How Do I Tell My Mum What Dad IS Doing 2 Me?

Question

he held a gun 2 my head and brutally raped me...
he has ben doing it since i was 4 im now 16
about 2 weeks ago i found out it wasnt normal
i thort everyone did it since i started at an erly age


dad sed he wood kill mum and me if i told anyone

Answer 1

Tell someone and tell them what your dad said about telling someone. Stay with the person you tell and make sure your in good hands. That someone would be the police.

Answer 2

He's been brutally raping you since you were four and your Mum didn't notice any injury to you? That's amazing. And I would have thought in this day and age a girl would know well before age sixteen that her dad shouldn't be raping her. And w a gun? Took you til sixteen to know THAT wasn't okay either? Come on, doesn't ring true, and people who make up stories like this make it difficult for people who are REALLY victims.
If I am wrong I am SINCERELY sorry, but this story just seems very far fetched.
I was repeatedly molested by an uncle starting at age 6 so I know how horrible it can be and hope you aren't using such a situation to entertain yourself.
I guess the threat to your mum is supposed to explain why you never told but you also said you didn't realize it was wrong til two weeks ago. Makes no sense.

Answer 3

I'm terribly sorry, but I'm not convinced this is true. This is the year 2007, if you have been going to school or doctors surely for all these years someone would have been curious ? and even if they were not Where have you been during all the TV shows and commercials and programs about abuse ? Holding a gun to your head ? You're mother could very well be afraid of your father too, there is no mention of their realtionship. At 16 years old you should be in High School, in 10th or even 11th grade.
My 8 year old grandson knows what appropriate touching is. Well now is your chance, You need to walk into Social Services and spill the beans but you realize of course YOU will have to file the charges and TESTIFY otherwise all the police have is YOUR say that it happened, just be ready. Unfortunately you father has rights too, but if he has indeed done this to you he needs to be punished. If you are making this up you owe all of us an apology and more importanly all the real victims out there one too.
I also notice your profile does not allow Email or IM's and you have been a member since Feb 17th 2007. People could help you if you would allow IM's or Emails.

Answer 4

If this is really going on you need to talk to a trusted adult like a teacher. This is not normal and it is not okay. The police would be better, but if you don't feel comfortable doing that you should have a counselor or a nurse at your school that you can talk to. I'm sorry that this is happening to you. Your safety, mentally, physically and emotionally are extremely important. Why are you not comfortable telling your mother? As your mother I would pray she wouldn't care HOW you told her as long as you told her what was going on. People who threaten to kill or hurt people if you tell are bullies. It's a tactic that they use to prevent people from talking. If you're afraid he'll really do it then you need to disclose this in a safe place and perhaps when you know your mother is in a safe place to. But please say something to someone so you can get help OK?

Answer 5

I believe you. I endured rape for years before I knew the name for it.
So, he used a gun to your head. This is a threat you must take seriously. I know what you mean about being scared he will hurt or kill you or your mom.
Think about this, if you do nothing, he will keep doing it. That's scarry and it is so sad, because nobody has the right to treat you like this, or to scare you like this. There are laws to protect you so no one will rape you.
You say this has been going on for 12 years. Your dad, very likely treats your mom in bad, abusive ways too. She is likely just as scared of him as you are. If she is, she also does not know what to do to make him stop, or she doesn't feel it is safe to leave or to tell. - Because of these dynamics, I would wait until later to tell your mom. It might make things worse if she reacts poorly in this situation when your dad uses a gun there.
When you are away from your house, you can call any one of these numbers to get help. A rape hotline, Social Services/ Children's Protective Services, Police or Sherriff, Doctor or nurse, teacher or counselor. You need to know that these people are required by law to report the crime. But you also need to know that who ever you tell, an adult in a responsible position, will not blame you, they will protect you and will work with the police to stop your dad from hurting you even one more time.
It will be a scarry thing to speak the words. But, you have been brave enough here to say them to us. Now is the time to act.
Very soon you will meet people who will help you begin to heal emotionally.

Answer 6

Don't tell your mom. Something tells me that she already knows but is too afraid to do anything about it. Most likely he has threatened your mother also. Your best bet is to go to the emergency room right after your father rapes you so that you can have proof of him being the one raping you. The doctors their will report him to the appropriate authorities. You will be safe in the hospital. arrange with the authorities to have your mother picked up first so that she can be safe with you. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry. Noone deserves this kind of treatment.

You must tell someone. Try to tell your Mom when your Dad is away. You will probably have to go to the police to get protection. I hope others will post answers.

You can also call your local Distress phone call centre. They will know what to do in your local area.

Answer 8

call 1-800-4ACHILD it's a 24 hour hotline. They will send somone out within 48 hours and they never tall who called them. You'll get a bunchof menue numbers but just stay on the line a real person will come on that you can talk to.

Answer 9

If this is really happening, your dad will be in no position to hurt you or your mum once you blow the whistle on him. Tell a teacher at your school or go straight to the police, and he'll be in jail so fast he won't know what happened.

Answer 10

he is not ur father but a monster.if u feel u cant tell ur mom thn tell a fren's parent or a teacher or a counseller or take it straight to the police.if u think nobody will trust u thn tape it or sumtin so ull hv prove.u can tell ur mom but she might just b in denial n might just say ur lying.tell someone n soon b4 he gets ur pregnant or sumthin.its d best for u to tell some1