Is he right? He says equal rights equal gifts.
2007-02-17 15:43:24 · 30 answers · asked by pinkmaniac86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He isnt right for asking and saying something like that. you can get him something but dont pay attention to value, like trying to equal what he spent, just something from your heart.
give him something significantly lower in price than he spent for you, and see his reaction. if he gives attitude about how much more he spent, then you know all he was thinking about was the value .....give him a thank you card and write how much he means to you and see what he does.
2007-02-17 15:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by khjunior1980 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring is traditionally the property of the man until the marriage ceremony takes place. The ring is the consideration for the proposed contract of marriage. If the woman does not follow through with the marriage, she traditionally gives the ring back. The point is that the engagement ring is traditionally not a gift. And, I know of no woman, including myself, who reciprocated. How romantic is that, anyway? Talk about strings attached. Is he serious or just being a smarty pants?
2007-02-17 15:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um.....well......he would be right if thats how your entire relationship has been....where you recipricate every gift he got you with a gift for him.....in tradition, the woman saying yes was the gift to the man. I guess, in 2007, he is spouting equal rights....how does that make you feel? Sounds like you guys have a lot to talk about and get to know about each other before the wedding...... Anyway, you can get him a card that says how happy you are to be engaged to him...if that is not enough, I would question if this is the guy for you to marry...but that's just my opinion... If he's like this with the engagement, what's the marriage gonna be like? Comparing paystubs? ....
2007-02-17 15:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Tell him when you help out with the down payment on house or pay for some updating on it or....are pregnant eventually that THAT's his engagement AND wedding present! YOU should be his engagement present right now and if he's not happy with that gift, you should look into the law enforcement section and find out if once you have the expensive engagement ring and break up, do you get to keep it. lol. NO, he is not right!
2007-02-17 15:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As sooo many previous poster had said " you are NOT required to buy an engagement gift " for him. There is NO SUCH thing and if he "thinks" he should get one-- then maybe you should have him explain as to WHY he thinks he deserve one. IF equal rights = equal gifts--- then ask if he would like to pay for the wedding?? (as most tradition-- the bride have to fork out that piece of the pie!)
2007-02-17 18:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by niku414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAH! Funny stuff. Welcome to the feminized world. And if it were the other way around, you're supposed to be equal. If you're going to be the annoying feminist-type of spouse, then hell yeah you better get him something of equal value. Y'all try to beat us men over the head with feminist politics; if you're going to dish it out, it's time to take!
That being said, in the real world, that engagement ring is NOT a gift, it's HIS ring. If you don't marry him, you give him his ring back. If you somehow think the ring is a gift, then you are duty bound to give him something of equal value in return.
2007-02-17 16:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he purchase your ring just so he could get something? How selfish!!! You tell him to go jump off a cliff. An engagement is about finding your soul mate and wanting to spend your live together! I'm getting married in August. I plan on buying my fiance a really nice wedding gift. I realize the sacrifices he made for me. But, he doesn't EXPECT it. I'm doing it because I appreciate him. Your guy is unbelievable!
2007-02-17 19:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by Melody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what i've heard/seen usually the bride-to-be will get something for the groom-to-be (a nice watch or something). that said it should be a gift out of love not a requirement of repayment. The engagement ring is supposed to be a gift of love to you from him he shouldn't expect anything back, though it's nice to get him something. He shouldn't give a gift just to get one. If that's what he wanted he should have bought a ring for himself.
2007-02-17 18:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i got engaged i bought my fiance a ring also, it is a gold ring with a black onyx stone with mine and his intial engraved on it, it made for a nice gesture and he gets to show everyone that he has me.
i suffer from a condition that often causesmy hands to swell, so we have decided that if we don't wear our rings after the wedding we are going to have either hearts or infinity symbols tattooed onto our ring finger - just little tiny ones, so that we just know they are there.
it isn't a traditional for you to buy him a gift and he is acting like a bit of a child expecting one, after all he was the one who proposed. but if you love him enough to marry him,despite knowing that he is unlikley to change his ways, i would just buy him a gift, like a ring or maybe an engraved watch.
best of luck.
2007-02-17 19:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by frost7216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a new one... I've never heard of that before. Regardless, I certainly don't see any harm in buying him a gift. This is the man you are intending on marrying, buy him a gift and make him happy. Congrats on the engagement!
2007-02-17 15:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree, and if this is a "keep score" kind of relationship, it can't be healthy. If you feel the need or want to get him an engagement gift, I would suggest tickets to a sporting event or concert, depending of course on what his interests are.
Best of Luck!
2007-02-17 15:48:00 · answer #11 · answered by Kbear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋