There is a guy that I have been friends with for almost two years and now I like him like more than a friend. He says he likes me but right now he is playing the field. He says that he would like to see me and later on when he settles down he will settle down with me. I don't know if I should sit around and wait or not. He hasn't really given me a timeframe on when this big change was going to happen. Meanwhile he still sees other girls. He says it's ok if I see other guys but I really don't want to see other guys. I really love him, But I just don't know if I should wait around for him. Please advise.
2007-02-17 20:24:46 · 12 answers · asked by ~**TTC#2**~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
----sounds like your being used---if he cares for you he wouldn;t want to be with another girl----give him a time table--if he can;t meet you time table then go your own way.------------
2007-02-17 20:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy tell me almost exactly the same thing that guy told you. And it pissed me off! My opinion was that he could kiss my b*tt if he thought I was going to sit around being a sweet little thing while he went out and did who-know's-what. If you don't want to see other guys then that's your choice. But for goodness sake, don't sit around waiting for this guy! You're chances are, at best, 50/50 that he ends up settling down with you. The odds are that he'll end up "settling down" with some chick he meets while he's "playing the field". He told you that its okay to date other guys? Then that's a pretty clear indicator that he takes you for granted. Move on girl!
2007-02-18 04:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by HomeGrown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him. He's saying in a roundabout way that if he can't find someone better, he'll settle for you at some point in time. That's selfish on his part and really mean. No one is so fabulous that you should waste months or years waiting for them. I know you don't want to go out with others guys but waiting for him will only disappoint you in the end. This guy should've jumped the chance to be with you. Instead, he tells you he wants to screw other chicks, keeps his options open and have you wait for him. He's a jerk. You deserve better. Get yourself out there and date other guys. It might be hard at first but you will eventually meet someone who is way better than this guy and gives you the attention you deserve.
2007-02-18 04:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way don't wait around. He is out there dating, you should go have fun yourself. If he already supposedly knows that he will settle down with you then why would he be seeing other girls? Sounds like he is just trying to keep you handy. I mean maybe he does like you, but not enough to be with you. So go out, have fun (not necessarily by dating), and who knows, he may come around while you are still willing to give him a chance, but more than likely you will meet someone who treats you better than this.
Good luck!
2007-02-18 04:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ro-Ro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should also play the field and, in time, you will discover whether or not you still have these strong feelings for this man who obviously feels no need to make a commitment to you at the present time. You deserve a good life with someone who respects and loves YOU enough to make a commitment to you!
2007-02-18 04:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by jom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait...you are a Diva and he's out there sowing his oats when he knows that he's got you on hold.
Look out into the big sea...that's what he's doing, he just won't admit it. If he really wanted to settle down with you, there would be no time like the present.
Move on, Diva!
2007-02-18 04:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by sweet doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wake up girl!!!what he really is saying is,"he wants to see if he can find anybody better than you!!!"and if not then he'll"settle"for you!!!do you think you deserve to be second best??!!i know you love him but he'll only break your heart!!try to move on and when he finally does come for you,i'd say,sorry but i've moved on and i found sby else!!"[even if you didn't!]guys don't like to be chased and they lose interest in a "sure"thing!!
just remember"guys should be running after you not the other way around!!" believe me it works to make them sweat!!!and to snub them!!! good luck!!
2007-02-18 04:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i know u like the guy but its unfair for u to put your life on hold for him after all he's seeing all these different women. it sounds like he could not be trusted so be carefull i know u like him and its easy for me to say stay clear of him but if u think of it their are a lot of good guy's out there who will not play around just be patient u will find someone. anyways good luck on what u choose to do
2007-02-18 04:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by glowing flair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait. In fact, I wouldn't be there if he decided to settle down tomorrow. He's keeping you just in case or something.
2007-02-18 04:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player to me. You'd best forget about him and move along and find a guy that's gonna appreciate you a bit more. Good luck!
2007-02-18 04:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont wait tell him to poop or get off the pot.theres some one out there for you you just need to find him.good luck and get out there .i did the same thing to a girl once i told that so when i wasn't seen any one i had a standby
2007-02-18 04:35:03 · answer #11 · answered by Leo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋