If a child is molested by her uncle and she tells her aunt his wife, what is going on and she tells the child don't say anything because he will go to jail and the child will get in trouble....is that worse than the molestation? And can it make it harder for the child?
2007-02-17 13:44:23 · 26 answers · asked by *What Goes Around Comes Around 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Shame on the aunt, have the child tell her mother and father immediately.
2007-02-17 13:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
To blame a child for what the uncle has done is 100% wrong. If it happened to this child-how many other children has it hapened to already? For family-that is incest-very much against the law. Who would the child get in trouble with-the aunt? Too bad!!! This man needs to be reported to the cops asap, and the child needs to be in counseling, and to be told that doing the telling is the right thing to do-no matter what anyone else says or thinks about it. Yes, to have guilt put on the child-when the adult is the one who is in the rong, is harder on the child than having been molested. It can only be harder for the child if his/her parents don't spport the cops being called, etc. The child was the victim, not the adult who did this. I wish the child the best. Take care.
2007-02-17 16:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does make it harder for the child, deciding between doing the right thing and destroying a family or not talking. Sadly, with all the new laws about molestation, I am afraid that it will be more common now for many others to encourage the child to keep quiet so as to not destroy entire families, including those who never did anything but will be devastated by this coming out.
As the great majority of molestation cases involve perpetrator and victim knowing each other and families, more and more people will bargain with the victim to keep quiet and they will not be molested any more nor will the offender be given any chances to violate others.
Are the laws there to just punish offenders and make them suffer in a different way than they made their victims suffer? Or should we be trying to change these offenders and help them to not ever re-offend in the future? Don't get me wrong, I want these people to be punished, but I also look at them as human beings just as Jesus did, they are being viewed as the Jews were in Nazi Germany, or the Blacks were in the pre-Civil War south, or as the lepers were in the time of Jesus. They need to be cleansed, not thrown away. The uncle needs to voluntarily go into treatment to get help and to stop molesting anybody else.
2007-02-17 14:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Really, I'm Fine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just as bad as the molestation. The aunt is allowing this to happen and making the child feel like she is doing something wrong.
Of course it makes it harder for the child because she will feel like she is doing something wrong, and she will feel like she can not trust any adults.
Both the uncle and the aunt are committing a crime. The uncle by molesting the child and the aunt by covering it up.
This child could be scarred for life, and it will be both her uncle and aunt's fault, as well as anyone else who knows about this despicable behavior and does not tell the police about it.
2007-02-17 13:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just as bad if not worse. She (aunt) is enabling uncle to keep doing it. She is using guilt on a child too young to know better. He (uncle) should get in trouble. Bad enough it happens to kids but for it to be an uncle, a trusted member of the family, makes it worse. Hopefully the child will get/got some help to work thru the feelings she has regarding the molestation. Good Luck.
2007-02-17 13:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if it will mess her up worse than being molested but it sure wont help! Of course it would make it harder for the child. It is extremly hard for children to disclose that type of info and then when she does she is told to lie?Also it is a lie the child would get in trouble, children dont get in trouble for being victims. The Uncle would go to jail and the Aunt could face charges for failing to protect the child.
2007-02-17 13:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child has been molested twice if the aunt or any adult tells her that. The authorities must be notified because the uncle undoubtedly molests other children! Adults must support the child and be very clear with her that this is NOT her fault and that she has not done anything wrong. (It is very troubling to think there is a pedophile who might be allowed to continue his abuse of other children!!!)
2007-02-17 13:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is by far one of the most horrifing things I've ever heard. Both of them are now guilty of crime. The uncle for molestation and the aunt for accessory after the fact and aiding and abeding a sex crime on a minor. It's all hard on the child becaus enow she thinks she has nobody she can turn to and the added fear of getting in trouble for something she hasn't done wrong. If this a true story and you know this child, please, be her hero and tell someone who can help her.
2007-02-17 14:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by PasoBrio13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it makes it harder on the child because then the child loses all trust in ANYONE. Not to mention being 'abused' a second time by the aunt and her not standing up for the child. The child should find someone like a teacher, friends parents, clergy, someone the child can REALLY trust, and tell. If the child can, just walk up to a policeman/woman and tell THEM.
If you are this this child or know this child, please get help....
(there are 800 numbers in the phone book for abused children to call for help...no matter how old you are...I was abused too...please get some help...you'll be better for it...)
Good luck !!! [[[ ]]]
2007-02-17 13:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that aunt should be charged just as well as the uncle! the child would not be in any trouble at all. that aunt is protecting the uncle maybe he has done this before. the child needs to tell her mother and father-teacher-anyone he/she can trust. go to someone-if this child doesnt get any help -they will have more problems in the future with their own relationships. this is very serous-get help-tell someone.
2007-02-17 14:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by terry t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely worse, because now the child will have conflicting views on whether she has been wronged or not (and she has), and will suffer in silence with more damage from mistrusting TWO adults, or simply not trust anyone again and feel like it was something she did as opposed to being a victim. It's the same as being an accessory to the crime, as the aunt is basically saying that it's OK, and that consequences are to be avoided because they are inconvenient, which is appalling.
2007-02-17 13:51:15 · answer #11 · answered by MJPM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋