Ok so I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 months now and we were really good friends before I asked her out. Ok so the deal is that I feel as if she doesn’t like me as much as I like her. Kind of like she is at the top of my priorities and I’m at the bottom of hers. I’m feeling this because she is always busy and I don't see her as often as I would like and when she has free time she spends it with one of her many friends. Don't get me wrong we do spend time together but we haven done anything (just the two of us) in a while. I don't even think she knows she is upsetting me, completely oblivious. I thought about dumping her because I don't want to love and receive none in return but I really like her and don't want to break up. Maybe you guys have some suggestion?
2007-02-17 15:30:47 · 9 answers · asked by gotansas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please just helpfull advice dont patronize
2007-02-17 15:32:06 · update #1
Try talking to her about all this. It could be that she's just really busy or has some kind of personal problem in her life right now.
You're likely to get better results by talking to her than by listening to random people on here tell you to put up with her or dump her.
2007-02-17 15:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been here! Trust me on this one!
When I was in this situation, I recieved a very valuable piece of advice: don't be so available. If this girl thinks you are too "into" her, it will turn her off. At this point she may think you are too desperate or clingy. Trust me, this is not attractive. Though it may be hard to do, you need to spend more time pursuing your own interests and having a life of your own apart from her (because it sounds like she has enough of a life without you).
If you do this, it may make her come after YOU for once. If it doesn't, then you deserve a better lady, and you will already have an alright life without her anyway.
P.S. I'm sorry, I know this is a hard situation to go through.
2007-02-17 23:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by dbrown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all i am female. second im single at the time. ;) lol.
But. . . If you really need advise i think that you should sit her down and talk to her when you both have the time and make sure you tell her EXACTLY how you feel and if your able to talk it out in a mature manner, then thats great and maybe things will get better if you take action on the things you both need to change and maybe you can work your schedules around one another and call each other when you can. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 23:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something really romantic together. Like take her under the stars or to watch the sunset. Girls like dates that are special, something that they will always remember, you could even suprise her. Take her somewhere you can be alone and not interupted. Have real conversation with her. make her fall for you all over again. Hurry, don't let the love die.
2007-02-17 23:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by gocoutureyourself x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's to bad this has happened, but I am sure that you have heard the saying, "If you want to ruin a good friendship, start dating." I would talk to her, maybe she is still nervous about dating a friend. In the grand scheme of things, two months isn't that long. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-17 23:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by HAGAR!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumping her should be the last thing you try. Do everything else first (talk to her about it, let her know how you feel, give her an ultimatum, etc.).
2007-02-17 23:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by brian123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so honestly you two had a lovey relationship, then she realized that she was ditching her friends for you and they are IMPORTANT too so she is trying to give them attention... if u really wanna get her back buy her somthing and find/write a poem... girls usually like that... well i think its gay but most girls like it
2007-02-17 23:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to look for another girlfriend.
She's just not that into you.
Sorry.
2007-02-17 23:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i agree, try talking to her about it.
she probably doesnt realize shes doing it, you may be creating things in your head
tell her how you feel
if she likes you then she'll understand.
2007-02-17 23:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by carly m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋