A guy friend is wanting to become more than friends with me, to put it delicately. I nor him are ready for a real relationship (bf or gf) and we are both single. Has anyone had a positive or negative experience with this type of situation?
2007-02-17 13:01:17 · 21 answers · asked by ohimmabeliever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-17 13:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright here some advice on 'friends with benefits" It's a bad idea, but in a society in which the primal need for sex is understood if you and a friend can come to the mutal agreement to have casual sex and not be in a genuine relationship. It's going to be a roller coaster of experimental sex because it doesn't have emotional attatchment. However it will cheapen other sexual experiences grately when you don't spend the time and find some body that you click with on more levels than just sex. Even if it's not true love, emotional connection does increase the overall satisfaction of sexual experience.
2007-02-17 13:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Solace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The risk are, if the sex is really good and you develpoe more feelings for him than you think you might get hurt. And friends with benefits is really just asking permission to use and be used. Also, if someone does come along that you could see yourself in a relationship with, you are going to be tied up with this person and not readily available. Another thing, what is the person whom you could see yourself with hers that you were sleeping around with this guy and loses respect for you. Just in general not a good thing. Invest in sex toys, they never say a word to anyone ever.
2007-02-17 13:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from personal experiece i had a friends with benefits relationship with 2 guys. One went down the drain and the other is my best friend. Basically i was best friends with both of them and after i told both of them it wasn't right to do that anymore then the other hit the road and the one said that he still wanted to be friends. Never kissed or touched since!
2007-02-17 13:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had friends do that, and usually one or the other develop feelings for the other and they wind up getting hurt. I would not recommend it. I would just stay friends as friends only basis, not friends with benefits. One usually winds up getting jealous of the other even when he intentions were not to in the beginning.
Better safe than sorry. Why ruin a good friendship.
2007-02-17 13:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with benefits will probably just cause problems in the long run. If neither one of you are ready for a relationship then whats wrong with just being friends?
2007-02-17 13:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice . . DON'T DO IT!! I am in this situation at the moment. We both like each other alot but he is not able "to give me more" at the moment. It is VERY soul destroying . . even though the sex is amazing. But have decieded not to do it anymore, until the time that he is able to give me more than just sex . . and that day may never come. SO for the time being we will be friends "without benefits".
2007-02-17 13:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is wonderful, in theory....
my ex and i were going to be friends only, or maybe friends w/ benefits when we broke up last summer.
well to make a long story short. we ended up resuming the relationship, kinda. and went back to the 'old' ways.
it only lasted 6 more months. and now we don't even talk. so unless you want him or need him for just booty, forget about it. it will not work.
if emotions are involved, and with us (women) they are, then you are just setting your self up for a good kick in the teeth.
be smart!!
2007-02-17 13:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me but one of you could get attached to the other while the other person only thinks 'friends with benefits'.
2007-02-17 13:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not ready for a 'real relationship' what makes you think you can handle being friends with benefits? theres alot of **** that comes with that type of relationship. trust me, i've been there.
2007-02-17 13:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by amanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fall in love & he doesn't feel the same. Most women cannot just have sex with a man w/o feeling something for him. It is risky & I do not recommend it. Your heart will get broken if you care anything at all for this man.
2007-02-17 13:07:06 · answer #11 · answered by copgrl1406 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋