Lately, alll i've been able to think about is being killed. I'm so scared of it! its gotten to the point that im constantly turning around to see if anyone's behind me. i even do that if im alone in my room. I know it's not logical,i cant help it. i hate it. a couple years ago, a family member of mine was killed really violently. i thought i was passed it but maybe i'm not. i can't get real help because then i'd have to tell my mom but i dont want to do that because it would hurt her too much (it was her mom that was killed). is it okay to be so scared all the time? i know it's not normal. should i get help or do you think it'll go away?
2007-02-17 21:40:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thanks for the advice, everyone. I still don't want to talk to my mom but i think I might go to the counselor at my school.
2007-02-18 13:11:38 · update #1
You have a valid reason for feeling the way you do. However, this is not normal and there is no reason for you to spend all of your time in fear. If you are young and in school, go see a school counselor. If you are not in school, you might want to make an appointment with your doctor and talk to him about this and follow his recommendations - he may just give you some nerve medicine or he may recommend a counselor, etc. You can also go to the library and do some research about the topic of paranoia, although I can understand why you are feeling like this -there is a valid underlying reason to make you feel the way you do. The feeling may never completely go away entirely, but at least seek help so that it is managable and livable.
2007-02-17 21:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Orion777 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your reaction is actually w/in the normal range for someone whose had such a horrible, violent thing happen to someone you love.
I'm not sure that you NEED help, but it sounds like you could definitely use a therapist to help you get through your fear and any mourning that you may still need to do.
This may sound easier said than done, but, try really hard not to freak out about your obsession, which is likely temporary, though it feels very overwhelming and you feel helpless over it.
The best thing you can do right now is to NOT react to the obsession, or try to control it (I know that sounds counterintuitive). Your body and mind are likely just telling you just how much stress the death of your mom has created inside you. When someone close dies, it makes death extremely real, where to many people death is just an abstract thought they haven't yet had to face.
The other thing you can do is have compassion for yourself and accept that your reaction is totally understandable.
You probably are suffering some separation anxiety (from mom). Have the therapist send you to someone (psych doc) to get screened for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) too. It's a treatable condition which arises out of stressful situations like yours.
One more thing: Don't fret. If therapy alone doesn't help (but it probably will), you can always try an anti-depressant. They work wonders for anxiety, depression and obsessive thinking.
Best to you! You'll get through this ;)
2007-02-18 05:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by acrobatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually post traumatic stress disorder-your mom will be more hurt if you don't get help because this can ruin your life. If you get help now you may get over the worst of it more quickly.
Please trust in her love for you and talk to her about some therapy, plus there are many great nonprofit groups you can hook up with.
2007-02-18 05:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is something wrong with you.. your paranoia is brought about by the tragic incident happen to you in the past. you should tell your mom, it would hurt her more if you end up in the mental hospital.. You really need a psychological attention..telling your mom is the best way,.. the earlier the better.
2007-02-18 06:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by babycute12002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get counseling. Tell your mom if you have to, but by all means get whatever help you can afford. And, no, it will not hurt your mom too much if you tell her how you are feeling. She's concerned for you. It would hurt her much more if you didn't tell her, and your condition got worse. Get help! Soon! You have my prayers.
2007-02-18 05:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom. Give her some credit that she could possibly help you out. Maybe you can help each other.
2007-02-18 06:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is public help available... Look up crisis centers in your area, call them and they will help you get the help you need... DO IT NOW... No-one should suffer how you are suffering... They can get you free help in your community...
2007-02-18 05:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by mobileminiatures 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋