What can I do to get my 3 year old to go to the bathroom?

Question

She will go to the Bathroom but I have to ask her if she needs to go.my goal is to get her to tell me when she needs to go without having to be asked.I have been working with her for 3 or 4 weeks and sometimes I just want to put her back in diapers and forget it.HELP!!!

Answer 1

Be happy that she's using the potty regularly! Many kids this age still need reminders to help them get their body in a predictable potty routine. If she likes the timer, set it for once an hour, or however often it seems she goes normally. The timer goes off, and it's not a question, "Do you have to/want to go potty?", it's a statement-- "Time to go potty!" Praise for trying, more praise for going, and minimal reaction for accidents. I just put on a sad face and tell the child that potty goes in the toilet. If there is a mess, I have them help clean it up to whatever extent possible.

My 6th and last child is currently potty-learning, at a few months shy of her 3rd birthday. I've BTDT more than a few times, and a laid-back, child-led approach is what has worked best for us, time and again.

Answer 2

Just dont put her back in diapers no matter how frustrated you get. I just got done training my 3 year old son and it took us a week to do, but i was constant about it for 4 days. I mean I got sick of it and tired, but it worked. The first day I had set the timer for every 30 minutes and told him when the time went off that it was potty time. He got tired of it after a while , but he started to run into the bathroom on his own. I also used stickers and popsicles for a few days too and constantly gave him the stickers and occasionally a popsicle. I did this non stop and sat in the bathroom wtih him tor many minutes at a time. YOu just have to have the patience and there were times I would catch myself telling him to hurry up, but I would stop and think that that may not be a good thing and maybe he would react negatively to my impatience. SO I tried really hard to be as patient as possible. I was absolutley amazed by his progress. He goes on his own now, after 4 days of training, and he holds it all night too until he wakes in the morning. I couldnt believe he is doing that already..l would put pull ups on him before and he would be soaked in the morning, but after the training, he hasnt been wet once in the mornings. It will take you a couple of days of training that you will get sick of, but afterwards, you will be so relieved tht you did that. Good Luck to you. Just rememberlots of patience , rewarding, clapping, saying YAY! and lots of other praise.

Answer 3

Just keep trying. I know it gets really hard. My son who just got potty trained 2 months ago and he is also 3. It took me 4 months. I would have to ask him if he had to go and He would have accidents I tried using pull ups but he just thought they were diapers. So it took him a little while, when he would go in the pull up I would say that that was bad and that good boys go in the potty. He started to get better and then you will notice one day that all of a sudden there will be no more accidents and she is going on her own. I still put him to bed with a pull up just to be safe. I know it gets to the point where you think you just cant do it anymore but it will get better I promise. I wanted to give up many times. You can do it.

Answer 4

I'm afraid it's part of raising a human being..YOU have to be the parent here. And you will have to keep asking until she learns to associate the urge of peeing with actually peeing. Get over it. If she needs a diaper at night, that's ok. Better that she rests well, than that she always uses her training pants. She's a baby. If you know you're going to be busy or distracted, put a diaper on her. You're in charge. You decide what's BEST for her, not vice versa.

Answer 5

TRY REWARDING HER IF SHE GOES WITHOUT YOU ASKING HER. GET HER SOME STICKERS AND MAKE A WALL CHART. THEN WHEN SHE DOSE ANYTHING GOOD LIKE GOING TO THE BATHROOM GIVE HER A STAR. YOU COULD GIVE HER A PRESENT OR SOMETHING WHEN SHE HAS EARNED A CERTAIN AMOUNT. THIS WORKS GREAT FOR ALL SORTS OF THINGS, AND EVEN WHEN SHE GETS OLDER,YOU CAN STILL USE THE SAME SYSTEM. IF SHE DOSE SOMETHING WRONG YOU CAN TAKE SOME AWAY.

Answer 6

She needs to be asked at this point if she needs to go. It might help to schedule it around her routine. Go before and after she eats. Before you get in the car. Before you leave the store. As soon as she wakes up and last thing before bed. Eventually she will catch on. Also, always with in 30 minutes of drinking anything.
There is one very important thing to do. If she does have an accident, don't get angry. Just explain to her that this is not what big girls do. Make her clean herself up, and her clothing and bed clothes ( the best she can for three), and explain to her how unpleasant it is for you to have to do it also. Then wash her up and remember to praise her when she gets it right.

Answer 7

You have to remind her often about the potty- but whatever you do DON'T put diapers back on her because she'll just continue using them instead of the potty because it's easier.

Answer 8

Maybe let the water run slowly.That may help with t t but po po she may need lots of attention and excerise if not you know wheret the DR is.

Answer 9

get really pretty unders... so pretty they dont want to soil or wet them. we got our son some comic book ones and it was only 2 weeks and its was fool proof and fully trained.

Answer 10

DEAR SIR
PLEASE DO NOT ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TAKE HER EVERY 15 MINUTES ARE SO AND KEEP IT UP PUT HER ON THE POTTY AND MAKE HER SIT THERE EVEN IF SHE DOES NOT USE IT OK
TAKE CARE