2007-02-17 14:56:11 · 21 answers · asked by Peaches 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with everyone else that it's really tacky to ask people to pay for their own food at your reception. If you can't afford to pay for food, just have a cake and punch reception.
If you insist on doing this against the advice of everyone who is answering this, my suggestion of wording would be:
No host reception immediately following the ceremony.
2007-02-17 15:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing on the wedding invitation is the announcement of the actual wedding. I have never heard of guest being asked to pay for their own food at the reception. Maybe it is acceptable where ever you are from, but it isn't done here. Maybe you should have a simple reception, cake and punch, maybe some nuts and mints, and that would solve your problem. You could ask some close friends and family members if they would make some finger foods in lieu of a wedding gift. I just don't believe that expecting your guest to pay to eat at your reception is going to be received very well. It is a little (lot) tacky.
2007-02-17 15:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
2 sets of invitations. One set with "typical" wording for the people attending the wedding and, I assume the reception. The second set, make it an invitation to your reception to "Celebrate" your marriage. There are many books at the library to help you with the wording on each set. Also, IF you are ordering them, whoever you order your invitations from should have experience and know how to word each set for you and/or use wording you may want or find. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO EXPLAIN IN THE INVITATIONS FOR THE RECEPTION, WHY THESE PEOPLE WERE NOT INVITED TO THE WEDDING. NO MATTER WHAT, DON'T LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY IN ANY WAY, FOR ONLY INVITING CERTAIN PEOPLE TO THE WEDDING ONLY AND ALL THE REST TO THE RECEPTION. This is NOT uncommon for couples to do. Some get married at the courthouse, then have a large reception.
2016-05-24 00:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's considered bad etiquette to announce this on the invitation, or in any other way. But don't worry if you don't have the budget for food, just have the wedding during the day (not dinner time) and provide light snacks. Have a cash bar. Close friends and family will probably help you pay for the snacks/appetizers if you need. If not, it won't cost too much if you save ahead. The important thing is the wedding itself, and having friends and family there together to share the day with you. Don't worry about providing fancy food. Everyone will understand.
2007-02-17 15:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are are a lot of opinions about this... some of them have called you tacky... but there are ways to do weddings on a budget like a small cake and coffee reception in the church hall immediately after the ceremony. This is done in many parts of the country and is very affordable.
If you want a longer party and don't have the cash for it, have something really informal like a picnic at a park.
But the people who said you should not be asking your guests to pay for their own food are correct, this is tacky... and will cause friends and family to talk about your wedding for many years -- but not in the way you want them to remember it!
2007-02-17 15:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question was not clear. Are you saying that you are making your guests pay for their food at your wedding reception?
That is very very tacky. I have NEVER had to pay for food at someone's wedding reception. And I'm not about to start now. If you are making people pay for their food, then you can't afford to get married.
As to your question...If you are requiring everyone to pay, except the wedding party, you do not need to include that in the wedding invitation. Just tell the wedding party verbally.
2007-02-17 15:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't attend a reception where I had to buy my own food, considering I would have already bought an outfit to wear and a wedding gift. I think that's tacky. I would have a reception with finger foods before I would make people pay for a dinner. That is very tacky.
2007-02-17 15:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually the term is "no host." I have seen this used for cocktails only though. Such as "no host" cocktails means there is a bar but each will pay for their own drinks. I have never heard of not paying for the guests' food at a reception though. I do not think there is a good way to phrase something like that. That is what a reception is - a way to treat your guests. If you don't want to pay to feed them, then just have reception with cake and punch.
2007-02-17 22:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To do something like that is stupid. You want people to come to your wedding reception, bring you a gift and then pay for their own food? You will probably end up being the only people there. Have a good time!
2007-02-17 15:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You put a small seperate card along with the invitation that says Something like please join in our first meal as a married couple dinner is (dollar amount) per plate. Dont be ridiculous though, we were invited to a wedding where the couple wanted 1,000 dollars per plate. We were like ARE YOU KIDDING, we didnt even attend because people should not have to pay a lot of money for your wedding.
2007-02-17 15:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋