I've been talking to a man who happens to be married (divorce will be final on the 12th of March) for the last few months. This morning, his soon-to-be ex-wife called me and asked me why my number was in his phone and on his call list every day. It was about 6:45 am, and I was dead asleep when the phone rang. I didn't look at the called ID because I knew the ringtone was the one I set for him, so I just answered the phone. She asked me if I had sent a picture to him, which I did, and why I was sending it to him. I really didn't know how to respond to it, so I just hung up the phone. She called me back, but this time she didn't say anything. So about a 1/2 hour later, he calls and apologizes and thanks me for not saying anything. I wasn't mad at first, but as the day goes on, the more upset I'm getting. If you were in my shoes, what would you do knowing the divorce is a few weeks away and she'll be out the picture?
2007-02-17 13:26:24 · 10 answers · asked by Nille 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She knows who I am because I've known him all of my life. We grew up together, so it's not like I'm someone who didn't know what I was getting into when I got involved in the situation. And I know he's not lying because I've seen the divorce papers for myself. Not copies or a fax, but the actual papers themselfves.
2007-02-17 13:40:54 · update #1
I never said I heard him in the backgroud saying anything. And she had access to his phone because she was dropping the kids off at his house and she saw the phone on the table and took it to the bathroom to go through it and see who he was talking to on a daily basis.
2007-02-17 13:47:01 · update #2
I have been in your shoes and what you need to do is talk to her. He says that they are divorcing so why does she have his cell at 6 am? If he is lying to you you need to know and so does she you both have that right.
2007-02-17 13:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Desirae B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off, It sounds like they are still somewhat seeing each other. Reason I say that is "why the hell does she have access to his phone in the 1st place, and why at 6am?" If they are getting a divorce, they should be living in different residents, they most likely are getting a divorce for a reason, why do they still talk like that, and obviously he was right in front of her while she called you, because he then called you later and thanked you for not saying anything. Why did he let her call you from his phone? If you ask me, there is still something going on. Why should you be scared to send a pic, or him calling on a daily basis. He should be able to date right? Unless you actually seen papers that he is divorcing her, and you know he is not with her for a fact, which I doubt he is not still with her, then Honey, He's playing you. He's lying to you BIG time. If he wasn't with her, then you would of heard him in the back round telling her to give him his phone. And it wouldn't be that early of her calling you. That's just crazy. If I were you, I would investigate, if you truly wanted to be with him, so that you know ahead of time, what kind of guy you are dealing with. But if you don't want to be with him, then I would say bye, kuz it looks like he is just lying to you. Good luck, and stay strong.
2007-02-17 13:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't want to deal with the hassle of her knowing, of his having to address this with her... This is why he never told her about you in the first place. Honestly, you are also in the wrong here to be having this kind of contact with a married man. I understand he is getting divorced soon, but how can you not expect her to be upset and him to want to minimize the inconvenience for himself? This might even tell you something about his character... Maybe he is the type who prefers to do what is easy instead of what might be the right thing to do or what is right considering your feelings.. One other thing is maybe if his wife knew he was seeing someone this could have an effect on the divorce settlement, though I don't know much about these things...
2007-02-17 13:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jebbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now she is NOT out of the picture! Tell him that if he wants a relationship with you he will have to value you enough to wait until his divorce is final. Emotions run high at a time like this and you were lucky she did not come knocking on your door to confront you. You can avoid, if it is not already too late, serious complications to your life by staying out of this situation. If they have children and you do enter into a serious involvement with him, they will now hear everything negative about you from their mother simply because you prematurely pursued a relationship with this man while he was married to their mother. The only person you have to be angry with is yourself!
2007-02-17 13:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does she care? Women tend to move onto the next best thing he is doing the same. Just pretend that is a crazy woman at the end of the line that has no clue where she is. You can't blame him for divorcing someone like that can you? Well, if I were you and you liked him I'd show him how better you are compared to his ex-wife.
2007-02-17 13:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you sure there is a divorce pending? if so, why did she have his phone and why did he thank you for not saying anything? sounds a little funny to me. i think you need to ask him some questions. starting with, why were they in the same house and her having his phone. i really hope this works out for you. good luck.
2007-02-17 13:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why is she divorcing him? You might not want him after all.
Second...you shouldn't want to have anything to do with him until his divorce is final.
2007-02-17 13:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd call him one last time and say, im sorry but i'll talk to you after she's gone. you should tell him that you need to wait. if he really lieks you than he'll accept that.
2007-02-17 13:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by thecoolguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what goes around comes around
2007-02-17 13:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What?????????whos who?????
2007-02-17 13:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋