Normally, I know the right answer is to do nothing and forget about it, and I've been doing that for a long time now. A long time. The thing is, I've known them both about the same amount of time and have been friends with them since before they were going out, and as of late I'm actually beginning to wonder how good they are together. He treats her okay, but not with the attention and affection I think she deserves. She and I are able to talk and have great conversations and get along extremely well, and the only thing about my life I haven't told her is my feelings for her. I'm not asking if I should try to 'take her' from him, but should I talk to her about it? Should I talk to him about it (this is the one I'm really leaning away from)? Should I just keep trying to forget about it and hope it goes away, even though I'm pretty sure it won't?
2007-02-17 18:46:20 · 13 answers · asked by Toki Wartooth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you sense she likes you tell her. Go for it, Forget about him. She might be the one, besides you could treat her much better.
2007-02-17 19:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by heartofgold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is kind of hard but you shouldn't say anything to either of them, especially your friend! He'll only get upset and think you've been trying to get her the whole time and really, telling him serves no purpose. You might think you like her but then again, you might just like her because you can't have her. You need to entertain that thought. If she was that great, she'd be with you. Something is keeping her with this other guy and even if she's meant to be with you, you have to let that run it's course before you say anything. She might not feel the same about you and if you say something, she'll probably tell your friend and then everything will be totally weird between the three of you. Just remain her friend, at some point, she'll breakup with your friend and then you'll have your chance. I know it sucks to wait but you really have no choice right now unless you want to lose two friends and cause a bunch of drama and then not end up with her in the end. If you two have a good relationship right now, it will be there later. In the meantime, go out with other women and do your best to keep her in the back of your mind. As soon as you see a chance, try to get with her. That doesn't mean make them breakup up but, let's face it, if he treats he just 'ok', she'll get bored with that after awhile. Nothing worth having comes easy. Sometimes you have to wait for the good things in life.
2007-02-17 18:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Millions have this attraction issue--but basically the answer is the same--she is with him--she must like something about him--so you might lose the friendship of both if you say or do anything to try to get her away. I mean you can hope someday she will be available if they do break up--but don't be the cause of it. She might break up and then go with someone entirely different---bypassing you all together. You better not say anything---you better get a hobby or do something to occupy your mind---try for a girl of your own---bet that stops all these thoughts. What if some guy were to feel this way about YOUR girlfriend?? Would you like it??
2007-02-17 18:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try and forget your frllings just for a friend i try and do that and get all worried about what the other person is going to say and it workes out that she is ok with it even happy for me to like the same guy...
what i guess im trying to say is just see what they both have to say than take it from there
2007-02-25 18:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking her if she is happy with him is a good choice. If she just shrugs or says "I guess so", she's not really. Look her in the eyes when you ask her, straight on. Don't look away. Her eyes will tell you alot. If you since doubt, by all means TELL HER. Your only young once and unless this is some life long friend, I wouldn't care about it. She should break it off with him first so he won't punch you for it.
2007-02-17 19:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by J.A.N. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore your feelings for that girl because you can't control the feelings you have. No matter what, you'll always think about this, and if you ignore her, you'll probably ask your self those "what if.." questions. I think you should just be friends with her, and help her with any problems she comes to. I don't think you should tell your best friend about your feelings because you might make him think that you want to take her away from him, and you might ruin your friendship. Just wait until the right time to tell him. The right time is probably if they ever break up. Then come up to him, and tell him your feelings, and ask him if it is okay with him to like her. If he says no, apologize and tell him that you can't change your feelings, even if you wanted to (if that's what you really feel).
2007-02-17 19:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Joshua T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on man!!!!!! bros before hoes, look man if he is really your "best friend" and if he doesn't love her or doesn't see any future with her then he may step aside since you seem to be so hung up on her,
bottom line if you "take her" you've lost a friend guaranteed
also think about it how many relationships have you had that worked out, unless you are married the correct answer is 0 gfs come and go friends can last a lifetime
2007-02-17 18:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by telling either one of them could destroy a friendship,or worse yet ruin the trust you all have.id just wait and see what happens with them, and if she gets hurt, be there to pick up the pieces, but forget how you feel now, try to fill it with something else, unless your ready to lose some friends
2007-02-25 15:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Toki, It's best to say nothing. All you will be doing is cause trouble for yourself. If you tell them you might even lose their friendship. Are you willing to lose that?? You decide what is best for all of you. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-17 18:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart and tell her about your feelings. Just remember this - you must be honest to tell her how you feel and how you care for her. Then let her decide.
The choice is hers. Good Luck.
2007-02-25 18:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋