How do I let my date know without scaring them off?
2007-02-17 19:08:05 · 15 answers · asked by texgal0630 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How could you go on a date when your wife has Alzheimers... You don't need to let anyone know anything-- because you're not going on that date!!! How can you just leave your wife in the state she is in... Shame on you!! I feel very sorry for your wife!! >:-(
Good luck to her...
2007-02-17 19:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Me! 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You mention the date is casual...as in "not something romantic" or "leading into more". In that case, don't even bother telling them. You stage of friendship has not reached the point where such personal information is needed to be exchanged.
I can understand needed a little me time when dealing with such a situation. It helps you to reset and come back to the problem with renewed vigor. Not everyone can deal with it as far as you already have. An evening out might be what the doctor ordered.
So, keep the date casual and friendly, don't burden them with a problem such as this.
Now, if this were a date to get some romance, I would be well with the others who would cast you into the fiery lake. Hold strong and you would find ladies very willing to share time with a man who stayed faithful until the end.
My prayers go with you.
2007-02-17 22:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Micheal F 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're going on a date with another woman and your wife is dying from Alzheimers? What kind of an a**hole are you?
I've heard of some selfish things, but you take the cake!
How in the world do you sleep at night knowing that your wife is suffering and will die, and you're out worrying about getting a damned date and not scaring her off? You're pathetic!!
2007-02-17 19:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by C J 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Let your date know, maybe tell her in a scenario basis. Say what do you think about someone going out when thier wife no longer knows them due to Alz?'s. etc. Get thier reaction. If she can't deal with it in a story then she can't deal with it in relaity.
. I don't blame you for going out (I work in a nursing home) but I would not get serious with anyone until your wife is passed. It would cause problems with the in-laws and others. Esp. if they suspect an affair.
2007-02-18 09:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. i do no longer prefer to be a burden on no one. that is not any longer a existence, (for me i'm talking) God knows the anguish that the guy is possibly feeling also. i understand i'd, and that i do no longer prefer to be saved alive through any synthetic means. I actually have a living Will that states that and want the *plug pulled* once plausible. it is troublesome sufficient to get through in this international being healthy, and being like it is for particular no longer any more beneficial advantageous.
2016-12-04 07:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't ask this just to stir up trouble -- which, given the other answers, isn't a ridiculous assumption -- I think it'd be worth seeking out somebody in a similar situation for said 'casual date.
2007-02-18 01:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why will they be scared? its just a casual date, right? Just go, tell them and take it like it comes. There is no guarantee that the person will like you for what you are doing,and there, no one can help you.
If you have been a caregiver to your wife for long, then I kind of understand your perspective.
2007-02-17 19:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo! 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah i don't think your date would like the fact you're married and not standing by your wife... that's not very attractive.
2007-02-17 19:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by tiffaknee01 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So you're cheating on your wife? Nope, I'm not going to condone that.
2007-02-19 16:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You wait until AFTER your wife is dead! I can sympathize with you but right is right. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
2007-02-18 00:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋