needs to talk to his work about his firing, what excuse did she give to get him fired?
How did step mom get him kicked out? Is he not on the lease?
They have also stolen his social security card and birth certificate. I'd talk to the police about that as well. Make like you are afraid they will use it and start identity theft. If they can't do anything your guy will NEED to spend money on getting that information, make sure when he calls to get them replaced that they know his SScard and Birth cert has been stolen.
So many details left out...
Since your fiance feels the same, there would be no problem not inviting dad and step mom. They do not deserve that privilege.
2007-02-18 10:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay the hell away from them until the wedding day. Invite them to the wedding(Be the bigger person),and if you want to throw a little insult their way have your usher seat them with the general guests not up front with his mother. ALSO DON'T INVITE THEM TO THE REHEARSAL.Don't ask them for money, advice or anything. Call and get a new copy of his SS card and birth certificate they are not that expensive.
2007-02-18 05:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You certainly wouldn't want to invite them to your wedding. His stepmom sounds crazy to me. They are going to try to cause all the trouble they can for you two. I would just get married without even telling them. And do not go to their ever again. They owe you an apology before you even speak to either of them again.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-18 06:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person and invite them. If you don't you'll hear for the rest of your life how horrible you are because you didn't even invite them to your wedding. Chances are that if they are as bad as you say they won't show up anyway.
Good luck...I hope they realize that supporting you is better than fighting....
2007-02-18 06:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His mom and step mom should not be invited to the wedding. Have a private wedding with your family and friends and the people who will support you in your new marriage. Stay away from the negative involvements.
2007-02-18 05:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by lindakflowers 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Cut them out of your life, don't invite them to the wedding and just never talk to them again! Congrats by the way!
2007-02-18 05:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by I MISS YOU! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry I didn't get to read all that. But I suggest there are things that may need the law. So just see what is it that you can protect by law and just in to protect your interest to prevent more abuses.
You can don't invite them to our wedding. It is YOUR wedding and no one else. Just tell your bf this.
2007-02-18 05:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Street Smart 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
will they make trouble on your wedding? If not, u should invite them and prove that ur happy. U should ignore them because they don't know what happiness is. Happiness just come with who love and respect it, try to keep it!
2007-02-18 05:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by babyrose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow this is really horrible and I will say you should stay away from such family so u won't put urself in trouble. There are a lot of nice family out there and nice guy also. Just take your time. ok sweetie.
2007-02-18 08:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by ybloyewole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋