While I was serving in Iraq I lost both my parents in a car accident. A few weeks later I was injured in a IED explosion which almost crippled me. I spent the next 6 months in a hospital bed in Germany learning how to walk again. After I was medically discharged I returned home to empty house with no parents. I spent the following months trying to find a job, organize my parents finances, and deal with my physical disability. I still have nightmares from Iraq and sleep only 3 or 4 hours a night. Since I have no relatives or siblings I have been forced to deal with my situation alone. I've become distant from my friends and find myself suffering from depression. However, I take one day at a time, that's all I can ask. I want to get help with my depression, but the counseling offices at V.A. are overwhelmed and it will be months before my next appointment. I can't afford see someone on my own...what can I do? I don't usually like asking for help, but right now I'm at a loss.
2007-02-17 14:59:33 · 9 answers · asked by Sarge 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
talk to a minister or doctor
2007-02-17 15:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by al s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just face it. You have found the strength to get through all of this so far so you must be a pretty strong person.
I am not saying don't seek help, but no matter what help you get it is still up to you to do the things that need to be done.
Make a list of the things that have to be done & put them in order of most importance.
Every place that you go to will help you to better under stand what is needed from you.
You may needed legal help to clear up your parents affairs.
If you have been disabled do you get disability pay?
Are there assets from your parents?
In other words do you have the resources to get you by day to day?
After all you have been through it is hard not to have bad thoughts
& depression.
So you will have to look for little gains that bring a better order to your life & good things to look forward to.
You will have to work at it by finding & doing good things to fill you heart & soul to replace more & more of the bad things that have happened to you.
Remember to look for the good things in your life even if there isn't a lot of good out there now.
As we dwell on the pain it only gets worse.
If we can find something good to dwell on, while we dwell on that we may not spend as much time thinking of our pain.
You have gotten your self this far & you don't sound like you will give up.
Just getting to another day is a victory of a sort.
2007-02-17 15:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sarge..
Hang in as best that you can and check out this web site.
http://www.elitedvbe.org
The guy that started this deal is a retired E-9 with 30 and a polished piece of work; we did time in NAM togther but never crossed paths. He has been a friend for what seems like forever and he WILL HELP if he can! DO NOT use the email because it is FUBAR, pick up the phone and call HIM! When "Jessica" answers the phone say that, "I am his attorney calling about the hamster charges", you will get RIGHT through mosh skosh!
If that doesn't work shoot me mail and I will give you his direct line.
Hang TIGHT and WE will get IT DONE!
I have another friend that is a retired Army isabled VET. He took a shot covering my donkey in Nam and is having a pacemaker installed as I write.
You have FRIENDS that can HELP so be SAFE and be COOL.
I SALUTE YOU and THANK YOU for picking up the FLAG on my behalf!
USN 1966- incountry
"Honorary" Marine Corps DI
2007-02-17 15:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by jacquesstcroix 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you contact a Veterans Service Officer, their is one usually in or close to the court house, if not, you can locate one on the VA's Web site, their link is http://www.va.gov/
take a copy of your DD-214 with you and explain your situation.
Even though, as you stated, the VA is overwhelmed and may take time to get an appointment you need to start the process to get the help that you are seeking. Since you did not state that you are receiving benefits, If you are not, you are entitled to them. rehabilitation, medical, education, just to name a few.
Also, contact your local Veterans Trust, since you are now in charge of your parents finances and estate, take your bills to Veterans Trust, they will review your situation and may be able to help you pay some bills. You are entitled to benefits from VA but they cannot start to help you unless you make the contact.
I hope this will help you.
Sorry of your loss of your parents and your injuries that you are suffering through. As I always say.....
FOR THOSE WHO SERVED BEFORE ME, WITH ME AND AFTER ME. THANK YOU.
FROM ONE VET TO ANOTHER
2007-02-18 14:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, allow me to say that i am sad for your loss, and what that put you through and still is and in time you will see them again. As for your injuries, are you still in any type of rehabilitation? And your sleep, is it 3 or 4 hours straight or cluttered with the nightmares? Have you tried your congressman, chaplain, or local priest? Army one source is a good place for info with lots of links also, and the counselling is free. contact me if there is anything that you want to talk over. keep the faith.
2007-02-17 16:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by sofmatty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PTSD is pretty serious.Complex and difficult probs you have.
Why become distant from friends they are your best asset.Get a hold of them.Get with other Vets and talk what bothers you this is the beginning of healing not sitting and being reclusive.
YOU CAN DO THIS.This is one of the best ways to cope.
Friends are never far away,they will be there for you.
WELCOME BACK SOLDIER,WELL DONE.
2007-02-17 15:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by thresher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the VA cannot give you the care you need, when you need it, ask for a statement of Non-availabliity. It will allow you to get care where and when you need it. Your congressman, or local representative should be quick to help you. You do need to ask for help first. Then the ball will get rolling. Get your local Veterans affairs rep to talk to you, and facilitate the help you need right now. Get off your duff and get moving, soldier!
God Bless you.
A fellow veteran
2007-02-17 15:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by David B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can walk right into the VA and they will put you into a ptsd program for a couple of weeks. no waiting Go down there and Good Luck Buddy
2007-02-17 15:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 07:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by rambhool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋