I met this really nice girl at a social event recently and invited her out to a hockey game. We had good fun and arranged to get togther on another ocassion. The second date we went out for dinner, then to a movie and then hung out at my place playing guitar and listening to music. The third date was similar, dinner out at a nice Japanese Restaurant and then we went for a walk and also watched a movie at mine. Each time, when it was time for her to leave, she gave me a quick hug and then went straight in to her car. There was no 'moment' for a goodnight kiss or any opportunity to hold her hand or have any physical contact on any of the dates. We exchange emails daily and have a good banter going and I send her a card on Valentines Day, so she knows that I like her in that way. Question is, should I bother going on a 4th date or should I just leave it and move on. Her words say one thing (very complimentary and encouraging) but her actions tell me she probably isnt interested.
2007-02-17 15:50:45 · 18 answers · asked by stack888 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, she is the first person I've met in a couple of years that I've really liked a lot. And for all the people that keep saying if I'm expecting to sleep with her right away.....well, let me just say thats about the LAST thing I'm thinking of right now! It would just be nice to hold hands at some point or feel some connection other than just as someone to hang out with. And no, she nor I have ever been married before nor have any kids to complicate things.
2007-02-17 16:05:12 · update #1
Give her some more space and see if that helps. Try ignoring her a little. Girls like to be noticed.
I would go for the 4th date. By your age you can wait a couple more weeks for a first kiss. Are you looking for a good relationship with her? If so, you can afford to give her a little more time.
2007-02-17 15:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just concentrate on having fun with her, maybe she has been through some stuff with an ex and now she wants to move slow, maybe she has children and wants to make sure that you are the "Right" One if things were to unexpectedly advance. Relax things happen when you least expect. On the other hand she may just see you as a friend and does not want to make that move and let you think that things will go further, I say feel her out some more and see if she sees you in a Romantic or Friendship light.
2007-02-17 15:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all u are after is the booty then move on. She is too good for you.
Otherwise, she seems like a nice decent, polite lady who enjoys your company. If you enjoy being with her, and the feeling is mutual, definately keep seeing her. I'm sure things will come around. She is still getting to know you and may not quite feel the affection yet. Try just giving her a peck on the cheek, or maybe a real long hug.
2007-02-17 16:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the major problem with most relationships is poor communication. So if you want to have a romantic relationship, start it out right by TALKING. Tell her what you want and ask her if she feels the same way. I know it will be hard and quite scary, (the risk of being shot down is there), but at least you will know where you stand at the end of the conversation. She may be shy or she may have been hurt or a hundred other things. . .so talk it out. Good luck!
2007-02-17 16:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should go on a fourth date. dont give up that easily on her if u truely feel the way u do about her. patience is a virtue im tellin u. i went thru a similar situation accept i was her. i was the one going on a few dates and they were fun but i just didnt want to move to fast to seem easy. so maybe thats how she feels. just give her sometime cuz the ones who put out immediately are the ones u get bored with just as fast. so just be patient, even if its hard lol.
2007-02-17 15:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cheyna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang give her some time, not every woman rushes into a relationship or bed. Maybe she's the kind of woman that likes to take things slow or maybe she's been in a bad relationship. If you really like her she's worth waiting for if all you want is payment for your dates maybe you should move on.
2007-02-17 15:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl likes a guy she won't sleep with him right away, if that's what you're waiting for. Maybe she wants to see if you're a nice guy that is actually genuinely interested in her because she's been hurt before. You should go out on a fourth date if you have fun with her. Try to become friends with her and wait til she gives you a hint that she wants you to kiss her or does it herself.
2007-02-17 15:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by *Angel Preciosa* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she’s testing you.
On the 3rd date what do you expect to happen?
My suggestion: Communication bud! You’re 30 something. Talk to her.
Do your conversations flow?
Does she show any signs of liking you?
Maybe she’s not sure, and that’s why she’s dating you. Testing you, are you worthy?
30 something women are not willing to jump into bed on the 3rd date. At lest the keepers are not willing..lol
So, talk to her. Find out if she’s having fun with you and if she would like to continue dating you. If she does, ask her where she wants the relationship to go? What are her goals. We all know yours..lol
Best of luck
2007-02-17 16:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if she likes you or just likes you as a friend. Maybe she likes you and with guys she likes she definitly does like to move to fast. If it makes you feel better me and my ex did not end up kissing for like a month. If you really like her you will stick around to see if she is really into you or not.
2007-02-17 15:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by whitneyrude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds shy. Maybe you should try a fourth and talk a bit more in depth to where things are going.
2007-02-17 15:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋