all i ever do is sit there, and dont say anything,and when i do, it doesnt last more than a couple exchanges of talking. a couple people start talking, i try to jump in with no clue about the subject, or i know whats going on but dont have much to say, there is just silence from me otherwise. hell, i bring up subjects with normal people i hang out with and it doesn't last more than a couple lines. this is only amplified with the girl i like.
i need to get out a lot more but i was brought up like this. never had siblings so i was always alone in my room. my parents dont help with the fact that to them, vacation time from work is time to stay home and continue working on/in the house or yard. and i dont go places because of that, which means im around people less. which means im socially awkward. (im also only 16 and yes i can drive and go places, i dont like going to someplace alone, and also the way i was brought up was to wait for invites to places, and not just go or invite self)
2007-02-17 17:08:42 · 7 answers · asked by kingfoot7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call some friends and get out more often. I think that you may suffer a bit of shyness but the more you get around people the more easier it is. Remember to be yourself too. See if you can invite a friend over for a night, play some games and watch some movies and also call a friend once in a while and tell them you are coming over to visit if they are not busy. It is O.K. to invite yourself over as long as you ask first.
2007-02-17 17:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child, too, but 34 yrs old and for a long time felt like you feel. ** This can be overcome! ** What are your interests? I say join some kind of local group where you can meet people who have common interests as you do. Another thing is to look up "Toastmasters" on the internet. It is a nation-wide public speaking group for amateurs who want to improve their confidence in speaking in public. You'll meet others who feel similarly awkward but have overcome it. Usually there aren't alot of teenagers there, but I always found (when I was your age) it was easier to be comfortable with people older than I.... They tend to be less judgemental, and will mentor you.... What helped me the most is when I took a job that forced me to interact alot with others, it really opened me up... So if you don't have a part time job, that might be another thing to try. Good luck!
2007-02-18 01:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jebbie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find a church that has a really vibrant youth group that does lots of social activities. It's pretty common to be feeling like you're feeling and you'll come out of it. Honest you will. Smile a lot and listen to others express themselves. Don't be ashamed of who you are and you're as worthwhile as the next person. Get into sports and activities you like too. Learn about things you are interested in and then you can talk about your interests in conversations. Churches are the best place to learn how to socialize as usually everyone is patient and tends to listen.
2007-02-18 01:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make friends. Simple..but hard to do...of different ages. So, that you can get a wide range of their views and how they see things. You have to get informed. Read...magazines..newspapers...watch..the news! Or anything real...the history channel. Fill your mind with information. Only with that will you be able to talk to people and relate to them. Do things that you enjoy doing to get yourself out of your shell. I'm a very outgoing person, but I enjoy talking to people about everyday things and telling stories about my life. Find things that you have in common with people and talk about that! Best advice is to smile and listen to peope when they talk. Have an opinion and tell it! Be confident about yourself and people will gravitate towards you. Most of all smile and show people that you are having a good time! People want to be around others who project an air of confidence and happiness! It takes time..with practice and just putting yourself out there...You will be able to get over it.
2007-02-18 01:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 and the same but I have siblings who are popular and outgoing..not me. What Im doing is forcing myself to say hi to more people and be more friendly. Its not easy believe me but the awkwardness is terrible. I used to be worse than I was now so at least I am improving.
2007-02-18 01:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with yourself and people...start joking about how awkward you feel. it's like when you do something really embarrassing it eases the situation a lot if you say "well that was embarrassing!" instead of just continuing to be embarrassed. everyone has felt awkward before and it gives you a common ground and people will have sympathy because they know how you feel.
2007-02-18 01:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find something to be a part of that you enjoy, like sports, music related, whatever that might be and do that with others. make yourself start talking, that is the only way. you must keep talking.
2007-02-18 01:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋