My husband's dear Aunt decided to start giving me as birthday and Christmas gifts a pattern of chinaware that I really do not like. I told my husband and he feels I should accept the gifts and put the chinaware away in a cupboard and just use it when she visits. I feel we should mention to my Aunt that we don't like the pattern and ask that perhaps she could get another pattern - we don't have enough room for two sets of dishes. I feel terrible as I love this lady and I know she is kind to give the gifts... but I can envisage having hundreds of pieces of china in a pattern I don't like, stored in a huge cupboard ..... this is causing some conflict between my husband and I.
I don't want to sound ungrateful - I just would rather have nothing than have someone spend their hard-earned money on something we will just store away....
thanks!
2007-02-17 15:23:07 · 5 answers · asked by JustSo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That is quite a quandry. And the answer is a muddy one. It really depends on her personality. If you think it will hurt her feelings, then just hold onto it, stick in the cupboard and consider your appreciation of the gift to her a good deed.
If she's really easy going and you think she'd rather know then go ahead and tell Auntie that you're not sure the pattern is one thats in line with your household decor.
Whatever you do, be tactful and remember this can permanently affect your relationship with her and the rest of his family. Best of luck!!
2007-02-17 15:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a gift you are not supposed to refuse a gift
personally i dont care if you do not like it
it is a gift
if you say what you want you will end up insulting this woman
and will probably never get a thing from her again
and you will be labelled as the ungrateful woman that ----- married
it is an age thing
so be a good wife listen to your husband shut up and say thank you to the dear that is how you handle this
and if you want go ahead report me but i just tellin like it is
2007-02-17 23:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty is the best policy. Of course, you want to be tactful. You just can't have china in a pattern you don't even care for.
2007-02-17 23:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Croa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question. Could you talk it over with your Aunt, while your husband is with you. Naturally, you and hubby will have to choose your words carefully. But I believe you should let your Aunt know your predicament, and I am sure your Aunt would appreciate your speaking up. Good Luck!
2007-02-17 23:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by dogwhitenowra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her that you do not have space for any more china. Tell her you appreciate the pieces you have, but just couldn't possibly accommodate for an entire set.
2007-02-18 00:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋