there's really nothing wrong with me, i mean i get asked out by boys and stuff, but it seems like only the wrong boys ask me out. either my parents don't like the boy or sth else, what should i do. i want to get my firt kissssssssssssss! i'm desperate to knw what a kiss feels like.
2007-02-17 14:52:32 · 13 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Science & Mathematics ➔ Engineering
You're not alone. I regret to admit that I will soon be 23 and am in the same boat. Like yourself, I have not lacked interest from guys, but they have either been ones I was definately not interested in (usually because I was insterested in someone else) or else they have all seemed to suffer from exceptionally poor timing (for example, asking me out one week before they knew I was moving away to university). My attitude towards this changes day by day. Sometimes I feel pretty content knowing I haven't thrown away my first kiss on someone I really don't care that much about. Other times I feel like a complete loser. Sometimes I consider that in earlier times it probably wouldn't have been unusual for a young woman to not be kissed until she was courting with marriage in mind. Then I consider that a few hundred years ago I would probably be married at 16 and have had five children by now. So I guess we're really not abnormal, we just aren't typical of our time. I also suspect that this is not as uncommon as people suppose. In my first year of university I was not the only girl in my circle of friends who had not been kissed. I think if people were willing to answer truthfully without fear of embarrassment, you'd probably find a lot of them out there who are in the same situation as we are. I'll be keeping an eye on the responses you get, because I don't mind telling you that I'm quite interested in the results.
2007-02-17 15:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jai-sama 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This isn't really an engineering question, and you might get better results if you would go to the sections on dating and relationships or society and culture.
But kissing and sex are not physical needs like air, water, and food. You can live a long time with no kisses. But I will venture to guess that at your age you are a little too reserved and frightened of intimacy. Or maybe the big fear is that you will find out you don't like it, or that it will turn into something too hot to handle.
You need to be thinking long and deep about what you really want, and what you are afraid of. If in doubt, wait. But when you are sure you are with someone you can trust, go ahead. If he doesn't kiss you, kiss him. I have had a happy relationship for 22 years with a girl who kissed me first. And I probably would never have kissed her if she hadn't.
2007-02-17 15:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by aviophage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you're able to comprehend the thank you to kiss a boy until eventually now college? Are you going to college on your "Mrs." degree? under no circumstances having kissed a boy at age 17 is extra widely used than you think of. don't be fooled with the help of flicks and the bragging of acquaintances. save your lips and your coronary heart for somebody properly worth kissing. focus on your study and on the failings that help you advance and advance as a individual. whilst the dazzling guy comes alongside on the dazzling time, the whole kissing element will fall into place. truthful.
2016-09-29 06:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to have the same prob. Im 17 too and havent had my first kiss either. Ive been asked out too but i never have feelings for them back. Dont worry though. Someone will eventually come along. :)
2007-02-17 15:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Meow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to places when the "smart boys" are like a library for instance. Take advice from me, i'm 43 and was the same way when i was young. If i had waited for the more classy guys to come by, then i wouldnt be where i am today. poor. Your parents are just looking out for your well being (you cant see that now)but later when you get older you will be glad you listened. I know, I didnt.
2007-02-17 15:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by gingerjar44 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey , yer i know theres nothing wrong with you, im only 15 but i dont now how good my advice will be and im a guy. but you just have to wait the right time, dont get to far ahead of your self and expect evry guy to kiss you. some guys wait for the right moment to kis a girl to coz they dont like to be rejected. all i can say is that , when you date a guy dont expect it to happen , coz if it doesnt you will feel bad, just let it happen ur self and see how good it feels to get you first, kiss/ pash watevr one you want.
------Good Luck--------
Jono
2007-02-17 15:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by love_lies_bleed_lp4 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK Your probably old enough.I would date guys that ask you out.But remember to make your own rules,if they break the rules dump them.Be responsible and sensible.Read up on what does happen ask parents to help they will.
2007-02-17 15:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok fine i will kiss every body
sereously is nothing wrong with you just be patiant
2007-02-17 22:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by koki83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's quite simple. If they won't kiss you first, kiss THEM first. They're guys, they won't turn you down...
2007-02-17 15:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sean T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe your body lauguage is not sending an inviting signal
2007-02-17 15:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by phyteacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋