My father died at 3:30 pm, and has been sick for a long time. He was only 40 y/o and I don't know why this happened to him. I know it's probably best for him to be through all of the misery, but I can't cope. It's getting worse by the hour for me.
2007-02-17 13:34:31 · 7 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
it will get easier. youll always wonder why. my grandfather died on november and had been sick for only 3 months. it was the hardest thing in my life to date. you feel like crap, and you wish you could change all the things you think will make a difference. when my grandfather died i questioned everything. my life, my family, my friends all of m relationships, including my one with god. i didnt understand why something like that could happen to someone who was so good and didnt deserve it. eventually it gets better. but youll cry a lot. youll think of him everyday. and believe it or not, talking about him helps so much. i know exactly what youre going through, and if you need to talk. feel free to email me. i hope things get better for you soon.
2007-02-17 13:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get worse before it gets better. Try thinking about all the good things about him, celebrate his life and be proud of him, instead of thinking about his death. I know it's a difficult itme for you I am sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 3 years ago, but unlike you, I don't know what took him from us at the age of 50.
Teh grieving process is different for everybody. Something may help one person but not the next. It takes time to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. Try support groups if there are some in your area that deal with bereavement.
I can only assume that your dad had been battling an illness for sometime. Just know that he is no longer in pain, an no one wants family members to suffer. You now have an angel looking over you in heaven.
God Bless you and my prayers are with you and your family during this trying time in your lives.
2007-02-17 13:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by cpool103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am terribly sorry for your loss. It would be a sad, sad world indeed if we could just turn off our emotions when a loved one dies and carry on as if nothing happened. Grief is normal, let yourself go through it, if you don't it will cause you a lot of problems later. Here's the thing, you NEVER, EVER "get over" the death of a loved one, you just learn to live on with it. As painful as it is, go to his funeral, a lot of healing happens there. If it helps, marvel at how lucky you are that of all the people in the world, he was YOUR father. I wish you well!
2007-02-17 13:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your father passing. I lost my dad and being the oldest it is very hard. The first couple of months you cry. Then the hurt has a way of just being there. It is an emptiness but it does get better over time. The memories are what keep things in a brighter prospective. Prayers
2007-02-17 13:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry for your loss. the grieving process can take a long time. time will help. if your father was really sick maybe you can take some comfort knowing that hes not sufferring anymore. support groups sometimes help. theres also places on the internet to help you as well. once again, i am so sorry. my prayers are with you.
2007-02-17 13:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by psst.... its me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please continue to love and treasure your feeling toward your father.
I think have someone to love is just as precious as being loved.
Remember to take break and come out in the real world, breath some fresh air, take care of your life before you find time to go back in again.
I would not encourage you to avoid this mourning, because yours is an instance of love, and love is always sweet in the end.
2007-02-17 13:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tia T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll take time and your grieving will lessen.He is no longer in pain and is with God.Think about your good times with him.He will always be with you in your heart.I lost my dad 50 years ago when I was 15 and I still think about him.Prayer will help lessen the pain of your loss...............God bless you
2007-02-17 13:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋