I'm almost 14, and I'm in 8th grade. My boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex, but I keep saying no. He just won't give up! He keeps asking me over and over and over, etc. Should I give in? or should I just let him keep bugging me? We almost did once, but I chickened out last minute.Does that mean I'm afraid to? And if I am, is that weird, or unusual?
2007-02-17 13:49:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congrats Girl!!!
DUMP HIM!!!! He's not the right one for you!
Thanks for reading, and good luck in the future.
2007-02-17 14:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn’t have enough respect for you to understand that no means NO then dump him. You have the right to decide when and if you are ready to have sex and no man (boy) has the right to try and convince you differently.
Most people on here are going to say you are way to young to have sex....I'm not. It's your life, your decision and your choice. Having that choice is a very powerful thing, don't give another person that power over you.
When my niece was 13 years old her first boyfriend pressured her into having sex and she got pregnant. She is now 17 and has a 3 year old son. She had to grow up in a hurry and be a mom when all her friends where having fun. The child’s "father" takes no responsibility for the child and since he is a minor doesn’t have to provide any type of financial support. My niece luckily has a good family support system. We love her and her son and would never give him up for all the wealth in the world...anyhow...
Why did I tell you this story? So you understand that even one time is enough. So you understand that if you are not ready to take the risk of possibly getting pregnant then don't have sex.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you because you don't want to have sex. It doesn’t mean you are scared, it means you are smart. You are NOT weird because you want to wait for the right time ( and person) to have sex. In fact I think you are one hell of a special young woman to be able to stand up to the pressure your boyfriend has put you under and still say no.
Wait for the right time, wait for the right person. If your boyfriend doesn't value you enough to understand your chioce of not wanting to have sex then he is not the "right one".
2007-02-17 13:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by ♥chelley♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just said you chickened out. That tells me that you know your not ready to have sex. At 14 you don't need to be having sex, even though your a teenager, your still a child. Another thing, it's obvious this guy is not respecting your wishes to not have sex, you need to dump him and find a guy that will respect you.
By this guy continuing to bug you about sex that tells me that he also doesn't really care about you the way he should, all he cares about is "gettin some" .
Having sex is an adult act, only you know when you are ready to take that step. You also have to ask yourself if you are ready to be a parent if you are ready to lay down and have sex with someone, there are concequences and responsibilities that come along with having sex.
If it is your first time having sex, you want your first time to be with someone you really care and who really cares about you and that it won't be something you will regret afterwards.
Take your time and stand your ground hun, you'll know when you are ready, and any guy that pressures you to have sex isn't worth having sex with in the first place, kick them to the curb.
2007-02-17 14:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by cpool103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hun. You are 14 years old. No where near ready enough to be having sex! Enjoy what time you have being young without the complications of having sex. If this guy really loved you or really liked you he would respect your wishes and back off. This guy sounds like all he is after is one thing and that's not good.
The bottom line is you aren't ready to ahve sex and you don't want to have sex. It has nothing to do with being afraid to have sex. You will know when you are ready because it will feel right and you will want you. This guy is being awful to you. get him out of your life sweety. No guy who truly liked you would ever put you through this.
2007-02-17 13:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by lucy5ive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't ready. And yes you might be afraid. You'll know when the time is right. It seems to me that the time isn't right for you and if a guy doesn't understand that then throw him some lube and have him jack off. If he doesn't understand you're feelings I say get rid of the ***. And you'll probably heard this before you're too young.
2007-02-17 13:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by B.J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety you are 14 you should not be having sex yet.I was 15 the first time I had sex and I really thought I loved the guy but it is not all it is cracked up to be. Actually it hurt like hell. If your boyfriend isnt willying to wait then he isnt worth dealing with.
2007-02-17 13:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Desirae B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not weird. don't do it if you don't want to. especially at your age. i'm not saying that you're immature or don't understand, but biologically it is unsafe for you to be having sex at your age, as there is a higher risk of STDs.
also, think about what this will do to your reputation. do you want to be known as the girl who gives in? because then some guys might think of you as a slut. but just a thought.
all in all, don't do it unless you feel completely comfortable doing it. you can spend all the time you want thinking about it, but once you've done it you can never take it back.
2007-02-17 13:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by mike_gaerheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young...he's an idiot...I'd just tell him NO and if he asks again, dump him...he's only out for one thing and if you give in, he's going to dump YOU. So keep yourself a virgin for when you fall in love....a GOOD boyfriend doesn't ask for sex, he's there for you and knows the word NO...
2007-02-17 13:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is pressuring you into it, than he really must not want you for you, so I'd say forget about him, since it looks like that's the main thing on his mind. You can find a better guy to respect your innocence. Oh, and if he pulls the "If you don't do it you don't love me" routine, than he must not love you, because he won't wait.
2007-02-17 13:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by latina_magnet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are way too young. It's best that you wait until you are older. If he doesn't love you enough to respect your decision and your body, it may be best to dump him. A guy like that doesn't really love you or even respect you. You are just wasting you time with a jerk like that.
Besides, it is illegal.
2007-02-17 13:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen dear,
don't have sex with him, whatever he may say, you are too young to loose your virginity. I am a guy, and to be honest, life of a guy is not affected much after loosing his virginity but for girls its different. you are too young to understand the technicality.
but to be practical and for your good I would suggest don't do it. have courage to say NO to things you don't like or feel uncomfortable doing.
may lord bless u.
2007-02-17 14:07:30 · answer #11 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋