Ok me and my ex did it tonight and she said it was good for her and she asked me how was it for me and I said it was alright. So she got up and left and said " this is why we used to do it 4 times a month" and got up and left. Whats her deal? What should I do?
2007-02-17 19:29:20 · 19 answers · asked by spayhappy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make things more exciting, change the way you do things, and, never just say it is alright and that's it...where's your studly compassion man???
2007-02-17 19:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was pretty rude, that cant possibly be taken as a compliment as hard as a person can try. You dont know how to talk to her and tell her that you enjoyed having sex? If it was just so ..."so so" then why do it? If it was just "alright" then why bother? Her deal is she cant seem to get any emotion out of you, you are playing too cool, well cold and it comes off as uncaring and who the hell wants to be with a person that doesnt get excited about anything. What you should do is call her up and apologize and tell her that you are going to stop trying to appear as a tough guy and be honest. That you really enjoyed the sex and it felt great; she was awesome and it was great to see her again.
On the other hand if it was just boring as hell, just barely able to stand the sex, it was more of a bother, than an enjoying way to spend an evening, then be man enough to be honest and tell her that the magic must be gone, that you still care about her but you didnt mean to hurt her feelings.
The boys may think it is cool to act like an uncaring ***, but no woman will put up with that game playing... grow up, get in touch with who you are, what you like and dont like and stop trying to act like a man, and start being a man, a good man, with a kind heart.
2007-02-18 03:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels bad because she feels that you just had sex with her and it was just ok instead of "GREAT".
Girls are like this so try to get used to it-there is no understanding it ok. You gave her an honest answer,but follow the lead next time and if she clues you in by saying that it was good to her then you have to say the same.
To let you see how she felt,it is like your favorite team winning the championship and and her seeing you celebrate and wonder what the big deal was all about.
So lesson learned is that she was not looking for honesty,but for you to follow the lead that she gave you.
Even if she says it was not good, you say "well honey, I really enjoyed it"
Do not ask me to explain this-you will never get it and you want to have peace-so just do it man ok.
2007-02-18 03:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duhhhh. If you have to ask,...it was probably shiiit--you-not her.
Great sex is hard to find because it takes time to really get a woman going, and men are in a hurry for themselves. You don't sound like you're very much fun in bed..? And by and by..why do you give a sh-- what your ex thinks? But I'll tell you WHY she's hurt.
She wanted you to say: "It was fantastic baby! The best I ever had. I love you so much...kiss-kiss-kiss..." Man. You do need a picture drawn for you.
2007-02-18 03:37:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her "deal" is that you told her she was alright in bed. alright is an insult. alright translates to "it got the job done, but i've had better." if she is your ex, then u probably dont have a prob with fighting and still doin it. so just invite her over and give her mind blowing sex. then you will both be happy.
2007-02-18 03:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by March Mommie 07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, if she is your ex why are you doing "it"? Didn't learn the first time? Second, if the best you can say is "it was alright" then don't say anything at all. You're the real sensitive type I can tell. Good grief you just had sex, you make it sound like "thanks for dinner mom".
2007-02-18 03:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You insulted her sex skills. You wounded her.. in sex with a women the correct answer is always AMAZING you NEVER insult their skills or soon you'll be finding yourself a little more sexually frustrated. You need to appoligize to her and lie your face off. hahah you need to tell her you were still dazed from the sex and you weren't really listening. I've used it before and have survived.. as mean as lying seems breaking up for a stupid reason like this is worse..
2007-02-18 03:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If sex with her is just alright then why are you having sex with her? You just said how you really feel. When you have good sex then you say say that it is good not because she is not no good in bed and she gets mad! She needs to be happy that she is getting sex from you. Right!!!!!
2007-02-18 03:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by OLIVIA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was looking for wonderfull or best ever or indescribable......somthing a little better than alright.....alright to some girls meani kina regret doing it ,it was really that bad
trust me my husband has said it and he got put in the doghouse for a while, and was cut off acsess to certin body parts
2007-02-18 03:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Gower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her by "alright" you meant good like always. Tell her you would have explained, but she left to quick. Good luck lol.
2007-02-18 03:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by LauraLynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋