i'm a product of a broken family....?

Question

my mom left us....
my mind says that she don't love us becoz she left us...
so i'm at my father's side; my teachers are sad for me....
my mom calls...
my mom texts through my adviser's phone....

should i talk to my mom?
should i tell my mom that i'm angry 2 her?
should i close my heart 4 her?
how can i stop people from making pity of me?
how can i stop myself from being ashamed is becoz i'm a product of a broken family?

everyone i need help!!!!
tnx guys...
i know ican count on u....

Answer 1

know 1 is ever a broken family. just a family that never mended that never came together. my moms like is like yours. just forgive and forget. it helps get a whole lot of junk off your chest. :) i know how u feel. u can talk to me if u want u know my email.

Answer 2

You can tell your mom that you are angry at her, just for her information. I'm pretty sure she knows that her decision left a lot of heartache. Her problem is really with your father, you know that, right?
I sympathize with your feelings of shame about being the product of a broken family. I felt the same way when I was in that situation.
There's probably more to the story than even what has happened so far. It may be that your mom feels like she couldn't handle being a single mother. Maybe your dad is the breadwinner and at least she knows the family has some security as long as he is in charge.
I'm so so sorry that this happened to you. You want to close your heart to her because it will keep you from being hurt over and over by her. Wait and try to be patient. She didn't stop loving you; she mentally couldn't handle the breakup with your dad if it meant taking all the responsibility with her. As she gets stronger, as your parents settle their issues (it takes a little time), things might change for the better for you. Your mom is always your mom.

Answer 3

I, too am a product of a broken family. My father left when I was 2 yrs old so I have no memory of him. You cannot be ashamed of what your parents did. They made their decisions not you. 50% of marriages end in divorce so I'd say you are very normal coming from a broken home. As for your Mom, yes talk to her. Tell her why you are angry and hurt. Give her a chance to explain herself. It will be better than wondering. Even though you parents aren't together anymore, doesn't mean you can't have a relationship with both of them at some point. I understand your anger at your Mom. Just try to understand that this was between the 2 of them and not about you. I'm sure they both still love you dearly. Cheer up, things will get better. I know, I've been there. Good luck!

Answer 4

I come from a broken home too but I'm not ashamed of it. In fact, it made me better at seeing how a family should work. If you're angry with your mom then you need to tell her. You all need to talk about things and get stuff straightened out. Be open to what she has to say. You may not know all the facts. What happened between your parents isn't a reflection on you. Just because your mom couldn't stay in the marriage anymore doesn't mean that she's a bad person or that she doesn't love YOU. The fact that she's trying to reach you ought to give you a sign. Give her a break and hear her out. As far as people having pity on you, don't worry. It's an initial reaction.

Answer 5

I left my kids when they were in grade school, so I will perhaps have your mom's point of view. I came from an abusive family and didn't know how to raise children. I started abusing my daughter. Mostly yelling and screaming out of frustration. Once I hit her in the face. She was only six years old. I saw my hateful face in the mirror when I did that. I put my kids back to bed (it was the middle of the night) and I packed a couple of outfits and left that same night. My husband was working second shift, so the kids were alone for awhile, but it was scary to think that I would hurt my own children.
I don't know your mom's reasons for leaving, but I'd like to tell you to be willing to talk to her. Start by telling her how hurt and angry you are. Start every sentence you say to her with the word I. I am hurt. I am angry. I feel abandoned. I don't know if I even like you right now. Whatever it is you feel, tell her without screaming. Not to spare her feelings, but because quiet speech gets attention better. There is a chance at healing if you let it happen. Good luck.

PS My daughter is grown now, and she's my best friend, even though I was a lousy mom.

Answer 6

Talk to your mom and tell her how upset you feel. Make her know that you're afraid of being close to her because of her stupid decision.

Go ahead and open your heart, but don't open it too much because she can always leave again. As years pass more and more, you can open up a little, but don't go fast.

When my parents divorced, I felt a million people pitied me and I didn't like it. Don't let yourself feel that way, it's not worth your time.

Instead, do your best more productive, powerful and successful in your life. Soon, people will pity you less and look up to you more, and even envy you a little. Be strong and smart at all times.

Do not let someone's mistake become your problem. I hope you feel better. =)

Answer 7

i think you should talk to her. It will help you resolve the issues you may have (anger, loneliness, etc.) and she may answer any questions you have (like why she left, etc.). Also, traditionally families are mom and dad but when they are not people tend to try to be helpful altough this may fell like pity, don't take it the wrong way, you just have to see what type of family you have (there are more than just one type of families) and see if you are happy, if you are then you should not care if anyone "pities" your situation. Most important don't be ashamed of coming from a "broken family" if you are loved i don't think you have a broken family, specially since your mom is trying to be in contact with you.

Answer 8

Dear friend,
Do u know exactly why ur mom left u? believe me she was sad about sth, that coz her to left u and ur dad and be sure that it was hard enough for her too. she's starting over and it's hard. times came when u r enough old and this situation might come to your way too. ur mother could stay with her sadness and choose between being always sad or be happy but not around u anymore, if u think about it, u could understand if u have ur mother just coz u need her around or just coz u don't want kids pity u it's kind of selfishness honey. if ur mother couldn't make her self happy she's not able to makes anybody happy. u and me and all the people in the world should live in the way that make themself happy we don't have anything else to do here , while u r happy then u can make other people happy. don't judge to soon give ur self a time and put ur self in her place and try to deep think of if u were not happy what would u do? it's takes time but it has a really good answer in it that forget ur mom , try to make ur self happy :) one day u'll live ur parents sooner or later. take care of ur self . i hope happiness came to ur way soon and never live u ;)

Answer 9

First amongst all else, there is no need to feel ashamed of being a product of a broken family. People get together and separate. There is nothing un usual about it. And they can re unite again too. Its good you are on your dad's side, for you say your mom left the house but she too must have had very strong reasons to leave you and your dad. Be fair to her too and you must speak to her, as she wants to reach you.Don't close your heart for her. Her sorrow and trauma might be as bad as yours. Help each other reduce your grief than multiply it. And pray to God for better times, which surely will come again in your life ! I pray for your family too.

Answer 10

Don't close your mother out I don't know why mother and father leave but they do. Tell people not to pity you, you don't need pity you need understanding. Tell your mother that just because she left your dad does not mean that she can leave you also. Talk to your mother and ask her what she is thinking. No matter what this will make you a wiser person, Like the old saying what does not kill me makes me stronger. Good luck and you are in my prayers.

Answer 11

First of all why did she leave you and yes tell her that you are angry and very hurt. Don't close your heart to her. She is probably hurting as much as you. Don't feel ashamed. This is not your fault. Let your Mom know that you love her no matter what and I hope that you guys can work it out.