I am planning a destination wedding for sept 2009. I am only inviting close family and friends. I would like to give them plenty of time to save if they wish to join us. We are paying for both our parrents whole trip. We really dont want anyone else invite to feel pressured into coming if they dont realy want to or cant afford it.so I am not sure on wording. We plan to have a reception for everyone who could not make it when we return. I am not sure whats the best way to let them know as early as I can as It is way to early for formal invatations as you cant book accomodation or flights until 12 months prior.
2007-02-17 16:08:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Fiance and I are planning a June 2008 wedding.
What my fiance and I are doing is sending out the invitations first. We are sending them out sometime in April.
Then when they reply back yes or no, we will send all the "yes"'s a save the date magnet card for their fridge. That will help save on costs. We will send these around July since a lot of hotels only do reservations 330 days in advance.
We might be sending out another reminder three months before the date just in case people forget that they rsvp'd us.
2007-02-18 02:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... CONGRATULATIONS!!! It's so great that you are planning so well in advance and that you are so considerate about your guests. But do not get too anxious too soon... there are so many things about a wedding that will get you nervous, just don't start worrying too soon.
If, like you say, you are inviting only close friends and family to the wedding, the tone of your "Save the Date" cards could be informal, informative, funny and casual...
What I mean is that it doesn't have to include the typical wording for a Save the Date card. It should accomplish the same goal, but including all the information that you want to pass on to your guests: that you would love to have them there but not to feel pressured if they cannot afford it, that they are more than welcome to book reservations as in advance as possible to take advantage of better fares, that there will be a reception later on for those that cannot make it, etc.
Use your own language and start drafting a letter that will be personal, endearing, considerate and with a 'happy' touch. It will transpire that you really care about the people you want to invite. I am sure that everyone will appreciate it.
Good luck and best wishes!
Magoo
2007-02-18 00:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Magoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! As a bridal consultant, I had a client in the same situation... She did send save the date cards, that eluded to the location (which was Las Vegas) and she only sent the cards to the people on the invite list..On the couple's website, she went in to more details about the destination, costs, etc. She also had a section that said, "can't make the event, then join us back home for a reception celebration". This helped communicate the whole picture to the friends and relatives, some of which even lived outside of the country.
Best of luck to ya!
2007-02-18 00:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to send out invitatioms the normal way.
Jane and Joe request the honor of you presence at the wedding on May 1, 2008 at the Marriott Hotel in Aruba.
or however you want to word it.
Then your reception card:
Please join us when we return from our wedding at our reception on May 12, 2007 at....
Then maybe for your response card you can have options
I will attend ______ the ceremony
______ the reception
______ both
I regretfully decline______
2007-02-21 15:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋