I've been in a relationship for the past five years and the guy refused to get married cause he experienced a bad one already.we shar a child together and everythings just so wonderfull but he insist on not getting married.i want to move on but he is such a wonderfull guy and he had been really good to me but am a christian and cant live like that please help me make that decision am torn and find it really difficult to let go.
2007-02-17 13:13:55 · 8 answers · asked by sexysista 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am going through the same thing, mine is scared to because everyone we know that is married just hates each other and we are scared we will be like that too. Every relationship is different and really what is a piece of paper going to do. If you two love each other and he's a great guy....come on. Would you rather someone that is awful and signs a paper for you? Or someone that cheats? or even beats you?
2007-02-17 13:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself was in a relationship with a man who had been married before, and his marriage ended badly. Because of this, he said he didn't want to get married again. I stayed, hoping that maybe time would "heal old wounds". We wound up having a child together, but after being together off and on for 5 years, I finally gave up and moved on. I prayed for the right guy to enter my life, and sure enough, I haven't been this happy in YEARS. I suggest you talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. He has to take your feelings into consideration, and he has to think about your child together as well. If he says that he doesn't and won't get married, then you are going to have to face the music and either (A) accept it or (B) move on and find someone else.
2007-02-17 21:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by True Hija De Oshun! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know it is hard . I'm pretty sure you have told him this . I hope you have . If you feel like you need to move on with someone else let him know this is what you feel . Tell him you want to lead a straight and narrow path with no bumps in it . Tell him you don't want to force him into marrying you but you have to do right by GOD and yourself . Tell him he needs to pray and ask GOD to help him open his heart . Ask him how can he love you at all when his heart is still hurting from his past . It would be hard to open his heart when it is hard and closed do to his past . GOOD LUCK !!! I will pray for you as well .
2007-02-17 21:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess for a woman to feel a 'closure' she needs to be married. Johnny Depp marries Vanessa Paradiz after having 4 kids together...if your man is faithful and you're the only woman in his life...marriage is just a signature on a piece of paper. give yourself a time frame, if u still want him to marry you. nudge him a little as to how much marriage means to you. if he doesnt want marriage, then you move on.
2007-02-17 21:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by pristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a christian too. it isn't a sin to live with him, don't give him sex. It'll either make him or break him. I know it is rough but you can do it. If he still doesn't want to marry you then he doesn't care enough to be with you.
2007-02-17 21:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
five years. how could you give up on 5 years?
give it a little and talk to him a bit more let him know that you need to live like a christian.
2007-02-17 21:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE CAN'T MARRY YOU AFTER 5 YEARS, YOU NEED TO MOVE ON. HE WILL NEVER MARRY YOU. WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN HAVE THE MILK FOR FREE
2007-02-17 21:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years i think...i dunno i am 19 a friend is waiting 2 years
2007-02-17 21:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋