He is really getting out of hand. We have tried everything besides Military School. He is headed straight towards boot camp!
2007-02-17 13:24:37 · 28 answers · asked by DaDysGrL 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
My seven year old would sure talk back if I let her. And she does try. I like to be all gushy and I love you type of person. But tough love means being able to find that line between controllling and a softy. Neihter one is a good extreme. When my child is well behaved, she gets alot of freedom and we play games and have fun. HOWEVER, if she ever tries to talk back.. then I cross over the line to the strict side. The point of punishment is that it is uncomfortable for the child. So depending on the child, will say how strict to be. You make the child uncomfortable until they stop and then you immediately release the uncomfort. I like time outs.. but if she won't stay in it, then she needs something more strict, like a toy in the garbage, no t.v. that day, the lose of an outing for that day. Something that THAT CHILD cares about. Something to make that child uncomfortable. The bottom line is that you need to act like a respectful person that shows common curteousy in life. Family are not the people to lash out on, they are the people to embrass. I teach my kids that family sticks together. Family is about repsect and a safe place. That goes both ways. I respect them and they respect me. back talk is just not tolerated. One rude tone of voice. One name calling. One of anything disresepctful is delt with immediately. that is just not acceptable. That is not what family or any human interaction is about.
2007-02-17 13:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First does your 7 year old know what talking back is? Allot of time parents get made punish and scream at there kids and say don't you talk back to me. The kid is so unaware of what talking back is. Sit them down explain what they just did. Remember the exact words they used and tell them. If they don't know what they did wrong they can not change it. You need to set the rules for this and stick to it. Say if you talk back again this will happen take something away or have them write sentience's they hate that. Write a sentience that suites what they did have them write 3 of them if they complain add three more the more they complain the more you add. Do not let them get up from the table tell they are completed. They have to do the best job they can for there age. Let me tell you it works. I do childcare. For 8 years now and let me tell you not one of them talk back to me and I have parents tell me how well there kids are behaving. The kids I watch are all school age. I hope that helps you need to be strong its hard being a parent and setting rules and sticking to them be tough show your child you love them. I hope you don't send your child to Military school you will push your child away forever. Good luck to you.
2007-02-17 21:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Debra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 7 years old... and you are considering boot camp?
I think the two of you need to take parenting classes, and start watching SuperNanny.
Obviously the child rules the roost, OR he picks it up from his buddies. Either way, you need to be the one in control (AND FAST)!
Bucky Covington has his new song out, talking about how things were when we were children, One of the lines talks about getting the belt from daddy when the child misbehaved.
Everybody seems to disfavor this method now, but I am here to tell you that the last thing I wanted when I was growing up was to get the belt from my dad! It is for that plain and simple knowledge that I had, that I did not screw up very much!
I suggest telling him that you are going to wash his mouth out with soap the next time it happens, AND FOLLOW THROUGH with it! Do not leave any room for him to doubt what you tell him.
I got my mouth washed out ONCE by my mother, and I will also tell you it was one of the best things she ever did to and for me!
I think that you need to be the boss and not his "buddy"
2007-02-17 21:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by wi_saint 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When other ppl are constantly telling you want to do all the time, and what you do wrong etc etc. how would you react?
5-10 yr olds are asserting their independence a bit more, and so you end up with a mouthy terror.
although this behavior should NOT be tolerated, i would be willing to bet that he is bothered by something else and really doesn't know how to communicate that feeling to you. frustration sets in and you get the grumpy attidude treatment.
spanking his butt might help teach him not to speak to you that way...but what are you doing afterwards?
are you sending him to his room to allow time for EVERYONE to calm down? are you talking to him in a calm manner after everyone is cooled down a bit to see if there is anything at school that is bugging him. bullies, school work, teachers, etc.
is there something at home that is bugging him?
are there new changes in his life that could disrupt his routine?
adults act out for MANY reasons...children are no different yet we adults don't give them the time and attention to explain or to discover the REAL issue. we just yell, spank and expect our orders to be met without any anger...(yeah right! and do you remember how YOU would react to that at your childs age?) you might not have acted out, but i know everyone THOUGHT about it, or cursed their parents in their head while they were being yelled at.
children do not respect ppl that don't respect them. plain and simple.
2007-02-18 01:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take his TV away or his Game Boy or the computer. If that does not work take them all away. Make him sit in a chair and not move for an half an hour. If he does move make him sit for another half hour and keep doing that until he gets the idea. It might feel like punishment to you, but sooner or later he'll get the idea.Good luck because it is going to be hard because you have let him get away with for a long time.
2007-02-17 21:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you taken away priveleges ? Also, he could be picking up bad habits and ideas from kids at school. I demand respect from mine. They say you better get hold of your kid by the time he's 12, but preferably, by the age of 5 ! I will do whatever it takes...and my boys know it ! This means you may have to separate your children from the bad influences. It may mean you picking them up after school yourself, not letting them play with the bad eggs. It means you better know what your little children are doing. I have changed my schedule, so that I can correct a problem. I had to show my son that I wasn't all talk. Sometimes you gotta' wake 'em up !
2007-02-17 21:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take away privileges, and refuse to acknowledge him when he back talks. Tell him when he can talk to you and his father nicely, you'll talk to him. Time outs can work too. Be consistant. If you give in once, he'll know he can keep it up and get whatever he wants. I use to tell my son when he started that phase, I don't like when you talk to me that way and if you can't talk nicely to me, don't talk to me at all. He disliked not being the center of attention when I ignored his bad behavior. He soon stopped.. Mom to 3 here.
2007-02-17 23:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop buying the kid everything that he ask for. Ignore his talking back and invite him to a quite place and ask him what his problem is. Tell him that you and dad love him. If this does not work then tell him if he continues to talk back he will get a spanking and no t.v. or playing with toys.
2007-02-18 01:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i have a very sweet,wll behaved 6 yr. old who has gotten very fresh with her words also. i think it is the age! set limits, tell him what is ok and not ok and take away things for back talk. praise for good behavior and take away for bad behavior. also their is a good book called understanding your 6-7 yr.old by corrine aves. i got it at amazon.com.i believe all spanking does is teach children that violence is ok. good luck!
2007-02-17 22:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by Stacey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he talks back he should be put in a time out for 7 minutes (a quiet place with nothing to do but sit and think of what he is saying that isn't nice) Use a timer so he can hear when it goes off and he has to apologize also.
2007-02-17 21:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by mmshall 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋