is it wrong for me 2 want another baby??

Question

me and my boyfriend have a daugher that is 14 months old, i love being a mother and lately i just cant stop thinking about another baby, my mother reminds me everyday that i am not financially ready adn that i am stil real young, we have our own place, we take care of our daughter without anyones help, when i see a baby i just want to cry, when i go through my daughers little outfits or baby pixs, i just imagine being pregnant again, holding a newborn again, wondering what it would be, my daughter playing with her brother or sister, i know that i dont have a million dollars and money is tight, but i dont think thats what is involved with raising children, my daughter gets everythign she needs, i just want 2 stop this aching i feel whe i see a baby, or hear about someone having a baby please please helpppppppp

Answer 1

No, its not wrong. At some point in your life you just have to say to yourself "how much am I going to let other people influences and opions run my life?" If you want another baby and you feel in your heart you will be able to take care of it, then you should talk to your bf about having another baby and go from there.

GoodLuck.

Answer 2

There's certainly nothing wrong with wanting another baby, though it sounds like maybe you should wait and try to come to terms with the reasons why you're wanting another one. It's not too soon to have another baby, thoughI do believe that it'd better to be married before bringing more children into it, but it seems like you want another baby just b/c you want something cute to hold, and to get the attention and stuff that comes with pregnancy. Not that I'm judging you for that, either. I loved being pregnant, and who doesn't love holding a newborn baby?! BUT you want to make sure you're not one of those women who's only addicted to the attention and cuteness of pregnancy and newborns and gets tired of their other kids whenever they're no longer cutie babies. Make sure you're goign to enjoy and be attentive to your other child, before you bring in another one. As for money, yeah, more is better, but few people are ever really financially ready to have kids, and that doesn't stop most of us. I would do a double check that your yearnings aren't taking anything away from the child you already have.

Answer 3

Your parents are right hunny, children are pretty expensive now adays. I always wanted to have another baby too but i'm also young and after my daughter turned 18 months i wanted to have another baby but after seeing what my friend went through with her 2 kids (which are 10 months apart) i decided to wait till my daughter was at least 5 or 6 yrs old. Why dont you wait another year or two that way you and your boyfriend have the money for another baby. Good Luck

Answer 4

Stop focusing on what YOU want and start focusing on raising your daughter. You are obsseing over having another child and in the end that is going to lead to neglecting your daughter. If money is tight right now think of how much tighter it is going to be if you have another baby. You say your daughter get's everything she "needs" what if she needed to be hospitilized? Would you have the money to pay the bills? What about when she wants to go to college? Are you going to tell her that you can't afford to send her to college because YOU wanted another baby so what you could have put away for her education was spent? Keep in mind that by the time your daughter get's into college tuition is going multiply by at least 7, books are going to be even higher, scholarships will be fewer and farther in between (they've been dwinding rapidly over the past 10 years) and companies that dole out studen loans have been adding into the contract that the loan MUST be paid in full within a year of graduating. So who's going to be paying for your daughter's education if things are tight NOW and you have another baby?

Answer 5

It is just your motherly instinct, but you should really just focus all your energy on your 14 month old. She'll be grown before you know it and you don't want to miss out on anything. Let her be the baby for a while because once you have another one, there won't be as much time for you to spend with her. As far as money, I don't think you're ever really financially ready for a baby. You just figure it out and make it work. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

everyone is sad when thier baby grows up i suggest you look at it this way what if the next child is your last? wouldn't you want to stretch out how long you have a baby 14 months is still a baby it just doesn;t seem like it until your baby is 21 months like mine:D then 14 months still seems like a baby plus i assume you are very close with her how will this affect her? is she a mommy's girl will she be able to handle it??
i got pregnant with my second when my son was 14 months lol coinsidentally so now my second is due 3 days from the firsts birthday :S i wish i had waited another month so they didn't have to share their birthdays my son is a mommys boy and hes growing out of it a bit but i still think he might be a bit crushed when i have a new one i really want him to have someone to play with and i know they will be close when they are older but i don't want him to resent the baby when it gets here i didn't even wean my son till after i was pregnant and probably would have breastfed till he was 2 if i didn't get pregnant (but i don;t want to at the breast) i suggest you plan for another when she is 3 then at least you have sumthing to look forward too:D

Answer 7

If you don't have enough income, you don't have your own place and you're not in a steady relationship yet then don't think about it. Take care of the baby you have right now, since she's still young and she needs all the attention she can have.

Babies aren't just some toys you can have because you feel like having them - they're PEOPLE. Super cute, adorable, tiny people... but people nonetheless. Be a little bit more responsible. :)

Answer 8

Believe me, I understand baby fever. I have it pretty bad myself, but DH wants to wait a few more months. I don't know how old you are, but as long as you can financially handle it and your relationship is on solid ground, it's not anybody's business when you have another child. I will say that if money is tight, it might be easier to at least get your toddler out of diapers before you have another one, but that's entirely up to you.

Answer 9

How about getting married so that all of your children can have a proper upbringing. Wake up America, your kids are learning their morals from your actions. How can you commit to raising a child in a family that hasn't been properly joined yet? Especially two of them?

God have mercy on us in America. If God was so smart to create you, your kids, and the universe, don't you think he was just as smart when he made the rules of life?????

Answer 10

Its perfectly fine to want another baby. The new one will cost a lot of money, and if you don't have enough money to support two children maybe you should wait. I know it will be hard to wait until you are ready financially, but you have to think of your family and what money problems might arise from having another child right now. Talk to people, get their opinions too. Let your feelings be known, because it isn't healthy to keep them bottled up.