What do you do when your family is not very supportive in times of need (When you child has to have heart surgery). Or they leave you out of family desicions or if you just ask for some helpful advice and they do not even take the time to answer a simple question. What do you do when it does not seem that your own family does not care?
2007-02-17 18:01:04 · 16 answers · asked by Vivianna 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Rely on yourself and know that you are strong enough to do whatever it takes.
Look for the positive and leave the negative behind.....its not worth it to worry about things that you know wont change and its only hurting you more and more each time you ponder over the activities or the situation that you feel your family put you in.
Move forward find peace with in yourself.......and know that you are your own.....and anything is possible when you are in charge.
You control your destiny.....:O)
Best wishes
What I wrote above is my way of making right for me and my family. I replace all the negative with positive.
Maybe they weren't very supportive with you when your child was in surgery because they couldn't Fix your child and they were at a loss. Maybe they don't involve you in family decisions because they feel it will burden you and you already have enough on your plate, and far as simple question....maybe they feel you are strong enough to know what to do....I would think they do care however they are at a loss on what to say or do..........
2007-02-17 18:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your family isn't as supportive as they should be when your child has surgery because they're afraid. They have no idea what the outcome of the surgery is, and maybe they dont have a good way of expressing their feelings. Although your family knows that they should support you, they think that not telling you that they are afraid too is best. Maybe your family leaves you out of family decisions because you're going through a lot already and they don't want to add any more problems that you have to worry about. I think you should believe that your family cares, no matter how unhelpful they seem to be, and be strong for your child. Don't think about how your family seems to not care, and just give your child the attention he/she needs.
2007-02-17 18:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it hurts when your family acts that way. However, you are an adult with your own family now and you do not have to count ONLY on your parents and siblings for support. It is very nice to be able to count on your parents and siblings, but if they are not there for you, then forget about them. Just realize that they will never be there for you and go on and have a happy life with your spouse and child (or children). You can develop very good friendships and have a support system that way. It is too bad, but we don't all come from picture perfect families.
I hope that your child came through heart surgery OK. It must have been very hard for you during that time.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-17 21:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming your married with a child that is having some physical problems. You have a family. That is why you get married you leave your folks and extended family behind and start your own family. Face that and you wont' be running to them for advice. You might also find a good counselor for support as backup but figure your old 'family' isn't part of your life anymore.
2007-02-17 18:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You develop your own support network, friends, coworkers, church members etc. Just because your related doesnt mean you have to agree with your family. Although my family has been a great support to me at times, there have been times when I really gained no support from them. I then chose to develop my own friends. How ever I do understand your frustration. Your family is supposed to be there to make you feel supported but as in this life its your journey, so you need to be the captain of your ship. If you cant find crew mates at home develop bonds with people who support your mission in life. Good luck.
2007-02-17 18:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by oceanqueen1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 22:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how bummed out you must be feeling, especially at these times of your life. You see, lately I have been experiencing the same struggles you do, & I advise you to just try and handle these things on your own (surely, you're independent enough), with help from friends or your wife (if you have one).
2007-02-17 18:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get supportive friends and cut your family off.
2007-02-17 20:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just live your life and stay away from them hope everything with your child gets better
2007-02-17 18:27:35 · answer #9 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have burned your bridges. Do they like you?? Sounds like you need to move on to new friends and family and learn from your mistakes.
2007-02-17 18:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger Crane Master 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋