The guy I like tells me constantly he loves me and likes me, but I'm not so sure he's truly sincere. He's sweet and all but he has a past. Plus I'm always being told by other girls he tells them the same things. So how do I know for sure he means it when he tells me he loves me?
2007-02-17 15:11:27 · 15 answers · asked by x_peterryro_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i just got with this girl 4 months ago..and i have to say its the most intense relationship i have ever been in..we have so much in common and we are different in many ways..i also have a past and she has changed me in a positive way..i am very prideful..and in most situations i would never change for someone..well its not that i actually changed for her its that being with her i noticed the feelings that were there and how happy of person i had become..i love who i am now that im with her she makes me feel good about myself and keeps me going in the right direction when i get carried away with something or start thinking negative...i had the chance to be with someone i have waited on for 4 yrs. but when it came down to it i chose the girl i was with for only 4 months...if i guy truly feels that way and is not just lookin for *** he will tell you why he loves you and actually sound sincere...he will go into great detail... and do whatever it takes to be with you...and about those other girls..it could be true that he does just say that to everyone he's with or maybe he just wants a strong connection with someone so he keeps searchin...hope this helps
2007-02-17 15:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by jeff t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never know for sure, if you wish to go out with him you will have to take a chance,don't get to involved be friends and see how things go. If you tell him about the comments that have been made about him,he will either be on his best behavior, or you will put him on trial.Time will tell, the point is do you love him?It seems in this situation that your lack of trust is causing you a great deal of insecurity,maybe it is unwise to go out with him on a serious level.The other possibility is Jealousy from your girlfriends but there is no smoke without fire.
2007-02-17 15:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those times to bust out the good ol' female intuition. My guess...since you clearly have doubts, is that he doesn't mean it. If he really did love you, his every action would show you and you wouldn't question his sincerity. Sounds cliche, but actions really do speak louder than words.
2007-02-17 15:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Your guy" probably does mean it when he tells you he loves you. He probably also means it when he tells other girls he loves them. Some "guys" have learned they get what they want if they tell girls they love them. Some girls have learned the same.
I have "loved" several men in my 66 years of life; and, have told them so. I had a "romping good time" with all my loves; but only married two of them. I don't think I was insincere in telling any of my "men" that I loved them. I did--at the time.
2007-02-17 15:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good question, hon. Most men say that when they really mean something else, like they want to get into your pants. Don't fall for it. If a guy really likes/loves you, he will respect you, give you space, not pressure you, give you little things or do little things for you that SHOW you he cares. He should also do things for your family, not just you, to show he wants to be a part of your family. Men like that are rare. Most, like I said, just want something FROM you, not want to GIVE you of themselves.
2007-02-17 15:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsinglemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best way to find out is by always paying close attention to him, as for example looking at him directly in his eyes, interpreting the words he tries to tell you. But please do not open his past at all let the guy be himdelf and please do not pay attention to the girls maybe he is really meaning it but you should always be aware. later on he will probably show his real emotions. me mature and patient.
2007-02-17 15:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i'm Demonica28451. talk to me sometime when u get the chance. i would give u the best answer but to tell u the truth i think u should trust ur friends. but if ur friends act all jelious kinda then don't give him up. believe me i have bf and friend problems like that.
2007-02-17 15:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by JB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never be sure of someone else's feelings, but if you've been together for a long time, i think you should be able to trust him if he hasn't done anything untrustworthy during your relationship. if it's only been a few months, you shouldn't take his words at face value.
if you're questioning his feelings, you should ask yourself how much you trust him and what he says and does.
2007-02-17 15:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by peaches87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have to much doubt. when there is doubt or no trust in a relationship it will never work out. i suggest you find someone you can trust and know 100% for sure that he loves you.
2007-02-17 15:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't tell for sure. But if he pays attention, and looks out for your interests whenever he can, it's a good bet that he does.
2007-02-17 15:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋