set up your partner! i got a spare sim card which my partner didn't know about and i set them up by pretending to be their ex! i sent a valentines message and they replied to my suprise as they said they where over said ex! i continued pretending to be said ex! nothing more has been replied! am i in the wrong or should i confront them for lying to me and say HA! i set u up loser now what u got to say for yourself!!
2007-02-17
13:06:28
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yeah but he replied to it!!! i wasn't expecting that to be honest!!!
2007-02-17
13:11:30 ·
update #1
ive been with him for 5 years now and maureen p he aint ine of the hot guys he is an average joe to be perfectly honest - if anything im the cocky loud mouth one and he is the shy wall flower! we are opposited but thats what attracted us in the first place! my point is do i ask him about his responce as he promised me that his ex had not been in touch with him! (even tho it was really me) and he has said no but he replied to me thinking it was her!!!! do i confront him and tell him i know he is a liar!!
2007-02-17
13:27:11 ·
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what makes knowing im being llied to makes me psychotic!!! i dont get that! maybe im just standing up for women around the world who are being lied to on a daily basis and getting my own back!!! get a life yourself lady (to the one who said i was psychotic!) would you like to be lied to???? i dont think so!!
2007-02-17
13:38:36 ·
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the problem comes from the fact that i have asked him to be honest with me! if he did that i could handle it!!! the fact is he is lying to me so i decided to test his honesty and he has failed! so do i confront him or not!!!
2007-02-17
14:05:06 ·
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Now why would you do that?
2007-02-17 13:08:39
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answered by rose_merrick 7
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I have to say it is wrong even though you caught him doing something he shouldn't have. Had you been wrong you would feel really stupid right now and you would risk damaging a relationship by your trust issues. I do think you should end the relationship due to his lieing and going behind your back. If you do, be mature about it. You know he did wrong but you should be the bigger person. Before you get involved in any other relationships, you need to work on your trust issues. Also think about what the qualities in a guy you've been looking for in the past and see what ones are really important to you and what ones are really not. Most young girls tend to go for the 'hot guys' who end up being total jerks and unfaithful. I'm not saying to try going out with guys who you are not remotely attracted to but to give other guys a chance who may not necessarily be the ideal guy when it comes to looks. Don't confuse confidence for cockiness.
2007-02-17 13:19:01
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answered by Maureen B 4
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I know that he lied to you about the fact that his ex hasn't been in contact. But maybe he didn't want to let you know that she had been in touch because he thought that it would upset you.
Also he hasn't really done anything wrong, if he had replied and said that he wanted to met up with his ex because he still liked her, then you would have a reason to be angry. However he didn't so and i know that this will be hard, but I think that you should forget about it. Don't confront him because what will he think about you and the fact that you set him up. You will come off looking worse. Just be happy that he obviously loves you and that he doesn't want to be with his ex.
2007-02-18 01:02:44
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answered by Baps . 7
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It all depends what he said in the reply. If it was encouraging meeting ir something then its out-of-line. But as he hasn't replied since has he really failed the 'test'?? If he wanted anything more to do with her he would have taken the opportunity to re-kindle things... which he hasn't.
If anything he's passed the test with flying colours!
The fact that he's lied about 'her' contacting him shows nothing. Its one of those things where it would do more harm than good to tell the truth. If he's ended all contact with her in a grown-up way by not just ignoring her, he's effectively said
"Yes i've got your text, but I dont want anyting more to do with you from now on".
Looks like your desperate to trip this guy up and please dont preach all the sister-hood **** about looking out for all the wrong other women have been through! Such a damn kop-out!
I've always said - 'he who worries excessively about cheating, has cheating on his mind... ' Maybe you're not whiter than white?
2007-02-17 21:50:15
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answered by Ross J 2
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If it means that much to you, you could confront. If he loves you, maybe he hasn't said for some odd reason.
Not excusing his lying, but the way you found out is not exactly nice either, he will probably tell you that.
He may walk out on you and not return.
On the other hand, it doesn't sound like a good situation to stay in. Once someone lies, it is hard to trust them again.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-17 19:41:39
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answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7
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You are resorting to games and what you have done is really bizarre. Grow up, confess what you did with the sim cards, and get help for your psychotic insecurities.
Regardless of him speaking to a former lover that was you all along, I'd never speak to you again for being a manipulative nut job. Get a life.
2007-02-17 13:31:55
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answered by wwhrd 7
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He told who he thought was his ex that he was over her!! What is wrong with that??? you lied to him by pretending you were his ex - if i was him i would go into hiding to get away from this kind of psychotic behaviour
You obviously have issues a) you dont see anything wrong with trying to trick the love of your life and b) he has the good grace to say he is over her and not reply to any other messages.
HE HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG!!! GET A GRIP AND ENJOY YOUR RELATIONSHIP OTHERWISE YOU WILL LOOSE HIM AND YOU WILL ONLY HAVE YOUR SELF TO BLAME.
2007-02-18 00:39:24
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answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6
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no entirely it would be the sort of thing that i would do if you want to continue going out with him then just forget it. If he didn't flirt back and he only replied. I'm over my ex but if he texts me i still text him back so he isn't really lying that he is over her
2007-02-17 13:16:26
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answered by gaulde 4
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Your partner sounds like a decent and polite person. I can't understand where the deception is. He told you he has finished with Ex. He confirmed with Ex he has finished with Ex. It strikes me you have masochistic tendencies and are trying to hurt yourself. Enjoy the life you have and stop concocting problems which don't exist.
2007-02-17 14:01:23
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answered by Tony A 6
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It doesn't matter if he did or did not answer the text. The real issue it's if you can't trust him, why are you with him? A relationship that doesn't have trust and respect for foundation it's not going to be a happy one.
2007-02-23 17:43:36
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answered by Helen3879 2
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big deal, he spoke to what he though t was his x, would you not talk to your x if he text you ? why do people play silly games taht inevitably get people hurt, todays folks just play games all the time, you will come a cropper on this I think. good luck in y9our sneekyness hunny
2007-02-18 17:28:57
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answered by Anonymous
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