What do you think about women who are single parents by choice,,?

Answer 1

Marriage is not a ceremony, it is a binding of two people. If two people love each other, that's all that counts.

Conventional marriages have had kids who did not fair too well in life. So, who's to say. If a child is loved and cared for, God Bless.

I refuse to be judgmental toward anyone. Love and care for everyone and be tolerant of people is the answer, not ceremony. If someone has a baby out of wedlock, I personally wish everyone the very best.

Answer 2

It depends on whether it is a natural birth or an adoption in my opinion. I believe it is usually a better influence on children to be raised by both parents if possible with death, divorce and insanity the primary exceptions. I would not like to see anyone, woman OR man, perpetuate their genes in a fit of egotism, but if the lady never had a decent opportunity, such as via a stillborn birth or the child's early death, I understand wanting to have another chance, especially if the lady is economically able to do it and if she takes great pains (as I believe all parents should do). So I would accept it, nonetheless still believing that having a father there too is preferable.

However, if the lady were adopting, then that would be a different case, insofar as it might involve a neice or nephew after the death of the nearest adult kin, or the death of her best friend who left an orphan, in which case no problem - anyone would be a Nazi to require her to get married in that case.

But in the case of welfare I say cut them off if they don't get married, because I and other taxpayers are footing the bill.

BTW my best friend's dad died when she was twelve and I can assure you my friend was raised in an excellent manner - friendly, giving, loving and respectful - as well as being successful in her field - so it can be done, but I have no illusions that it always works out so well. Great question - I'm giving it a star.

Answer 3

I must be totally honest - the single parents I know do not want to be single parents. I don't judge someone who wishes to do such a difficult thing on their own but I would hope they wouldn't complain about a lack of help after the fact.

Answer 4

I think most are not single by choice and would like to have 2 parents in the relationship. Unfortunately it doesn't always work out.

Answer 5

I don't think you should be a single parent unless you have to be. My mom is a single parent by circumstance (dead beat dad) and god knows i h8ted fathers day as a kid. And the have to part isn't just death or military duty as some guy above says i think crapshit dads count as a have to also.

Answer 6

Well there are a lot of circumstances that play into it. Unfortunately, they rather be single instead of dealing with a man they really don't care for. These days many things play into it cheating, money, and the list goes on. If the single mother makes the child happy and provides a safe home then I don't think theres anything wrong with that. Maybe they're just being picky and want somebody that's worth it.

Answer 7

I don't think too many people do it on purpose or start out with that intent.Their partner is a dumb butt and isn't good for them or the children and they leave them.In my case my boyfriend was a dumb butt and got deported.I believe maybe some self empowered people choose to have children without a partner but I believe that is the exception to the rule. Most people would rather have a a partner and its for practical reasons. Someone else to help care for the child, another income. Those who leave their partners are strong people.Being a single parent is not easy I know I'm there .

Answer 8

I think its fin eif they can provide both financial & emotional support toe the child. I don't think its a negative thing. I plan to become a single parent by choice in nine yeras. I am going to adopt children. If people have a problem with that then thats their problem not mine & no one will change my mind. I don't see any problem with it, but i think its better to atleast have a male figure in their life, life an uncle or a grandfather exc. BUt sometimes thats not an option.

Answer 9

I think it is a very selfish decision. Children deserve to have their mother and father in their lives... if mom is a single parent by choice because dad was a crappy father, then she should have chosen a better person to have children with. When you become a parent, you should want your children to have the best lives possible, and it has been proven time and time again that children thrive more when they have a loving mom AND dad in the home.

Answer 10

I have just seen the above answers, i am upset! I am a single parent of 3. It is REALLY hard being a single parnet. You have to do everything, anything for your children. You have no break, you have to teach them, guide them, make the right choices for them, show them how to make right choices with a open mind. It is sometimes overwhelming. I had twins to the first father, he left when they were 3 months old, no fault of mine. (with him 4 1/2 years) He does see them but only when he wants, which is very hard on the kids. They ask "whats wrong with me' or 'why doesnt he loves us' sometime more harm then good. The last child, i married him,(with for 4 years) then the abuse started. I left and the child has not seen her father and i will not allow it when he wants to see her. Never tryed thank god. As it is not right to subject a child to verbal and pyshical abuse, (crimianal and drugs) which were hidden from me until to late. I thought these men where great, thats why we had kids. Things change but i wouldnt take it back for the world. Anyway my point was sometimes you have to make decisions best for your children. I think it would be great to have both parents but sometimes doesnt work. And sometimes visitions have some other crap effects on the kids. If want to be apart of there life be there all the way for them. Single parents always have a bad rep But i have done a fantastic job raising my children by myself and very proud of myself for doing it. people that have both parents really dont understand how exhauting it can be and we think of our children before our selves. They sometimes are very negative like above on one, the only way will be if they have to do it by themselves day after day. I CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE PARENT NOW. AS THEY COME FIRST. If i meet someone, no more kids. Im not any less of a parent because i am single, then any one with a partner. Single aprent are very strong and courages people and diserve more gratetrude. Thanks Bye
I forgot to also say that i think crime is everywhere. Not just from single parents or black or white or yellow or purple people. It is from the parents who dont care. There are also alot of parents who care and try to get help for there kids but unable to find or doesnt work as bad influences and perr presure. People should open there eyes and put there selves in others shoes and ask why. Please dont judge. Thank you