I recently met a guy and we are just gettin to know each other as friends. But when we go out we pay seperatley. Is that wrong to do that or should the guy pay? WHta about in a relationship? In the past the guy used to pay so I feel a bit offended that he doesn't even offer.
2007-02-17 13:31:41 · 21 answers · asked by fhfgj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is rediculous for a women to pay half of the bill when they go out. I may be from the old school and I agree tha women are equal and have the same or better capabilities than men. If it ever gets to the point where men do not cherish and treat women with a little chivalry, I don't want to play any more.
2007-02-17 13:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat you are in. This guy I have been dating has not been paying for my part either. We started off saying neither of us wanted to be in a relationship. And that was 6 weeks ago... He will from time to time pay for me, but then I will turn around and do the same and pay for him. In today's modern world I don't think it matters so much. If you want him to pay you need to think about why he isn't paying now. Maybe he doesn't have the money or he may be looking for some more definition in your relationship status before he starts paying for everything. Eventually though I think he should pay for most of your dates, assuming that you are dating him and only him.
2007-02-17 13:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Christina F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are just going out as friends the, you both should pay. If it is a real date, the person who does the asking out should pay unless, it would make the man feel like he's less of a man if he lets the woman pay. In that case, he should insist on paying for you both.
2007-02-17 13:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are going out as just friends then it is ridiculous to expect him to pay. If you are dating, it is a little different. Some people feel that the guy should pick up the check when on a date. BUT, I still think this is unfair. Why does the guy need to pick up the check? If both of you have jobs and money, then you should take turns picking up the bill, or just pay seperately.
When my boyfriend and I went out on our first date, I knew he did not have a lot of money. But he took me out to the movies, and payed for it. But when we went out to dinner after, I Offered to pay. He really appreciated it, as most girls just expect the guy to pay everytime.
2007-02-17 13:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dont offer you might have a cheap dude or he just dont got it. If you two are going out as friends he has no obligation to you but if you gave him some he does. He may just look at you as a partner to chill with and not a mate. No one wants to be alone but there are some dudes that are just cheap. If you not giving into him or the relationship just ride it out but if you want more than you need to let him know. He may step up his game. He shouldnt cover you if you not his or on your way. You need to figure out what you want. a chill partner or a mate
2007-02-17 13:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by splash27401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a friend thing you should pay for your bill . If you are in a relationship then that's different . Maybe he doesn't offer cause he doesn't have the money right now .
2007-02-17 13:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in the beginning it would be easier for everyone to go "dutch" because that is more mutual for friendship, however when a person ask someone out. The inviter should be the one who pays. Besides he probably sees you as a woman who is independent and values that.
2007-02-17 13:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by john s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the first dates, the guy should pay. But as a relationship progresses, you should both chip in, unless he's treating you out. But if it's just a friendship, you both pay separately.
2007-02-17 13:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Amber _rose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your just starting it should be 50/50 but if he is a nice guy and a decent one then he should offer to pay. next time he asks you out don't offer to pay half wait to see what he does
2007-02-17 13:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by milf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is asking you out then he should definitely pay, if you are asking him out them you should offer to pay, hopefully he wouldn't let you. But between friends, it is fair for you to each pay for your own meals. But even as friends if he asks, he need to pay. It's just this simple, if he asks you to go out for dinner, ask him if he is buying. Not hard to do, if he says no, then say, well, no I won't go.
2007-02-17 13:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋