my boyfriend is physically abusive and maybe if ihear stories of other women i will get the courage to do the right thing and leave. he keeps trying 2 hurt my neck but keeps saying its an accident, i dont believe him,,,accidents happen once not 3x.
2007-02-17 17:51:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A girl I was good friends with in jr high school dated an abusive guy. She left him and found somebody else. He threw a homemade fire bomb into her apartment. She was forced to jump from a 2nd story window and suffered from 2nd degree burns. He escaped the police by running to another state.
A few days after she was released from the hospital he broke down the back door in her mother's house. He chased her and her mother out the front door and down the street. He caught up to them and shot her right there on the street. She died in her mother's arms.
Later on the police discovered the car he had driven to her mother's house had been stolen and the owner of that car was found dead on the interstate.
The guy is now on death row.
Get out before your boyfriends abuse escalates. It can get much worse than it currently is. Leave Now while you still can.
2007-02-17 18:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by knt1229 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him and stay away from him.
A very good friend of mine has had serious debilitating medical problems for years because her abusive husband grabbed her by the neck and shook her. She has serious nerve damage. She can only be upright for about 3 hours at a time, then she has to lie down for a few hours to recover (so no job, no fun, etc). She even had her beloved kids move in with their father (her first husband, not the abuser) because she couldn't care for them or do anything with them. Basically, her entire life is completely f.u.c.k.ed up because she didn't get out when she should have. She has seen plenty of doctors over the years and they say they can't do much for her. She lives in a constant state of physical pain. Of course she also has no money, etc because she cannot keep a job in her state of health. She used to have a wonderful fulfilling life... now she is a mere shadow of the person she used to be.
Please don't let this be your future. Leave him now and vow never to let another man hit you (or abuse you in any way) again. The rule is simple, one strike and he's OUT. And don't say that you 'love' him... that isn't true... you may love the person you want him to be, but that's not the same thing. You cannot change him, you can only change yourself.
If you have no friends or family to help you, look in the phone book for women's shelters. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-17 18:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by sueflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no doubt that Islam advocates "beating" of the wife after the prior two steps. But what most people are ignorant of, or tend to ignore, is the Hadeeth whereby the Prophet (S) explained to the Companions how to carry this out. He took a miswak and struck it; that was it. But the truth is, the burden is upon the husband it maintain a good relationship with his wife. I have a good friend, who is really good to his wife. One day, driving home with his wife he was pretty irritated. He pulled the gear shift hard, and just because of that, since his wife never saw him angry before, she began crying. He achieved that level of protection as stated in the verse.
2016-05-24 00:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a abusive relationship almost four years ago. I left him then he stalked me for months then beat me up and broke my jaw just because I don't want to go back with him. He only served four months for my broken jaw, the court felt sorry for him because he had a drug problem but they didn't care about my jaw. All the court gave me was a stupid order protection. I think about it every day. I am picky with men now.In other words be strong to leave him but prepare for the court system rulings they don't care about domestic violence. Abuse women suffer like abuse childreen too who get beat up too. Women should stand up and fight againts the court. My advise is to call this number for emergency shelter domestic for abuse women. Is toll free
585-232-7353 Alternatives for battered women.1800-799-safe
2007-02-17 18:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Janilda L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was sixteen, I went to my best friends sister's house with her and her sister. Her sister's husband came home and after saying hello went upstairs where his eight month pregnant wife was. The next thing I heard was him proceeding to beat the crap out of her. I was scared and tried to call the police, but they had knocked the telephone off the receiver during his beating her and her screaming and trying to get away. I ran to the neighbors house and called the police. When I saw my friends sister, her face had the fist print of her husbands in it and she was black and blue, and swollen all over her face. The baby was still born with bruises on it's body as well.
Please get away from him, and stay away, for your sake.
2007-02-25 17:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had six of my friends murdered. Most were my cop partners, but two were civilian friends. The last one was stabbed to death by her husband back in 1997. He put the children in the back room, stabbed her numerous times, and left the knife in her. She was not able to be revived by paramedics.
If you are receiving any physical abuse from your male partner, you need to leave immediately. Is this person really worth risking your life? Think it over.
2007-02-17 18:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by C J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Le la, He is going to break you neck. I don't understand why you are still with this BASTARD. You read all the time about B.F. killing their G.F. You need to go right now and get as far away as you can. DON'T call him or let him know where you are at. This is not a game. We are talking about your life. Get out now. Don't walk RUN WHILE YOU CAN... A Friend Who Cares.
Clowmy
2007-02-17 18:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine, 22 at the time, was murdered by her boyfriend who she was attempting to leave. He strangled her, put her in the boot of his car, and threw her down a ravine. Don't wait for it to "not be an accident" before you leave - get out before it's too late.
2007-02-17 17:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by pixeldust42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, what are you waiting for? After the first time he chokes you unconcious are you going to leave? Does he have to knock your teeth out before you will leave? If you stay with this guy you could end up having kids with him. Do you want him to beat you in front of your kids? Do you want him to beat the kids themselves? Get out while you still can.
2007-02-17 18:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by HomeGrown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIS MOTHER F*CKING A$S!!!!
omgosh... I was kind of in the same, but my ex boyfriend never beat me or anything... but he always threatened to kill me if I ever broke up with him... I got the police involved, maybe that's what you should do. they can throw his as$ in jail and or put a restraining order on him.
♥ Christina
2007-02-17 17:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋