2007-02-17 17:58:52 · 22 answers · asked by dewayne c 2 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Health wise it would be much better if she lose weight, but if you relationship is based on her physical appearance then you have more serious problems and need to seek help if you ever hope for a truly good marriage.
Good Luck, I should say it - - but you are going to need it.
2007-02-17 18:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Joy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her? If so, don't bug her about the weight thing. Maybe you can say your concerned about how it will affect her health, sincerely. Loosing weight is no walk in the park, I am thin, never been overweight, yet I know and realize this. It would be the same if you're wife wanted you to look like a body builder and work two jobs to live a rich lifestyle, a tall order. In a round about way it's like saying your love is conditional on how much she weighs. Chow
2007-02-17 18:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Clipper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So dont ask, you can not change your wife only she can make that decision and she will when and if she is ready. I made my choice when I was 40 and I lost 40 kg just over 88 lbs and then I moved out and left my hubby and he wasnt rude enough to comment on my weight in the first place. People are big for all sorts of reasons and maybe she's eating because she's very sad but nagging her wont help.
2007-02-17 18:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say that you heard (radio/news) that YOU are not taking CARE of HER correctly by not HELPING her.
This way, you are including yourself already, and approaching her in a CARING MANOR!
Tell her that you are DEEPLY concerned for her HEALTH!
Do not mention anything about looks!
Mention HEART DISEASE, DIABETES, DEPRESSION, etc.
Let her know that you don't want to LOOSE your wife or see her suffer later! Americans are overweight, and heart disease is the number one killer!
AND TELL HER HOW WOULD SHE FEEL IF
YOU WERE DRIVING YOUR CAR EVERY DAY KNOWING THAT YOUR POWER STEERING/BREAKS WERE GOING OUT.... AND YOU GOT MAD AT HER FOR TELLING YOU TO GET THEM FIXED AND DROVE ANYWAY! THEN SHE WOULD LOOSE HER HUSBAND! (maybe you can come up with more, etc!)
Offer to go with her to the doctors to make sure that she doesn't have any health conditions already and get ideas from him.
That way some pressure is off of you when he suggests an action plan.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-17 19:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is no longer. How old are you? in case you're a young person then inspite of weight help you nevertheless could be ingesting around 1800-2000 energy consistent with day. in case you're an grownup then approximately 1400-1900. you're able to by no ability bypass under 1200 till you prefer to thoroughly destroy your metabolism. only save doing what you're doing and you will at last see consequences =]
2016-11-23 16:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is just no way you can't make someone lose weight, unless they truly want to.
But you can definitely help. Maybe you could suggest working out together and eating more healthily. You could cook a healthy meal for your wife every so often. Just encourage her as much as possible, but don't force the issue or it will all just blow up in your face. Good luck.
HTH : )
2007-02-17 18:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit asking her to lose weight. Weight is a very personal issue. She has to decide on her own that it's important for HER to do for HERSELF. The more you push her to do it for YOU, the more she'll resent you. Is something as superficial as some extra pounds worth destroying a marriage over?
You should focus on making her feel good about herself and telling her that you love and appreciate her. Weight gain can come from stress or feeling unappreciated, basically, eating to deal with the hurt feelings. If she feels more positive and confident, she may decide she wants to do it for herself. But bottom line: only she can decide. If she chooses not to, learn to accept her as she is. It's called unconditional love.
2007-02-17 18:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by Beni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is her weight an issue? Does she have serious health problems because of it? Are you that consumed with her looks? I bet if you backed off and just loved her and made her feel like the most beautiful women in the world she would lose the weight becuase her self esteem was up and she would want her feelings to fit her body image..... just a thought!
2007-02-17 18:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by laura n 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to lose weight. They have to make the decision on their own. Any way you try to tell her to lose weight is going to hurt her feelings. If no other part of her health is affected by this, then leave it alone. Be happy with your wife and who she is instead of complaining about how she looks.
2007-02-17 18:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by cerridwen1983 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop buying her food ;) just kidding
women are a little sensitive when it comes to their weight, and when this subject is brought up by their husbands oooh no hehe :)
so you gotta talk to her about it at the right time, and try saying it to her the nicest way possible so she wouldn't get offended.
and tell her your big concern is her health, not only her looks...
Good luck dear..
2007-02-17 18:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Lucifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋