Should I break up with my girlfriend?

Question

I have been with my gf for about 3 months. The start of the relationship was really dramatic, as I asked her to break up with her boyfriend of two years to be with me. That was her first relationship and this is mine. Things have been going pretty well since then.
Recently she met her ex-boyfriend to tell him off (she told me first). But then when staying over started crying intensely and after me asking many times what was wrong, she told me it was because of him. But she didn't say she wanted to go back with him, just that she was upset. Things seemed ok after we talked about it a lot. That was the first time I ever saw her cry (she's usually not that kind of type).
That was her first time staying over, and now she says she can't stay over again for awhile because of her parents and is acting cold to me. I love her, I really do, but I worry so much about her feelings she says she loves it when I tell her I love her, but she doesn't always say it back to me. I'm very confused!

Answer 1

2 years is a long time for a young woman to spend with someone else. Seeing him again was probably a mistake, if she intended to move forward in life with you...

However (comma) you should not break up with her just because she's a little confused at the moment. stick with it if you care about her. A crying jag at this juncture is probalby perfectly natural; dont hold it against her. He may have said some terrible things to her that made her doubt her validity as a human being..

Give her a little space, but make sure that she's not plotting to get back with mr old guy... if that's the case, then yep you should break up with her. If she just needs time to process things, let her be. You're young yet, so don't put too much pressure on her OR yourself.

Answer 2

Crying is a good sign of hurting inside. I would say your gf never got the chance to get over her feeling from her first break-up, and you really are a rebound. Actually it sounds like she truly has unfinished business. She sounds like she is very insecure, if she broke up with her bf because you asked. Her and her ex may of been on the outs and she thought she would teach him a lesson, I really don't know. But it looks like it back fired on her. You say you really care about her, if you do, I would have a very serious talk, and I think the real truth will come out. She is still in love with her ex. But, I wouldn't be surprised if that relationship has been permanently strained by what she has done. Live and learn I guess. Hey, we all go through it! Good luck!

Answer 3

I want you to think about what I am going to say. If she left him for you why wouldnt she leave you for him? Imagine the talks the two of you had right before she broke it off with her now ex-boyfriend do you see the similarities? If so then bow out gracefully because she was never meant for you longer than the time you have shared. The going to tell him off was a cover almost every girl has used that line (although we dont think its a line) because we are planning to do more than tell him off before we go. If she was really going to tell him off then why wouldnt she let you go? Sit her down and tell her that you want her to talk to as a friend instead of a boyfriend; and ask to tell you everything that was said and done with the "ex". If she becomes very defensive, and wont met your eyes when she talks she is lying. Oh another thing women play with something usually when they lie. Good luck but we always want what we dont have.

Answer 4

She is going through a very difficult time in her life right now and needs a shoulder to cry on with no strings attached. The fact that she broke up with her boyfriend for you says she likes you a lot, but the first relationship is usually the hardest to end. The last thing she needs is more demands placed on her by anyone. Just be there for her and listen to her. She needs a sympathetic ear and that should be you. Put your needs to the side and focus on her. Don't push her into talking, but be there ready to listen when she is ready.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

well, give her enough time, in the first place as i understand, you started dating while she's still 'ON' with her BF, its pretty bad. She might be very vulnerable on the time, there are lots of things that might affect her in accepting your offer to her: 1) she might be trying to scape from the pain from his BF or 2) she's trying to hurt the other party,

but unlucky you, you've been the scape goat. Now things might confuse her between you and her EX , if your ego isn't affected, then go on accept her if she comes back or wait for her, but if you want to keep your pride, better not to go on with the relationship. I feel like she's still IN to her EX.

Answer 7

i really hope that the ex boyfriend was treating her bad 4 u to ask her to break up with him...and look at the differences 2 yrs vs 3 months that a big difference i really hope u thought this all the way through...cuz chance r she still got feelings 4 him and havent let him completely go yet...maybe yall should take things slow...and give her some space...stop thinking about yo feelings and think about her and what she went through...hope this helps

Answer 8

So basically,

She Left Him For You ?

(((sigh)))

A 3-month (strikingly Similar) "Love" stint of my own just ended recently,

how did it began ?

She Left her Ex For Me (I come to find out) ! And now she is back with him (Good for Me :] )

So basically, If you sense (and trust your gutt on this one man, really, trust yourself), if you sense *and find out that there is Ex-boyfriend Drama going on and by that I mean that she still has Feelings for him, still communicates (not a wee bit, but a Lot) with him...and yes, (at worst) even still has Sex with him..., Bail Out! Next Her now! I am suggesting this to you from experience.

You don't deserve Ex-Boyfriend Drama, that's baggage. Think about it. Did You bring Ex-Girlfriend drama onboard with you ? If not, you deserve better, and there are females out there without that baggage and drama that you won't have to deal with.

Next!

Answer 9

I agree with bigmomma. Give her some time and don't worry about it. Sounds like she's going through a lot. Don't smother her either..that would really kill it and just put more pressure on the situation.

Answer 10

Your a di**. You made her break up with her boyfriend and now your crying cause she's being cold. 3 months and you say you love her? What a candy ***.