2007-02-17 15:27:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A young man will have desires and does not usually consider the girls age. The reason could be, and many times is, that this young lady is maturing, physically, faster than others at the 6th grade level. Some older girls can fool men by having faults I.D.'s as we all have heard. Does this girl make passes at him or is it just his desires? If he wants to get to know her, it is ok to have her as a friend, but always under supervision. Never alone and no romance, just friendship. Later, maybe! He must be told that his/her age is not appropriate as the physical looks of a girl does not mean she is mature enough to have relationships. I would suggest that the girl needs counseling or her parents because it appears that she is after him in someway. Not enough info to say one way or another, but ask him if she is.. God bless. Earl
2007-02-17 15:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can honestly say that I am a ninth grader myself. Please use this and show it to you son. Going out with someone much younger is pretty much like long-distance dating. They aren't really good. A lot of my friends date people younger than them and by the time the older people graduate the younger person gets into high school the next year. It has happened to me once. My friend asked me out and I was in eighth grade. He just graduated last year. I would tell your son that dating someone younger than him might be what he wants but not whats best for him. Don't let him date whoever the sixth grader is. And as for counseling.....I wouldn't do it just yet...wait and see what he does. Hopefully it works. Good luck.
2007-02-17 23:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have to ask a couple questions...How old are the kids we are talking about? I am assuming about 14 and 12, respectively. If you look at just the age in numbers, they are really not that far apart. However, when you think about it in terms of where they are in school and what they may be learning in high school as opposed to middle school, it seems more unusual.
However, I would not opt for counseling over this. Please talk with your son and ask what appeals to him about this girl and what HE thinks attracts her to him.
At his age, he should be able to give you clear and healthy reasons for wanting particular friends and/or girlfriends. Try to remember that in the not so long ago past, people were marrying by the age of 14 and younger and it was usually to someone much older. Our recent times have gotten away from this practice, but believe me, 12 and 14 year olds operate on much the same levels and in many ways we wish they would not.\
I think this questions has an awful lot to do with the actual kids involoved - and their parents, too!
Good Luck.
2007-02-17 23:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by imoffmynut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since your previous question was about your 6th grader wanting to date a 9th grader I would have to say that either you should get your 9th grade children together and your 6th grade children together or else suggest that you not make up questions that aren't true...
2007-02-18 06:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Erika H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think so. That really isn't so bad. It is only three years, and girls tend to mature faster than boys, so really, it isn't that big of a stretch. I would talk to him about it and ask him what attracts her to him. Chances are, it is nothing out of the ordinary. Talk to him about what would happen after he turned 18, give him a "talk" about it, and keep a close eye. If you completely forbid it, then that will make her all the more attractive. If you send him to counseling, chances are that you will waste a lot of money to find out he is perfectly normal.
To go to counseling something needs to be abnormal. He likes young children, things that should not be considred sexual, needed sexual things too much, etc.
2007-02-17 23:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not counseling, but don't let him do it. Remind him of the huge age difference and the fact it's legally wrong. It may not seem like a big deal to him but he needs to keep in mind it's not a good thing. If he persists, then maybe counseling.
2007-02-17 23:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goodness gracious, I think the mother of that 6th grader is somewhere on this site- I answered her question about {possibly} your son and her daughter dateing.
Don't get him counseling, just don't let them date.
2007-02-18 01:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little young. ONLY 9th grade? I'm a sophomore. "Going out" doesn't mean anything. It just means they want to be friends. If he wanted serious dating, that'd be different. Don't get 'counseling'. Do you do that whenever something happens that you think is abnormal? Anyway, being friends is fine. I have several younger friends. Wanting to date is getting creepy...
2007-02-18 09:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need counseling what are you going to do with a pregnant 6th grader
2007-02-17 23:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by boredism 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can he not find someone a little older? That is disgusting. If you allow him to go, I am sure a legal matter will come up sooner or later. As a parent, you shouldn't even have to think twice about this. Maybe he does need counseling because that is not normal.
2007-02-17 23:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋