I found my boyfriend's profile on a dating site. Its not the first time but he is denying that it was him ( a friend framed him-yeah right).
I still have alot of feelings for him, but am cannot continue the relationship out of respect for myself.
My problem is he is helping me financially with my car and has promised to buy me a big-ticket item that I really want.
How do i survive the next few months until he helps me out and spends that money on me??
I know i sound very low, but we have been in a serious relationship, I thought we would eventually get married. He is happy to ignore his cheating and pretend it never happend.He says he cares for me. I want out of the relationship, but want something to show for it. I am willing to do this for 3-4 months..how do i protect myself emotionally??
2007-02-17 20:11:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, women like you need to be examined. I'm a nice guy and all, but this is the kind of crap that makes me lose my faith in women.
Move on from this relationship. If he goes about it right, and you break-up with him, he has a right to those things he purchased you in the eyes of the law. Remember these things before you go crazy...
2007-02-17 20:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, everyone is worrying about money. After 4 years you have a right to be wary about you're guy. All I'm going to say about the guy thing is follow you're instincts..their usually right. School is always very stressful. Most people have a general range of caring what others think. It all sounds very normal. But I do think you could be so stressed out over things that you could be having a breakdown. Take a vacation. or have two days were all you do is pamper yourself and keep you're mind off the bs.
2016-05-24 01:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are using him for his money, and he is dating other women, your not married or engaged, so it sounds like a pathetic relationship. you are prostituting yourself, lowering your morals and standards for a "big ticket" item" do you think you cant get that item yourself? Are you wondering why he may not have respect for you??? Stop accepting his money, and are asking how you can live with his cheating while you are basically stealing from him? you know if you really want to have respect for yourself, do your own car, get your own stuff, and dump him. at least you will have your dignity and wont be a prostitute!!! If you will forget the wanting something to show for the relationship mindset, then you will be a better person. get out, get your own stuff, you will appreicate it more anyway, and find a guy that is not a cheating liar and turning you into a cheap whore.
2007-02-17 20:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hes a piece of crap. You deserve much better. I hate to say this but theres a LOT of guys out there like that. Its rare to find that one or two that have the decency and morals to not do something as stupid as that.
Of course he denied it, hes a liar and i dont see how you could ever bring yourself to trust this guy again. Now ask yourself if its worth sticking around for? Sure he could help you financially with your car but would it be worth hanging around for it?
Either way I dont judge you no matter what you choose other than being with this guy in a relationship. If you use the guy he deserves it but I dont think you should invest any more feelings with this one or youll end up getting hurt again..
You can lead the guy on and pretend like nothings wrong until you get that car paid off or you can drop him now. Your decision.. but dont lower yourself by getting into this relationship any deeper. You would be doing yourself an injustice.
I had one like that, ignoring it like nothing was wrong. Worst thing thats ever happened to me, get rid of the schmuck.
2007-02-17 20:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by heartofgold 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though he's doing the wrong to you, that doesn't make two wrongs a right. he's just a low life looking for something different and yeah you still care for him and he says he cares for you. but what ways has he showed that he does? saying it is completely different than showing it. so what he's paying for your car. you can figure it out on your own some how. you don't need a guy doing something you can't because he'll just brag about how he has you to anyone else and says he's got money paying for your car. don't wait for the 3-4 months. it's not worth it. stand up for yourself! good luck on this and be strong. things take time.
2007-02-17 20:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ahmad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you are the type of girl that make every other girl on earth look bad and make every guy think that all girls are money grubbers.. Granted he may have cheated, lied, or whatever else.. But either way it's not fair to just use him for money "to get something to show for it".. Just because he's a jerk doesn't mean you should take advantage of him.. I say if you don't trust him dump him and move on.. Everyone gets hurt atleast once in serious relationships..
2007-02-17 20:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To begin with your thought of wanting to ride on him financially is wrong. You may have the earthly things but what good are they if you're unhappy? Since you both have serious relationship, it would be a waste to quit. Have a one-on-one chat with him. Let him know how you feel about him cheating. Ask him what it is that you haven't done or he'll like you to do. Work things out!
2007-02-17 20:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both sound like you're getting exactly what you deserve, each other. Too bad it's ending and you both will soon be someone else's problem. You've put up with him and his lying and cheating until now, what's a couple more months. If you have already met someone else just play his game until your get you greedy little fingers on your pay off.
2007-02-17 20:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can stay strong enough and not get emotions involved then go for it. Make sure you get some kind of proof that what he's paying for is gifts (if you watch Judge Judy) and find yourself someone to flirt with for the next coupla months. Men are Dogs and if its a lying, cheating one then I say go for it.
2007-02-17 20:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by DropTopAle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a real piece of work: you can't continue the relationship "out of respect for yourself", but you want to "protect yourself emotionally" while you try and get "something to show for it."
Wow, I want to party with you. Let's hook up on the Internet.
2007-02-17 20:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋