My son ignores me...?

Question

I am a mother of 4 children. 3 daughters and 1 son.
2 of my daughters have moved out so its just my other daughter and son. My son is ready to leave but I dont want him to..
He never talks to me anymore,
And when I say 'hi' he acts like Im bugging him.
My question is, has any of you other mothers gone through this? and has it changed?

Is this normal for most 18 year old boys?

Answer 1

Your son is in need of a male figure. There are issues he maybe dealing with on his own and/or something in his heart he may be crying out for help. What I will do before he leaves home is to discuss this matter with his dad. If that's not possible, find a male figure who you trust and that he may open up to.

I know you want to do this yourself, but as much as a girl needs her mother or female to relate with their concern. The same thing with your son. If you continue to temper with his mind, you may lose his respect and what ever could be troubling him may get worst! I wish I could talk to you on the phone, but I will keep your family in my prayers.

Find a male role model for him. Good luck.

God Bless

Answer 2

Im not a mother, or a son, but i was 18 once and i new 18 yr old guys. is this recent behavior only? Maybe he is having problems at school or with friends. maybe hes just going thru a phase...18 is one of those ages. just keep being the mother that you are. most likely he'll come around again. maybe you should try telling him that you want to have an adult conversation with him because your concerned. also, maybe his friends are making him feel like he should move out. if he wants to move out and u arent letting him then he's probably a little made at you. whatever it is I wish you the best! good luck. and dont forget that you are the mother...you are in charge!

Answer 3

Hi well i feel that when u open your self up to your son well then he'll open his self to you kids only reacted to a mother bugging like that because we feel that you only look down on us. Every parent goes through that period in time if it isn't for a daughter or a son, all that matters is that you tell them that you love them we really cant make our kids stay with us we love them and we want them to stay but they all grow up and get older and leave without us its hard to see our kids growing up just cause the thought of being needed is so nice i fell that it will change all you need to do i give you child some space and when you talk to him talk to him as a friend not a concerned parent thank you and bye

Answer 4

Yes, it is completely normal. It does change as they get older. Your son probably is trying to be independent and does not know how to go about it. If indeed he does move out, let him that you are still available if he does need help. Also let him know (if you want to) that he can have a reasonable amount of freedom while at home and you will still be there for him. It does sound as if he is a little immature to move out. I have found it true that boys do mature a lot more slowly than girls.


Good luck and hang in there. Boys are so much different than girls to raise.

Answer 5

I'm not a mother but I can say from being on his end my mother used to bother me sometimes too. I would have to say it's more about being at his particular age that may be causing his behaviour or could it be because you are making him stay at home when he wants to move out? Why don't you want him to move out? Talk to your son and let him know how you feel. Sometimes not saying anything to him for days/ignoring him might make him want to open up to you and talk to you cause it will seem like mom doesn't care and he might be a little concerned that you are not yourself.

Answer 6

My son went through a period when it seemed I was more an annoyance than his mother. He's 22 now and we have a very close relationship. Hopefully it's just a phase, and he hasn't gotten in with the wrong kids, or is doing drugs. Try to sit down with him and talk to him. I know it will be hard, I can see him now with his arms folded, slumped in a chair with his legs stretched out, wondering what you want now... does this sound familiar? Hang in there, be strong, try to let him know you're there for him no matter what. Hopefully he'll grow out of it. Good luck, I'll pray for you.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I think it's normal dear. He's got a lot on his mind about leaving. I agree to ask your daughter what's going on with him. She might be some help to you. It's okay, just know that it's a phase, it will pass and he loves you, no matter what. He's your only son, you'll be his mom forever.

Answer 9

I was 18 and like that and, yes, it's normal. The hormones are kicking in and everything's too confusing to deal with parents.

Don't worry, all the things you taught and told him are always with him.

I ignored my mother too when I was 18, and when I was 30, she passed away and I cried a storm regretting not talking to her enough. But that being said, she's always with me in my heart.

Don't worry about it. He's growing up and whatever his problems are, your worries won't get rid of his problems. Just support him when he needs you and try and be understanding when he seems to be ignoring you.

Answer 10

i am not there yet, but i empathise with you, i dread these moments that i am sure will come someday. It is so hard but from what i gathered from many mothers and what i remember, is that kids at that age, rebel and want to do what they want and somehow blame the parents for many things, so they just want out, but they will come around. Your son will come back to you, for now, just try really hard to be supportive, help him with his move and hopefully he will come around soon.. best of luck from a mother to another