3 second glares in the hall, exchanging awkward smiles, communicating through facial expressions. it has been happening for about 2 and a half weeks now with this one boy. and we're only a locker away from each other! i like him but what is he telling me? what should i do?
2007-02-17 13:13:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you mean glares or stares? A glare is a hostile form of staring; a stare can mean a lot more, like attraction.
Men have a great fear of rejection and it gets worse in middle and high school, when boys discover girls. When that happens men start to think about being with a woman at least 60% of the time. So there is a strong chance he is attracted to you. The only way to find out is for you to ask him. Make it casual like, "Would you like to study together?" Would you like to catch lunch sometime?" or "Hi, what's your name."
Once you start the conversation then he will probably take it from there. If not then he is either not interested in you (not very likely) or he is too shy. Men like to have a clear signal and don't do the subtle very well normally. If you give him a chance to put a foot in the door then he is likely to want to come in and get to know you better. As the relationship continues then you can send him clear signals on what you want to have happen next.
Another clue, men look at things like their first kiss as more of a goal than as a special event. If you want the event to be special then it is up to you to do that. Pick the time and place where you want it happen and then give him a clear sign; like moving in for a kiss. Or saying something seductive like "I wonder how your lips taste." Yes, it is a little forward, but if you do it quietly and in private then who cares. All you have to do is to set a pattern where you signal the boy when you want to go on in the relationship. That way you can have some control over what happens next. Just make sure that you tell him, "I'm not ready for sex yet, and when I am I'll tell you." That should make him keep 'it' in his pants until you are ready. Sex is very important to men and if you asked do you want to have sex right now, then he will start looking for a closet to do it in. So you have the upper hand in the relationship and can make it progress at the rate that you are comfortable with.
2007-02-17 13:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's to shy to approach you. Do you want to be
the 'ice breaker'? If you do try dropping a book, if he picks it
up for you say thank you then use the time to introduce yourself to him. Hopefully he will respond, and maybe you can become
friends with one another. I tried, What Can I Say? Good Luck...
2007-02-17 21:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the poor guy a break and bust a move. He'll be so relieved and you can get on with getting to know him.
2007-02-17 21:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should slip him a note or go up and tell him if your really bold and don't care what people think of you.
2007-02-17 21:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bury your head in your school books and build yourself a future.
2007-02-17 21:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk with him, whats the hurt? ask him if he lives near you or ask him basic questions, maybe he likes you
2007-02-17 21:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a move. he obviously likes you. talk to him, flirt, show a little skin. make him sweat. ask him out and show that you have nerve.
2007-02-17 21:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋