i have two kids now and work a bad paying job and my husband job screws him around all the time and we have a hard time now and i was 5 weeks pregaent and i had a abortion i am against them but i knew that we would not be able to afford the third one.
2007-02-17 14:17:22 · 22 answers · asked by Jennifer T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i was in your situation and did the same thing stop second guessing your self you did what was right for the family you already have you can not talk away what you don't have to from the kids you already have what you did took strength and courage
dont let others make you feel guilty for thinking of your family first
2007-02-17 21:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if you knew you could afford another one, and that it would have added extra stain to your marraige and family then it probably was the right thing to do. Don't listen to the people who just say go to this anti-abortion site and now feel bad about what yu have done. It's an indervidual choice. I think it's awful when I see these poor kids losing out on essentials in life becuase their parents can't provide for them. Maybe in future use some form of contraception.....
just adding in here aswell - to those who have said to adopt the child out....do you have any idea how hard it would be to carry a child and give birth to it, and then give it up? why do you think the waiting lists are so long for adoption, women are emtional creatures, very few ae able to just hand a baby over and be emtionally ok with that. they did carry it for 9 months and already have a bond with the child.
2007-02-17 22:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by three_red_shoes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For all of you people who made rude comments you should be ASHAMED of yourselves. This woman had to make a truley tough decision and is looking towards you for guidance. I am prolife also but that is no reason or excuse to make rude remarks.
I don't personally know what you are going through, but my cousin had to have an abortion, and not because she didn't want the baby. She did want the baby, but carrying the baby posed many health risks for her. Her blood pressure rose to very high levels and she had to choose to abort the baby or continue carrying the baby and risk both of their lives in the end. Also, her and her husband weren't financially stable enough to bring a second child into the world. She had to make a really tough decision by aborting the baby. She was extremely sad about having to do it, but she knew that it was the right thing to do at the time. She now has 2 more beautiful children and had them at a time that was right for her.
I hope that this helps you.
2007-02-18 00:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by schs_spartan 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Having an abortion almost always leads you to question whether you did the right thing, and no one can actually tell you that...we are not walking in your shoes. If you and your husband taked this over and felt that it was all you could do under the present circumstances, then you both must live with that decision. THere may be a time in the future when things are more level for you financially and you can have another baby. Dont beat yourself up over this... you're going to be OK!
2007-02-17 22:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by bflogal77 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What u did was not only right for u but for the child.I know this is a answer people are against but I truely believe that not only your child would of suffered but your two children would of too. I have one child and I'm a single mom.It is hard and u want the best for your child. I wish more people would think about it before they have alot of kids they can't afford.Good luck to u
2007-02-18 10:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i would say no it wasnt the right thing, adoption is a much better choice. i am prolife, so would of course say anything is better than that. i do think that if you couldn't afford another child, it is bullshit that you took the life away from an innocent unborn child when so many families and couples would LOVE to have a little boy or girl. but cannot have them. so think that if you dont want or can't have the child in your life then you should at least allow those couples to have the chance to be parents. hell you can even still be involved (open adoption) and a lot of times will even pay for all the prenatal costs and hospital bills.... plus give you some money as well
2007-02-17 22:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
"We women know when it is or is not the right time to bring a child into the world...We act out of compassion when we wait to have a child until the time when we can give it the kind of life every child deserves. We act out of love when we consider what we would be taking away from the child or children we already have if we brought another child into our family now...We women know the truth: That given certain circumstances, abortion is the most morally responsible and loving choice we can make."
http://www.beliefnet.com/story/120/story_12022_1.html
2007-02-17 23:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think that an abortion would be more expensive, both emotionally and monetarily. IUD's are about $300 and they last from 5-12 yrs. Now you know. I can't tell you whether or not an abortion was right for you, you shouldn't be asking nameless strangers.
2007-02-17 22:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by rusalka_13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Things have a way of working themselves out and that baby deserved a chance to live. I could never even imagine being married with 2 kids and then aborting my 3rd. This is your family. Its too late now to be asking if it was right or not. Your baby is gone.
2007-02-17 22:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by Blondi 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think what ever choice you have made is yours, you have to let it go if you are feeling guilty. Perhaps a better option would have been giving the baby up for adoption as there are many people who can not have kids who want them. This is not really for me to judge though. What's done is done so it's time to pick up and move forward.
2007-02-17 22:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋